I’ve been on a Daryl Hall kick for a few days. Daryl Hall is one half of the music duo Hall and Oates. I have been fans of Hall and Oates for years one of my favorite songs by them is Say It Isn’t So. Recently I have been listening to his solo album called Soul Alone. One of my favorite songs by Daryl Hall is Stop Loving Me, Stop Loving You. Daryl Hall used Marvin Gaye’s song When did you stop loving me, When did I stop loving you song as a template for his song. Check it out:
Month: January 2017
Yes You Are
You don’t need L’Oreal to tell you that you are worth it. God shows us our worth everyday. Never leave it up to someone else to tell you your worth. Never let a person treat you less than the way that you deserve. We have to trust God always He will guide us to who and what is right. Here’s some cool memes:
Being A Great Dad
Growing up in a broken home
Taught me that parenting
Should not be done alone
Indeed we have our heavenly Father
He also gives us rules to follow
That we all should honor
A mother is to nurture her children
Instill compassion in her children
Teach them brilliant cooking skills
A mother plants amazing feelings
Into her children so that they take root
A father gives his children advice
Teaches his children how to ride a bike
Teaches his children how to drive
How a man treats a lady
He leads by example
He’s his children protector whether
Or not he and the mother are together
A mother’s and a father’s love for
Their children should always be equal
Too many are trying to minimize
A father’s unique contributions
As if it means nothing at all
These kinds of attitudes are part
Of the black community’s problem
I know men who are good fathers
Who have had the worse life experiences
I’m talking horrendous
Yet they don’t use them as crutches
Are there petty mothers
Who for no good reasons stops
The children’s fathers from having
A relationship with their kids
Yes and those situations I don’t accept
But let’s be honest those kinds of
Situations are rare
How about the fathers who makes
The choice to neglect
Having a relationship with their children
Those kind of fathers
Don’t deserve any respect
Once a person becomes a parent
A mission must be made to make sure
That their children have
The absolute best
A parent’s love should always be felt
Even when they aren’t present
Children should never ever feel
As if they never received enough love
There’s nothing that hurts worse
Then to feel rejected by
Your very own parent
Why should a child have to learn
How to become immune to hurt
It’s the same old tune
We are living in a society
With people who are self absorbed
Classic narcissistic behavior
Some of these fathers who aren’t good
Align themselves with
A bunch of yes men
Ones who agree with everything
Whether they are right or wrong
Bobble heads who are afraid
To stand up or challenge
Newsflash they are not true friends
Sick of some of these dead beat
Fathers crying about children support
When you didn’t do right on your own
So mothers had to turn
To the government for assistance
It’s your fault that you fathers
Have to pay it
Some of your fathers words
Ain’t worth nothing
Never consistent
No wonder why you have bad credit
Constantly trying to make
A mother feel bad for asking for help
Dude we didn’t make these
Children by ourselves
If you can’t be a good father
Do us all a favor
And get yourself fixed
So over these good for nothing fathers
Who’s always coming up with excuses
Like a student sitting in
The principal’s office
Offering a reason for skipping
How about this don’t just be a father
Be a dad
That’s called being a man
A sign of great parenting
Is not having children
Who becomes estranged from you
The moment they reach 18
All behind past things that happened
In which they are still hurting
Having a blessed relationship
With our children until we are old
Should be every parent’s
Ultimate goal
Am I Asking For Too Much?
The purpose of my blog is to discuss things that no one wants to talk about. What I am doing is not very popular but I am fine with that. In my opinion everyone has some knowledge that’s useful in one way or another. Even a fool is right sometimes just like a broken clock has the right time twice a day. All it takes is for us to empty out the noise that in our minds that at times helps to cloud our perspective of things.
I consider myself to be a pretty open-minded. I will give anyone a chance still there are situations that cannot be ignored, like dead beat fathers. I always speak up for the good fathers because they are some. Let me give a description of what I feel is a good father:
He’s there for his children
He understand that money isn’t more important than his time
He’s love for his children is not limited
Regardless of what is going on with the mother of the children it doesn’t impact his relationship with his children
He understands balance and does it well
The word bashing isn’t a part of his vocabulary because he is responsible
He doesn’t hold pity parties
We all strive to be more and a parent should never cut their children short of anything especially love. None of us wants to be the reason for creating a damaged child because they grow up into messed up adults. I am really tired of dead fathers getting upset because people speak on the things that they aren’t doing. It’s time to stop making excuses for the choices that you made being a parent is a two way street. Dead beat fathers stop contributing to the dysfunction in the black community if you didn’t have a father then be the dad that you never had.
We Are Beautiful
Recently everywhere I turn
I see men of different races
Including my very own
Making it seem like
Black women are the least desirable
Men like Chris Rock and
Steve Harvey speaking about
The kinds of men who love us
I can’t take it anymore
Our black is beautiful
Every day many of us struggle
With situations that
We should not have to endure alone
We are mothers
Who are also filling in as
The role of father
This situation has gotten old
The worse part is when we
Are made to feel like
We are somehow responsible
For receiving the hurt
That we don’t deserve
It’s so absurd
One of the stupidest things
That I have ever heard
There’s a 72% percentage
Of absentee fathers
Look at the numbers
These men choose
To not be bothered
It doesn’t take a math whiz
Or a rocket scientist
Last time I checked
It takes a man and a woman
To make a baby
Is there any other ways
I’ll wait
Lord knows that I am a Christian
I always turn the other cheek constantly
Most black women are forgiving
About the situations that helps
Many of us to feel incomplete
Dealing with things like certain men
Who are filled with deceit that cheat
Lacking the understanding as to
Why some men would rather mistreat
Good women in a heartbeat
As if it would kill them to
Commit faithfully
In spite of black women circumstances
Defeat is not a part of our vocabulary
We always push ourselves hard
Like a star athlete
There’s a lot more to us
Than what people think
I’m telling you right now
On us don’t sleep
We are constantly striving and evolving
Every word that I speak
Is concrete
I can produce receipts
Say what you want about me
Turn up the heat
I will not surrender or retreat
Can’t continue to listen
To all of the bull
Like how some of the wounds
Of black women
Are self-inflicted
I just don’t understand it
I do know that black women
Are over being taken for granted
As well as being blamed for this
Got me like
Alanis Morrissette
Isn’t it ironic
Don’t you think
Some black men
Speak of wanting black women
To hold them down
When they have nothing
Yet when some of them get on
Their feet
They treat their women and
Very own children
Like pot holes in a street
Then have the nerve
To question why we are angry
Really?
Please
Spare me
After awhile all of this becomes
So annoying
Some of you have no concept
Of loyalty
As long as black women
Are going along with the program
Everything is hunky-dory
However once we wake up
And stand up things are
A different story
Oh and don’t get me
Talking about the subject of dating
Black men was the first to
Put cream in their coffee
This is after slavery
At least that’s what mother
Used to tell me
May her beautiful soul
Rest in peace
If black women
Date outside of their race
Immediately we are accused
Of self-hate
In addition making it seem
As if men of other races
See us as mere fetishes
Like we are nothing
More than sex objects
I’m so sick of the disrespect
When will you guys open your eyes
And realize that
When our community is hurting
No one benefits
And no wins
Because we all suffer in the end
Things comes back in a full spin
I won’t stop talking about this
It’s a promise
Like Mc Hammer
I’m too legit to quit
Refusing to conform
To what seems to be the norm
Because it’s awful
Black women we deserve love
Beyond measure
We are a treasure
Keep in mind that love has no color
This mindset opens up our options more
Always remember this number
One thing and that is our value
Is not found in negative
People’s words
Black women are powerful
Even when we stand alone
We are so strong
Black women we are beautiful
What’s Tameeka Listening To?
Hello Everyone!
This is my first what’s Tameeka listening to for 2017. I love music especially rock and roll when I took a test about which metal band that I am I got Metallica!!! I am a huge fan of Metallica. I came across this awesome video of two ladies playing Metallica songs on harps!! Check it out!
Happy Birthday MLK
Happy Birthday to Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Today is more than just a day off from work. I want to thank Dr. King for helping to make civil rights possible. I appreciate everything that you have done and I will never take it for granted. You fought to make your dream come true. Thank you for getting us to love one another in spite of our color.Yes we still have a longs to go because of people with their heart issues regardless I just want to thank you. I won’t complain instead I will do my part to help enforce change in a positive way.
John 13:34 – A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.
Sexual Abuse in The Church
Bishop Eddie Long passed away today and there are mixed feelings about it. Let me start off by saying I don’t care about the denomination sexual abuse is wrong. Sexual abuse is deep beneath the skin it’s a sin issue. The church is a place where everyone is suppose to feel and be safe. Bishop Eddie Long molested young boys in his church. I pray that he got right with God and repented. The problem with the church is the wrong people are leading and people are following blindly.
We have to understand that no one is exempt from falling in our faith so we must remain humble always. We have to stay on fire with God it requires us to stay connected with those who are burning. I want people to let me know if I am doing wrong I want to be right for God. Back on topic there is a lot of perversion going on in the church but no one wants to discuss it. When Eddie Long victims spoke about the abuse they were treated like suspects. I watched his victims do an interview they were so broken. Sexual abuse causes a whole lot of damage not just to the ones who are abused. I feel sorry and prays for Eddie Long’s family. We must speak up about abuse it’s time to quit being silent.
Many people don’t speak up out of fear of being attacked. The words that I speak aren’t mine they are from the Bible. I am not judging Eddie Long only God can do that. Our children are innocent we must protect them it’s our duty.
Luke 9:23 – And he said to [them] all, If any [man] will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me
Culture Awareness
Recently I finished a course in Intercultural Competence and it taught me a lot of new things when it comes to interacting with different cultures. In order to become aware of other cultures it helps to become aware of your own. I have learned that once we understand others cultures; we can then appreciate them, establish a relationship and build an alliance. To build a strong community it takes a large number of people to make it work. Each culture is unique and has perspectives and strengths that any community can benefit from. Having an understanding of every culture can help us to overcome as well as avoid ethnic and racial divisions. A community can win when people don’t struggle with the vision of what a fair, moral and harmonious society is. There are many cultures and of course many of us would like to know about them all a good way to start is finding out about who lives in our community, the kind of diversity that already exists, the struggles that exist between the cultures, the struggles that are openly recognized and the kinds of issues that the different cultures have in common.
When it comes to having a community that is united there certain steps that should be taken and there are things that should not be done as well. Let’s use the African-American culture as an example there has been a lot of bad things that have taken place. There is still a lot of hurt that has turned into anger which is present in America to this very day. Even though I am an African-American one thing is true making people feel guilty for what their ancestors have done hundreds of years ago will not help diversity to become effective. People tend to change when they don’t feel condemned or guilt tripped. One day I saw a post from a Facebook friend she actually apologized for what her ancestors had done hundreds of years ago and I commented telling her that it was unnecessary. It may come as a shock to many but I get called names a lot like sellout and even accused of not being true to my culture. I have gotten slammed on several occasions all because of my views. My Christian beliefs help to keep me hopeful no matter how a situation looks like. In my opinion when it comes to bring cultures together everyone must be included, a solution of what can be done to solve the issues with hope of getting it done together is a huge step into the right direction. Having a strong community can only happen by people working together from every culture this will help to build a strong relationship that has a core.
As I have written in the beginning getting to know one’s own culture and other cultures builds bridges that can connect people in addition recognizing the differences is important too. Many times people don’t want to recognize cultures differences out of fear that it may cause division however it’s actually on the contrary. Learning about other cultures can actually bring people closer together. When people are aware of other cultures they learn how to interact without negativity happening. A mind closed mind is not open to knowledge and so ignorance grows. It’s important that we all keep in mind that regardless of our cultures being different we all have feelings,we are human beings and we are all God’s Children.
Galatians 3:26
For ye are all the children of God by faith in Christ Jesus.
It’s Up To Us
I’m not pointing fingers
But we must admit
That the black community is damaged
No one wants to talk about it
No one wants to face
What is happening
No one wants to get serious
About their life choices
The ones that actually has
Major consequences
That unfortunately once done
We can’t change or fix
People want to program their minds
To see their lives
As a happily ever after
A fairy tale
But no one wants to discuss
How certain choices can bring
Us back to reality have us
Sounding like a nursery rhyme
Old woman in the shoe
Had so many children
That she didn’t know what to do
Messing with the wrong men
Will have your life like a soap opera
All my children
And you are Not Erica
Having multiple babies out of wedlock
Losing value on the dating market
As if the arrow is pointing downward
On Down Jones
Ladies don’t waste unnecessary time
Ask the man who you feel
Maybe your potential mate
What are his goals and dreams
If he wants to get married
He will tell you
Don’t let having multiple children
And him not marrying you
To be a life lesson
It won’t be only you who will suffer
The children will too
Don’t be a fool
Don’t continue to hold on
Respect his decision
Move on life is short
Even though every single black mother’s
Situations are unique
Even though all single black mothers
Are not irresponsible
It doesn’t matter to
The people of the world
It’s time to wake up
Poverty, despair, and hopelessness
Are parts of nightmares
And should not be identified as
Being apart of African American culture
We have got to do better
We have to not feed into the negative
Stereotypes and generalizations
That some of us choose to embrace
It’s a big mistake
It’s up to us what we choose
What we answer to or who we allow
Ourselves to get attached to
Allowing negativity to turn inward
Single black mothers are not used goods
Not all of us are from the hood
Not all of us are ghetto
Those are words of the devil
We know that he is the biggest liar
Of them all
One of the greatest titles
That a woman can possess
Is being called mother
The greatest words that a parent
Can hear is their children
Tell them that they love you
We want our children to have
A better life than what we had
That requires having a stable home
Which consist of a mom and a dad
A happy homes goes beyond a fad
It never goes out of style
We don’t want to be responsible
For our children walking around
With a hole in their hearts
Remember they are suppose
To experience love first
From ma and pops
It’s time to break the curse
It’s time to stop making excuses
Because they are useless
The Black community
Needs to get it together
The broken home situation
Is very urgent
Be Lifted 