Society can try to dress up
Infidelity all it wants
Side chicks are not
The go to women
Like a spare tire
They are the least desired
A man pulls her out for a ride
When the original tire is
Out of commission
Due to being damaged
By the hands of the man
But as soon as the original
Is patched up
The spare tire immediately
Goes back into the trunk
Into the darkness
Where no one can see it
Because it’s an eyesore
Ladies don’t be a spare tire
You are worth so much more
Than being a backup plan
For a man
Who has trouble with commitment
Don’t be a secret
Go with an available man
The one whom you are
Destined to be with
Who will love you the most
One who will proclaim
His love for you
From coast to coast
Don’t do something
That you wouldn’t want
Done to you
Don’t be the go to
You are only being a fool
Better
Seeing the Gold
The internet can be a crazy place. We see true stuff, fake news as Trump calls it and lots of added on stuff. The internet can be a world filled with gossip. Recently I wrote about reading a book called The Woman Code in it the author of the book ninth code was Do not gossip. The Bible talks about gossip a lot one doesn’t have to be a Christian to realize how badly gossip can affect a person’s life. I know that I don’t want to gossip or indulge in it either. I wouldn’t like to be lied on. Gossip causes a lot of damage most of it cannot be undone. Proverbs 16:28 A froward man soweth strife: and a whisperer separateth chief friends.
Let’s think about it what are some reasons why men and women gossip about a person or people? Let’s be honest most times gossip are lies. I mean why else would the person who’s spreading the gossip tell a person not to tell anyone? Why won’t the person who’s doing the gossiping tell the person whom they are gossiping about directly? Hmmmmm….sounds suspect to me and I’m not Lieutenant Columbo. “One more thing sir…”
Angry people use the internet to publicly humiliate others they are nothing more than keyboard gangsters who hides behind the screen…a bunch of trolls who belong under a bridge in some land far far away. Yeah I said it! They don’t have any facts but lots of lies. So if you talk behind a fool one will sound like one.
We all should know better than to take anything on the internet as facts. Right now I am taking a Statistic course. Last week I turned in an assignment and had points deducted from me because she said that I needed to support my work with facts…..allow that to sink in. I have had people tell lies about me I knew why they were angry with me some still are. Once people stop talking to you they start talking about you. Our enemies are nothing more than estranged family members, formal associates,or formal friends. Think about it if a person is no longer speaking to another person anymore how true is their information. Example if a person is still gossiping about someone after a long period of time and have not been in contact with the person how accurate are their words? Why would a person continue to gossip about a someone whom they no longer speak to? Just something to think about.
I always try to be Christ like and try to put myself in other people’s shoes. If I were to see something on the internet about someone I would question the person who wrote it. Gossip is something that an angry person does so I would wonder why they are doing that. Not everything we read or find on the internet is true. Beyonce went to dinner last night now her photo has been made into a meme already no telling what they say. People make up memes, create rumors, and twist things around to cause division, turn people against each other,and fuel hate. People who gossip about someone else does it in hopes of hurting the people whom they are talking about and isolating them from others by attempting to turn people off from that person. As a Christian I pray for discernment I don’t want to share or spread lies about a person on social media otherwise I would have to question my character as well as why would I want to put faith in angry words.
When we assassinate the character of others we inescapably annihilate our own in the process. We become no better than whatever we’re saying about another. The soul is better fed with words that speak life and hope.
I don’t know about anyone else but I’d rather be a peacemaker I don’t want to play a role in causing the flames of gossip to grow higher I rather put them out. Matthew 5:9 Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.
My Name Is Gossip.
I have no respect for justice.
I maim without killing.
I break hearts and ruin lives.
I am cunning and malicious and gather strength with age.
The more I am quoted the more I am believed.
I flourish at every level of society.
My victims are helpless.
They cannot protect themselves against me because I have no name and no face.
To track me down is impossible.
The harder you try, the more elusive I become.
I am nobody’s friend.
Once I tarnish a reputation, it is never the same.
I topple governments and ruin marriages.
I ruin careers and cause sleepless nights, heartache and indigestion.
I spawn suspicion and generate grief.
I make innocent people cry in their pillows.
Even my name hisses.
I AM CALLED GOSSIP.
Father God help me to have control over my words and to see the gold in others.
Proverbs 11:27
27 He that diligently seeketh good procureth favour: but he that seeketh mischief, it shall come unto him.
It’s Up To Us
I’m not pointing fingers
But we must admit
That the black community is damaged
No one wants to talk about it
No one wants to face
What is happening
No one wants to get serious
About their life choices
The ones that actually has
Major consequences
That unfortunately once done
We can’t change or fix
People want to program their minds
To see their lives
As a happily ever after
A fairy tale
But no one wants to discuss
How certain choices can bring
Us back to reality have us
Sounding like a nursery rhyme
Old woman in the shoe
Had so many children
That she didn’t know what to do
Messing with the wrong men
Will have your life like a soap opera
All my children
And you are Not Erica
Having multiple babies out of wedlock
Losing value on the dating market
As if the arrow is pointing downward
On Down Jones
Ladies don’t waste unnecessary time
Ask the man who you feel
Maybe your potential mate
What are his goals and dreams
If he wants to get married
He will tell you
Don’t let having multiple children
And him not marrying you
To be a life lesson
It won’t be only you who will suffer
The children will too
Don’t be a fool
Don’t continue to hold on
Respect his decision
Move on life is short
Even though every single black mother’s
Situations are unique
Even though all single black mothers
Are not irresponsible
It doesn’t matter to
The people of the world
It’s time to wake up
Poverty, despair, and hopelessness
Are parts of nightmares
And should not be identified as
Being apart of African American culture
We have got to do better
We have to not feed into the negative
Stereotypes and generalizations
That some of us choose to embrace
It’s a big mistake
It’s up to us what we choose
What we answer to or who we allow
Ourselves to get attached to
Allowing negativity to turn inward
Single black mothers are not used goods
Not all of us are from the hood
Not all of us are ghetto
Those are words of the devil
We know that he is the biggest liar
Of them all
One of the greatest titles
That a woman can possess
Is being called mother
The greatest words that a parent
Can hear is their children
Tell them that they love you
We want our children to have
A better life than what we had
That requires having a stable home
Which consist of a mom and a dad
A happy homes goes beyond a fad
It never goes out of style
We don’t want to be responsible
For our children walking around
With a hole in their hearts
Remember they are suppose
To experience love first
From ma and pops
It’s time to break the curse
It’s time to stop making excuses
Because they are useless
The Black community
Needs to get it together
The broken home situation
Is very urgent
Blessing Our Food
One of the things that I am most proud of is how my boys have a relationship with Christ. We pray together, and we take our time when we connect with Christ. 4G lightning speed is great, but that doesn’t apply to grace. I don’t care how hungry you are taking your time and show God his proper respect. We have food to eat; therefore, we are blessed.
Where does grace come from? Well, I will tell you blessing food is a tradition that most Christians follow. Jesus Christ gave thanks and blessed the food at the last supper (Mark 14:22-25).
22 And as they did eat, Jesus took bread, and blessed, and brake it, and gave to them, and said, Take, eat: this is my body.
23 And he took the cup, and when he had given thanks, he gave it to them: and they all drank of it.
24 And he said unto them, This is my blood of the new testament, which is shed for many.
25 Verily I say unto you, I will drink no more of the fruit of the vine, until that day that I drink it new in the kingdom of God.
Every time my sons and I place food into our mouths, we give thanks. Father God, thank You for always making a way when there seems to be no way at all. Some people aren’t able to eat. Thank You for allowing us to be able to. Please help my sons and me to never take anything for granted.
Trusting the Process
I’d be lying if I said that certain things didn’t make me wonder what God was doing. There has been times when I wasn’t sure whether I was going or coming. But I remembered all the times when God brought me through. I’m trusting God so I have no choice but to trust the process. Everything that God allows us to go through serves a process and we become better because of it.
So I have allowed myself not to be bitter but better and to be silent while I listen to God’s still voice. Learning not to be sad but glad there’s no room for worry. Praying for everyone who has hurt me and let my children down as well as comfort too. I think the best way to be successful in understanding the process is disowning the things that man may try to tell you about yourself. God opinion is the only one that holds the most value.
Lord I know what You told me so I trust You through it all no matter what happens or how things looks like. I know that everything will be alright. Lord I know that You know what is best for my life I know because I can feel what is to come. Lord you show us things everyday which are signs of what’s to come the sunset is a sign of night approaching and cloudy skies is a sign of a storm. On the flip side a sunrise is sign of a new day. A storm comes to an end and so we see a rainbow. Lord I love You and I know that You will see me through just like You always do.