The moment a person hurts me
I forgive
The moment a person uses me
I forgive
The moment a person judges me
I forgive
The moment a person breaks my heart
I forgive
The moment a person disappoint me
I forgive
The moment the person betrays me
I forgive
The moment that a person makes me
Feel anything else besides positive
I forgive
If a person does these things to me
I develop an understanding
Rather what was done to me was done
Purposely or not
I choose to forgive
The moment that I forgive my peace
Begins and my pain ends
Forgiveness is a process
Don’t know if it can ever be perfected
It’s hard to forget
About a messed up situation
Especially when most of the time
The biggest test of forgiveness
Is forgiving a person who caused pain
That came from a person whom
Was trusted the most
Betrayal rarely comes from a stranger
Forgiveness isn’t holding on to grudges
It’s letting go of them
Besides the person doesn’t know or care
About the trouble that they caused
We all need a lesson
It’s a two way street
We all at one point has hurt someone
Purposely or unintentionally
All we can do is ask for forgiveness
You can’t push it
If we do
That means we are only thinking of ourselves
We want to be free of guilt
When we do wrong we must deal with
It and respect a person’s space
Closure may mean losing a person without a trace
Just be thankful for God’s grace
Many times that has to be enough
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Check Out the Lyrics
As we all know music is powerful. The other day a person that I follow on YouTube made some interesting points about the song No Pain No Gain by Betty Wright. People of my generation grew up listening to that song. In my opinion the song can be looked at from two different ways obviously. The song no pain no gain was a popular song. Anyway the person on YouTube felt that the song had an negative effect on women. Basically the song encourages women to take bull crap from men. I have to admit that she has a point.
I have decided to share lyrics from songs on my blog to check the meaning. Here are the lyrics to No Pain No Gain by Betty Wright. Are the lyrics uplifting or do they keep women in bad relationships? Isn’t love about give and take? When is enough a enough in a relationship? There will be ups and downs in every relationship. Hmmmm.
“No Pain, No Gain”
Ooh…ooh…ooh…
My baby and are back together again
Lovin’ is better than it’s ever been
If it weren’t for the trials we’ve been through
I’d never have the courage to come back to you
We’re all entitled to make a mistake
We got to prepare for some heartbreak
I as earnin’ my man, while I was learnin’ my man
Something you young girls might not understand
No pain (No pain), no pain (No pain)
No gain (No gain), no
No pain (No pain), no pain (No pain)
No gain (No gain)
There was an old lady sittin’ under a tree
She called me over and she said to me
“My days left here may not be long
I wouldn’t waste my time tellin’ you nothin’ wrong
But love is a flower that needs the sun and the rain
A little bit of pleasure’s worth a whole lot of pain
If you learn this secret, how to forgive
A longer and better life you’ll live’
No pain (No pain), no pain (No pain)
No gain (No gain), mmm
No pain (No pain), no pain (No pain)
No gain (No gain)
Anything worth havin’ at all
Is worth workin’ for and waitin’ for
Some of my closest friends
Have thought they had their thing on a string
Just ’cause that man was bringin’ ’em flowers and candy and all kinds of gifts
Mmm, mmm, honey
Some gifts are just to make him feel better while he’s on his guilt trip
About the night before
You know what I mean
Especially when you know you haven’t been doin’ the things you should do
Think about it
What is the man tryin’ to tell you
Sometimes flowers mean “Maybe we should just be friends’
Do you get my drift
Hang if you can hang
No pain, no gain
In order to get something
You got to give something
In order to be something
You got to go through something
Be a cook in the kitchen, a lady in the streets
You can’t show your teeth to every guy you meet
It’s alright to be a little sweet
But be a mama with the kids and you know what in the sheets
No pain (No pain)
No pain (No pain)
No gain (No gain)
See, you can’t give up ’cause times get hard
It’s just that old evil devil trying to keep us apart
Say devil you ain’t getting nothin’ here
I’m holding on to my man and have no fear
No pain (No pain), no pain (No pain)
No gain (No gain), oh
No pain (No pain), no pain (No pain)
No gain (No gain)
See you can’t give up ’cause times get hard
It’s just that old devil tryin’ keep us apart
Say devil, you ain’t got nothin’ here
I’m holdin’ to my man, and have no fear
No pain (No pain), no pain (No pain)
No gain (No gain)
No-no pain (No pain), no pain (No pain)
No gain (No gain)
Oh, no pain (No pain), no pain (No pain)
No gain (No gain)
No-no-no-no pain (No pain, no pain), no-no-no-no-no-no-no pain (No gain)
No-no pain, no-no pain (No pain), no-no pain (No pain), no pain (No gain), no pain
No pain (No pain, no pain, no gain)
In order to get something (No pain), give something (No pain)
To be something (No gain) you got to go through something
(No pain, no pain, no gain)
Oh…no pain (No pain), no pain (No pain)
No gain (No gain)
No-no-no-no-no-no-no-no-no-no-no-no-no-no (No pain)
No-no-no-no (No pain, no gain)
No…no pain (No pain), no pain (No pain)
No gain (No gain)
You’re really not to gain anything (No pain, no pain)
Without (No gain) goin’ through some pain
No-no-no-no-no-no-no-no-no-no-no-no-no-no
No pain (No pain), no pain (No pain)
No-no (No gain)
(No pain, no pain, no gain)
No pain (No pain), no pain (No pain)
No pain (No gain), no gain, no pain, no gain
Get something (No pain, no pain)
You got to go through something (No gain)
No pain (No pain), no pain (No pain)
No gain (No gain)
Hear me when I say no pain, no gain (No pain), no pain, no gain (No pain)
No pain, no gain (No gain)
The One
Being single isn’t always a bad thing
We have to be single
In order to have the one
Whom God has for us
An Ephesians husband
A Proverbs 31 wife
While we wait it gives God time
To heal us
To repair us
To prepare us
When God made Adam
He thought to Himself
That a man shouldn’t be alone
So God took one of Adam’s ribs
Not a slab
We have one heart
To love our one true love
That God has for us
Like a test with one blank to fill in
The right one will be the answer
There’s no room for multiple choice
God is not of confusion
The one that God has for us
Is one who we can
Pray to God with
Worship to God with
Helps us to grow closer to
God together
Every conversation is praising God
The one sent by God understands
That God is to be number one
In their lives
In their relationships
In their marriage
It’s essential to be paired with a person
Who is mission-minded
With the same eternal goals
That will keep them in love forever
As we grow on our walk with Christ we
Realize that the past disappointments
Taught us that true love transcends
Beyond temperamental
Experiences and memories
Through our quest to find love we learn
God knows who’s the right one
Even though at times we
May think that we do
God has the right one
All we have to do
Is continue to remain
Patient in the Lord
God wants to send the right one
So we won’t spend our lives searching
But spend it with the one we love
We Are Not Same
Everyone is distinctive
In his or her own way
We are not the same
This is something that should be taught
To every child on their first school day
Each one of us
Have our own fingerprints and DNA
Black people come in different shades
White people have different
Hair and eye color
Asian people have Chinese, Japanese
Filipino, Pakistani, and Korean
Can you see where I am going with this
These things helps us to stand up
And stand out
From one another
We are not the same
Every woman can wear a size 8
And will still be different shapes
Some people are tall
Some people are short
Take the time to embrace
What makes people different
Do it as a way to appreciate it
And not as a way to copy it
To copy is to compete
You will forget why you are unique
You never want to lose yourself
Because you may never
Find yourself ever again
Being a person who follow trends
Regardless of a person
Trying to be the same
Least common factors
Will always remain
Apply this analogy to snowflakes
In your mind allow it to resonate
When we realize that being different
Is actually us being ourselves
It’s a blessing like nothing else
Differences help to make
This world beautiful
If everything were the same
We would not have things like the
Rainbow it requires
Various colors to make it complete
Even roses come in different colors
One life touches another
Different life stories with many pages
That are to encourage and inspire
It’s how God gets His glory
We must be the person
Who God called us to be
We are not the same
That will never change
And you know what
It’s okay
Forever Young
Anyone can make a change
Anyone can be use by God
Regardless of their age
Just ask Moses, Abraham or David
So you’re not a Christian
Okay Rosa Parks wasn’t a teenager
When she refused to give up her bus seat
Joyce Meyers was in her 30’s
When she received her calling
Vera Wang was 40
Julia Child published her book at 50
I could go on and on
Tune out the negative noise
God doesn’t stop using us
Because of our ages
Retirement is man made
God has no limits
As to how and when
He choose to use us
We just have to keep a head’s up
For when God will be calling
On us to do His work
Missing You Always
Some days are harder than others
Birthdays, holidays, a child’s birth
Wondering how it would be
If you were here with us
I really wish that you
Were on Earth
February 2nd is your birthday
February 3rd 1997 is the day and year
That you left from here
So many things have taken place
Both good and bad
No matter what
I miss seeing your face
It’s 2017
20 years have gone by
Even now I still cry
Memories help me to keep going
Like the circus blizzard of March 1980
5 months pregnant
Walking in the snow to
Come to get me off of the school bus
Millions of reasons why you have
And will always will be my hero
Hoping and praying that I am able
To be at least a fraction of
A person that you were
I miss you
Not just on Mother’s Day
Not just on Thanksgiving Day
Not just on Christmas Day
But every single day
There will always be
A huge hole in my heart
A band aid nor a first aid kit
Can fix the damage
It’s still hard to manage
Jesus has been my fence
Helping me with the healing
I feel so blue
Everyday that I live
I miss you mom
You instilled in me
So many things
That are very helpful
Right to this very day
Which have been blessings
I won’t deny my feelings
I am human
I don’t know every answer
I don’t always understand
All I know is everything
Works as part of God’s plan
Including those He chooses
To call home to Heaven
I continue to trust Him
Grateful for the time
We did spend
Thankful that you raised me
To know God Almighty
Because of that I believe and know
That I will see you again
Mom I miss you and I love you
Matthew 5:4
Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.
Being A Great Dad
Growing up in a broken home
Taught me that parenting
Should not be done alone
Indeed we have our heavenly Father
He also gives us rules to follow
That we all should honor
A mother is to nurture her children
Instill compassion in her children
Teach them brilliant cooking skills
A mother plants amazing feelings
Into her children so that they take root
A father gives his children advice
Teaches his children how to ride a bike
Teaches his children how to drive
How a man treats a lady
He leads by example
He’s his children protector whether
Or not he and the mother are together
A mother’s and a father’s love for
Their children should always be equal
Too many are trying to minimize
A father’s unique contributions
As if it means nothing at all
These kinds of attitudes are part
Of the black community’s problem
I know men who are good fathers
Who have had the worse life experiences
I’m talking horrendous
Yet they don’t use them as crutches
Are there petty mothers
Who for no good reasons stops
The children’s fathers from having
A relationship with their kids
Yes and those situations I don’t accept
But let’s be honest those kinds of
Situations are rare
How about the fathers who makes
The choice to neglect
Having a relationship with their children
Those kind of fathers
Don’t deserve any respect
Once a person becomes a parent
A mission must be made to make sure
That their children have
The absolute best
A parent’s love should always be felt
Even when they aren’t present
Children should never ever feel
As if they never received enough love
There’s nothing that hurts worse
Then to feel rejected by
Your very own parent
Why should a child have to learn
How to become immune to hurt
It’s the same old tune
We are living in a society
With people who are self absorbed
Classic narcissistic behavior
Some of these fathers who aren’t good
Align themselves with
A bunch of yes men
Ones who agree with everything
Whether they are right or wrong
Bobble heads who are afraid
To stand up or challenge
Newsflash they are not true friends
Sick of some of these dead beat
Fathers crying about children support
When you didn’t do right on your own
So mothers had to turn
To the government for assistance
It’s your fault that you fathers
Have to pay it
Some of your fathers words
Ain’t worth nothing
Never consistent
No wonder why you have bad credit
Constantly trying to make
A mother feel bad for asking for help
Dude we didn’t make these
Children by ourselves
If you can’t be a good father
Do us all a favor
And get yourself fixed
So over these good for nothing fathers
Who’s always coming up with excuses
Like a student sitting in
The principal’s office
Offering a reason for skipping
How about this don’t just be a father
Be a dad
That’s called being a man
A sign of great parenting
Is not having children
Who becomes estranged from you
The moment they reach 18
All behind past things that happened
In which they are still hurting
Having a blessed relationship
With our children until we are old
Should be every parent’s
Ultimate goal
We Are Beautiful
Recently everywhere I turn
I see men of different races
Including my very own
Making it seem like
Black women are the least desirable
Men like Chris Rock and
Steve Harvey speaking about
The kinds of men who love us
I can’t take it anymore
Our black is beautiful
Every day many of us struggle
With situations that
We should not have to endure alone
We are mothers
Who are also filling in as
The role of father
This situation has gotten old
The worse part is when we
Are made to feel like
We are somehow responsible
For receiving the hurt
That we don’t deserve
It’s so absurd
One of the stupidest things
That I have ever heard
There’s a 72% percentage
Of absentee fathers
Look at the numbers
These men choose
To not be bothered
It doesn’t take a math whiz
Or a rocket scientist
Last time I checked
It takes a man and a woman
To make a baby
Is there any other ways
I’ll wait
Lord knows that I am a Christian
I always turn the other cheek constantly
Most black women are forgiving
About the situations that helps
Many of us to feel incomplete
Dealing with things like certain men
Who are filled with deceit that cheat
Lacking the understanding as to
Why some men would rather mistreat
Good women in a heartbeat
As if it would kill them to
Commit faithfully
In spite of black women circumstances
Defeat is not a part of our vocabulary
We always push ourselves hard
Like a star athlete
There’s a lot more to us
Than what people think
I’m telling you right now
On us don’t sleep
We are constantly striving and evolving
Every word that I speak
Is concrete
I can produce receipts
Say what you want about me
Turn up the heat
I will not surrender or retreat
Can’t continue to listen
To all of the bull
Like how some of the wounds
Of black women
Are self-inflicted
I just don’t understand it
I do know that black women
Are over being taken for granted
As well as being blamed for this
Got me like
Alanis Morrissette
Isn’t it ironic
Don’t you think
Some black men
Speak of wanting black women
To hold them down
When they have nothing
Yet when some of them get on
Their feet
They treat their women and
Very own children
Like pot holes in a street
Then have the nerve
To question why we are angry
Really?
Please
Spare me
After awhile all of this becomes
So annoying
Some of you have no concept
Of loyalty
As long as black women
Are going along with the program
Everything is hunky-dory
However once we wake up
And stand up things are
A different story
Oh and don’t get me
Talking about the subject of dating
Black men was the first to
Put cream in their coffee
This is after slavery
At least that’s what mother
Used to tell me
May her beautiful soul
Rest in peace
If black women
Date outside of their race
Immediately we are accused
Of self-hate
In addition making it seem
As if men of other races
See us as mere fetishes
Like we are nothing
More than sex objects
I’m so sick of the disrespect
When will you guys open your eyes
And realize that
When our community is hurting
No one benefits
And no wins
Because we all suffer in the end
Things comes back in a full spin
I won’t stop talking about this
It’s a promise
Like Mc Hammer
I’m too legit to quit
Refusing to conform
To what seems to be the norm
Because it’s awful
Black women we deserve love
Beyond measure
We are a treasure
Keep in mind that love has no color
This mindset opens up our options more
Always remember this number
One thing and that is our value
Is not found in negative
People’s words
Black women are powerful
Even when we stand alone
We are so strong
Black women we are beautiful
It’s Up To Us
I’m not pointing fingers
But we must admit
That the black community is damaged
No one wants to talk about it
No one wants to face
What is happening
No one wants to get serious
About their life choices
The ones that actually has
Major consequences
That unfortunately once done
We can’t change or fix
People want to program their minds
To see their lives
As a happily ever after
A fairy tale
But no one wants to discuss
How certain choices can bring
Us back to reality have us
Sounding like a nursery rhyme
Old woman in the shoe
Had so many children
That she didn’t know what to do
Messing with the wrong men
Will have your life like a soap opera
All my children
And you are Not Erica
Having multiple babies out of wedlock
Losing value on the dating market
As if the arrow is pointing downward
On Down Jones
Ladies don’t waste unnecessary time
Ask the man who you feel
Maybe your potential mate
What are his goals and dreams
If he wants to get married
He will tell you
Don’t let having multiple children
And him not marrying you
To be a life lesson
It won’t be only you who will suffer
The children will too
Don’t be a fool
Don’t continue to hold on
Respect his decision
Move on life is short
Even though every single black mother’s
Situations are unique
Even though all single black mothers
Are not irresponsible
It doesn’t matter to
The people of the world
It’s time to wake up
Poverty, despair, and hopelessness
Are parts of nightmares
And should not be identified as
Being apart of African American culture
We have got to do better
We have to not feed into the negative
Stereotypes and generalizations
That some of us choose to embrace
It’s a big mistake
It’s up to us what we choose
What we answer to or who we allow
Ourselves to get attached to
Allowing negativity to turn inward
Single black mothers are not used goods
Not all of us are from the hood
Not all of us are ghetto
Those are words of the devil
We know that he is the biggest liar
Of them all
One of the greatest titles
That a woman can possess
Is being called mother
The greatest words that a parent
Can hear is their children
Tell them that they love you
We want our children to have
A better life than what we had
That requires having a stable home
Which consist of a mom and a dad
A happy homes goes beyond a fad
It never goes out of style
We don’t want to be responsible
For our children walking around
With a hole in their hearts
Remember they are suppose
To experience love first
From ma and pops
It’s time to break the curse
It’s time to stop making excuses
Because they are useless
The Black community
Needs to get it together
The broken home situation
Is very urgent
A Letter To My Boaz
The Book of Ruth has been a blessing in my life. It made me want to be the best wife that I could be when God feels that I am ready. I want to live according to His will. On my journey, things will come along as a distraction to get me to miss my blessings. To me, the most significant sign of maturity of a person’s walk is admitting to their faults and learning from them. When I got married ,God wasn’t in it, a marriage cannot survive without God being the foundation. God wasn’t in it but who knows what God can do. Everyone wants marriage but not the responsibilities that come with it.
Another thing this doesn’t apply to me but a good man wants a good woman of good quality. It’s not a good thing to be posting distasteful photos on the internet remember:

Back on topic, I learned that sometimes gaining something you may have to lose something. I also learned that if you have a relationship with Christ, there will be less tough lessons to learn because you will be in tune with His voice. Christ is hope with Him in our lives; we will always make the right choice.
To my future Boaz:
I want to thank God
For making you just for me
A faith, loyal, praying
Man of God
Even though we both have
Encountered tough times
God allowed us to survive
We learned what we wanted
Wasn’t what we needed
That when God isn’t in our lives
There’s more of a chance of
Us not doing what’s right
You need to know that I value you
Already without even meeting you
Yet
I respect you
My Boaz with Ephesians five standards
I trust your leadership
Because I trust God first
I want to pray with you
Read the Bible with you
Worship and fellowship
With you
If you have children
They are included too
Understand that there is no we or us
If everything or everyone that we love
Isn’t involved
I want to be a problem solver
Not a trouble maker
I want to ease your pain
And not cause it
I don’t care about material things
They come and go
Besides the Bible says that when
A man finds a wife he finds a good
Thing and will receive favor from
The Lord
So until the day, we come together
I want you to know that
I am working on being awesome for
God and you
I want you to be my Boaz
And I want to be your Ruth
I love the Book of Ruth
Ruth 2:4 And, behold, Boaz came from Bethlehem, and said unto the reapers, The Lord be with you. And they answered him, The Lord bless thee.thee.6