Masculinity

So the other day I was watching a reaction video for Type O Negative. The young lady spoke of how she had not seen masculinity like Peter Steele ever! I was thinking to myself “What kind of men has she seen?” Not just her I have seen other comments too. One video by Type O Negative called “Love You to Death a person assumed that Peter had self-esteem issues because of his lyrics. In the song “Love You to Death, Pete asked “Am I good enough for you?”

First off Peter Steele could have had any woman that he wanted. Peter Steele was a different kind of man. When I think of the lyrics asking “Am I good enough for you?”Perhaps he understood a woman’s worth!!! Which is something that certain men don’t see or care about.

I just feel that today’s world is so sad. Masculinity to me isn’t about a man’s physique it’s about a man standing up in his manhood without fear. A strong man makes responsible decisions and knows how to make a woman feel safe. All women want to feel safe.

There is so much pressure that occurs when an honest opinion is given. As a black woman I feel that being dishonest is doing a disservice to those who need to hear the truth. I’m not going to lie about what some black men should be doing. We have been taking on many things for far too long only to be told that we have attitudes, harsh, and not feminine. I would love to be carefree like Dorothy of the Wizard of Oz unfortunately I can’t.

Something has to be done. Young ladies of this generation needs to see more men like Peter Steele and not feel that they are extinct!!!

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The Art of Forgiveness

The moment a person hurts me
I forgive
The moment a person uses me
I forgive
The moment a person judges me
I forgive
The moment a person breaks my heart
I forgive
The moment a person disappoint me
I forgive
The moment the person betrays me
I forgive
The moment that a person makes me
Feel anything else besides positive
I forgive
If a person does these things to me
I develop an understanding
Rather what was done to me was done
Purposely or not
I choose to forgive
The moment that I forgive my peace
Begins and my pain ends
Forgiveness is a process
Don’t know if it can ever be perfected
It’s hard to forget
About a messed up situation
Especially when most of the time
The biggest test of forgiveness
Is forgiving a person who caused pain
That came from a person whom
Was trusted the most
Betrayal rarely comes from a stranger
Forgiveness isn’t holding on to grudges
It’s letting go of them
Besides the person doesn’t know or care
About the trouble that they caused
We all need a lesson
It’s a two way street
We all at one point has hurt someone
Purposely or unintentionally
All we can do is ask for forgiveness
You can’t push it
If we do
That means we are only thinking of ourselves
We want to be free of guilt
When we do wrong we must deal with
It and respect a person’s space
Closure may mean losing a person without a trace
Just be thankful for God’s grace
Many times that has to be enough

I Got Time

The biggest mistake

That we all make

Is feel that it’s okay

To put off things until tomorrow

What can be done today

Should be

Don’t procrastinate

Don’t wait

Stop thinking

Oh I got time

Because none of us

Knows what’s down the line

We have to stop

Taking things for granted

Like our loves ones

We get into a fight

We run

We hide

We get an ego

We won’t let the anger go

We plan on speaking

With the person later

In hopes that the peace

Between the both of you

Will be greater

Or how about that special someone

The one we have feelings for

But has yet to tell them

It’s always

One day I will let them know

It’s always

Oh I got time

Let me ask you a question

Who’s in control of time

It certainly isn’t us

What happens

When the moment that

We are waiting for never arrives

Missed opportunities

Are dangerous

They kill you inside

Makes you want to cry

Makes you want to die

Waiting on tomorrow

Sometimes can bring sorrow

From being shallow

I challenge you to borrow

From your wasted time

And contact the one who

Has been on your mind

Ever think about what happens

If you never were

To see that person ever again

I’m not judging

We are all human

I too am guilty of this

I will admit

But we must not allow

Ourselves to forget

That everyone’s time

Is limited

We must not allow ourselves

To become blind

By the phrase

Oh I got time

Because the truth is

It’s  a huge lie