Love With An Open Heart

Past relationships and experiences
Dictate how we interact
In future relationships
Causing us to armor up
To put our guards up
Which still allow
Past disappointments
To continue to take
Centerstage
We then
Come up with reasons
For our actions
Dress them up
By giving them different names
Whether it’s referred to
As a protective layer
Or a wall used to
Keep us from feeling
Vulnerable
Which in actuality
Keeps us from
Something that could
Potentially be special
Love requires the giving
Of oneself
Compromise and
Vulnerability
How Else will we be
Able to recognize
True love’s credibility
Then we can enjoy stability
Be set free
From past relationships
That was ugly
It’s important
For the heart to feel love
Feeling and loving is the only way
That the heart knows
Love is grounded
It accepts the imperfections
Of the person that
We love
Working through
Bad times while
Enjoying the good
Love is honesty
It gives people
The opportunity
To be themselves completely
Love is a journey
That should always
Be allowed to continue
It’s the only way
For the one that
Is for us
To find us
Life should not
Be about only surviving
Heartbreak
From past mistakes
Or merely existing
But thriving in happiness
And enjoying life
Now that’s living

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A Personality Like Mine

I have to say that I am pretty proud of my personality. Some of the words that I would use to describe my personality are calm, balanced, compassionate, creative, loving, etc. My personality is more conscientiousness even though I feel that it can’t be narrowed down to one label. As much as I enjoy my personality, I am aware of my weaknesses or negative parts of it. However, with me knowing about the negative parts of my personality that can help me to work on what I need to.

Here is a little bit about my background; this will help to get a better understanding of my personality. I am the oldest of four girls. All of my life, I have had an enormous amount of responsibilities to handle it never bothered me. I am thinking because of my personality; my mother felt that I was capable of handling doing every task assigned. Examples of my jobs come home from school do my homework, walk to go pick up my sisters up from school, cook dinner, and wash clothes. I have a dominant personality; yet not overbearing. I do not allow myself to be a pushover and I did not give in to peer pressure.

As a teenager, I was very mature. At one point, while growing up, the teen pregnancy was high. It seemed like everywhere that I turned someone that I knew was pregnant. In my family, some relatives were having babies early as well. My first child was born when I was in my late twenties. There is a lot of peer pressure for teens sex, drugs, and drinking, to name a few rights to this very day. Teenagers have it hard going through puberty and then having to try to fit in.  Some people give in to peer pressure, especially teenagers they are not very strong-minded. I have a best friend she is like the life of the party everywhere that she goes. The mindset that she has is” you only live once” she does whatever makes her feel good. There is nothing wrong with having a mindset like my friend’s but that is not right for me to each their own.

Social class to me is like high school mentality to me; it’s all about being accepted socially by a particular group. Example, a poor person, cannot get in a country club unless they have a rich person that belongs to the club. The poor person can get connections through their rich friend. It’s all about the secret handshake, and I want no parts of that. Peers are the same way no matter the location I don’t care if a high school is in an affluent neighborhood, middle-class neighborhood, or lower class neighborhood there will be certain groups that only accept a certain kind of people. It sucks royally. The groups of people that are in every high school are the popular kids, the smart kids, the sporty kids, the troublesome kids aka bullies and the odd kids no matter how much time passes it’s always the same. The social class and peers have the least influence on my personality.

I was brought up in a Christian household; the way that I live my life is according to the Bible. I live for God and not for the acceptance of man. The Bible says “that we cannot serve two masters” Human beings are fair weathered one day they like you and one day they hate you. When I take a look around at society, there is no structure; nothing is stable based on the mindset. People do whatever they want without regards, whether it can affect someone else. It’s like they have a sense of entitlement. My Christian values influence my personality tremendously; I treat people like the way I would like to be treated. I want to be a bright light in a sometimes very negative dark world. I think about the consequences of my actions before making a move. The personality factors that apply to me the most are family, culture, and genetic determinants. I have explained how family and culture influence my personality. I also believe that genes are a factor as well; I get a lot of who I am from my mother she and I were always very close. The relationship between my mother and I was so great because our personalities were a lot alike. My mother and I looked very much alike, as well.

One personality factor aspect that doesn’t explain my personality entirely is environmental determinants. The personality that I have is not affected by the environment around me. I can be in a negative situation and will remain positive as well as upbeat. My belief is if the environment negatively affects people, then change it. I cannot think of a time when the environment made my personality change, especially not in a negative way.

I want to gain a better understanding of my personality because I want to be the best me that I can be. Right now, I am taking forensic psychology, but I would like to receive a master’s degree in counseling. My calling is to prepare couples for marriage and counseling during the marriage. The advice that I am going to do will be Christian based of course; however, even with that being said, a specific type of personality is required. In my opinion, there is a lot about my personality that prepares me for my career. A counselor has to be tolerant, supportive, empathetic, patient, and intuitive to name a few things.

Valentine’s Day and Black History Month

First off, Happy Happy Happy Valentine’s Day to all! I hope and pray that you will be spending today and beyond with your special someone. Enjoy this wonderful day.

When we think of February, three things comes to mind Black History Month, Valentine’s Day, and that it’s the shortest month of the year.

Valentine’s Day is when people buy gifts like cards, flowers, chocolates, and jewelry, etc.

Black History Month recognizes well and little known facts about African Americans of the past and present.

Valentine’s Day and Black History Month can both enjoy their recognition. Valentine’s Day popularity is right up there with Christmas because it’s the day that people express their love through gifts for their significant others. There are several blacks owned businesses that can help to make Valentine’s Day memorable during one of the most critical months of the year.

A very popular gift that people get on Valentine’s Day is chocolates. It is estimated that a whopping 19.6 billion dollars will be spent on chocolates alone. Phillip Ashley Rix is the founder of Phillip Ashley Chocolates. Phillip Ashley Chocolates has a clientele of celebrities such as the incomparable singer Stevie Wonder. These chocolates will win anyone over with the visually gorgeous, bold colors, and unique shapes which are unlike any others.
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Feeling like you and your loved one would enjoy a playful glass of wine? Check out Brown Downtown Napa it’s the first and only black-owned winery in the state of California. It’s one of five black-owned wineries that are located in the United States.
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Perhaps your special lady would enjoy some colorful flowers with an artful setting that will leave an lasting impression? Check out Hibiscus Flowershop located in New York they even make fudge. How cool is that?
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How about seeing your lady in something sexy? Aimanosi Lingerie will have your lady looking sexy while being affordable.
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Want your lady to know how you feel, but you can’t find the right words? Trust African-American Expressions to find the perfect words for you. They even have a collection by my favorite poet Maya Angelou.
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Fellas I haven’t forgotten about you Talley & Twine Watches have beautifully designed one of a kind watches that will show you just how your lady feels about you.
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February may be the shortest month, but it has two events that can leave lasting memories that people could never forget.

A Love Like Theirs

Richonne Baby!!! I have always admired Rick and Michonne’s relationship. Was Rick married to Lori? Yes. However, Rick and Lori’s marriage was rocky before the zombie apocalypse. Rick talk to Shane about Lori always being angry with him. As soon as Lori thought that Rick was dead, she began sleeping with Rick’s best friend, Shane. Lori even got pregnant by Shane. How could she cheat on her husband so quickly? I believe that Lori and Shane were always attracted to one another. She joked with Rick about not being able to get a divorce during a zombie apocalypse. Was Rick attracted to Jessie? Yes, but she was married to someone else. Michonne was the woman that he trusted and confided in the must. Michonne changed Rick’s life for the better; in fact, their relationship was the first healthy relationship that he ever had. Rick and Michonne’s relationship consists of essential things, a natural friendship, mutual trust, and most importantly, excellent communication. Rick’s son Carl loved Michonne he told her that she was his best friend. Like it or not, Rick and Michonne were destined to be together long before they ever met. Sometimes it takes being with other people to understand what’s for you and what isn’t. Michonne knows when to give input, and she knows when to trust Rick’s choices. She’s loyal to his face and stands up for him behind his back. Yes, we know that it’s just a tv show but how sad it is to think that a relationship like theirs on exist on television?
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It’s Sunday, February 10th and I am counting down to 9 p.m, that’s when the Walking Dead will may its return. I will miss seeing Rick and Michonne together; their love is like no other. Like a person who was once head over hills for a person but has since laid the torch down yet reminisce every so often. I am still hopeful that Rick and Michonne will reconnect one day.

What’s Tameeka Listening to?

Two of the keys to successful weight loss is exercising and great music! I enjoy walking. There is so much music that gets and keeps me pumped. Music from every genre is awesome however I be wanting to rock. Here are my top 10 songs on my morning walk :

10. Wild International- One Day As A Lion
9. Anthem for the year 2000- Sliverchair
8. Cinnamon Girl- Type O Negative
7. I Don’t Care Anymore- Hellyeah
6. Thunderstuck- AC/DC
5. Spoonman- Soundgarden
4. I Loud It Loud- Kiss
3. What You Do To Me- Straight Line Stitch
2. I’m Broken- Pantera
1. Over and Over and Over- Jack White

This black girl loves to rock. Oh Yeah!

I Wish You Love

prime

noun

1 [in singular] the state or time of most considerable vigor or success in a person’s life:

you’re in the prime of life

To think that you’re in the prime of your life would be an incredibly problematic and, most significantly, subjective conclusion to reach.

To be in a stage of great vigor or success in your life would mean, essentially, that your life circumstances couldn’t get any better – you’re on top of the world – or, at least – on top of your world. I suggest it is problematic because success (and happiness) is as transient and fluid as your opinion; the meaning of success (and happiness) to you could be the fundamental opposite of another’s perception of what success (and happiness) is.

Oh, thank heaven for confirmation. Often I get signs of confirmation, and I love it. They show that I am on the right track. After all, looking at human beings for answers doesn’t always happen because we don’t know if they are truly genuine. Not many of us have people in our lives who will give solutions that are in our best interest. Every so often, I reminisce of a past excellent relationship, and it’s all right to do so. I choose not to think of negative things all the time. Life is way too short for that. One of my favorite movies is called “Prime,” starring Uma Thurman, who is my favorite actress. Prime is about a 37-years-old divorcee named Rafi who meets a 23-year-old painter named David; they fall in love instantly. Things become complicated because Rafi is seeing a therapist due to her hurtful divorce. The therapist happens to be David’s mother, which causes some issues down the line. Prime is an irresistibly and entertaining hit.

One of my favorite parts of the movie is when David’s mother tells him that “Sometimes we love, we learn, and we move on.” Rafi served a massive purpose in David’s life; she got him to go for his dream of being a painter. Rafi wanted children being that she was getting older even though she was in love with David; he was not in a place where he could give her what she needed. My other favorite part of the movie was the end when Rafi and David had broken up, but they crossed paths again their eyes met and a flood of memories which highlighted the beautiful parts of their relationship. While the memories were occurring, the song called “ I Wish You Love” played. After watching the movie immediately, I thought of the song called “Torch.” I wrote a post recently about “Torch” it’s funny how things come back in full circle.

Yesterday AMC spoiled me by allowing fans of the Walking Dead to be able to see the midseason premiere early. Yippee! At the beginning of the show, Michonne gave a refresher of where people lives were. One of the things that Michonne spoke about was how Rick was her true love. It got me to thinking about everything Rick and Michonne had been through up until the time that they met one another. With all the people who came and went in their lives, none were truly their true love, which included Rick’s wife. To be able to look back and wish someone that you once loved well is a sign of real growth. There is no growth in having a hateful heart towards an ex; otherwise, it’s a sign that feelings are still there.

Love is essential, but it isn’t always enough in relationships and marriages. Sometimes we have fun, we love, we learn, we move on, and we wish our ex-love. If you love someone truly love them set them free if it’s meant to be it will happen. No one and nothing can stop what is meant to be.

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I’m so incredibly happy being healthy makes a difference. Wanting to be thicker than a Snickers isn’t my style, I am no longer into junk food. Keto is the way to go.

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I feel fabulous there is so much more in store!!! Thanks Keto!