I absolutely cannot stress this enough divorce is a humongous deal. In the past I have opened up about my separation and divorce. Divorce is ugly period it’s never good because it affects so many people especially the children. What I can’t stand about certain situations like divorce people want to be private so they suffer in silence. Recently I saw a heartbreaking post on Facebook about a woman who was going through a divorce. She would post about the pain of her divorce apparently it wasn’t received well amongst some of her Facebook friends. To make a long story short she had no one to turn to and so she took her life. I feel so sorry for her children this will make it even harder for them.
At times I get so sick of this horrible world with the heartless people in it. I know that there’s a God and I know that He’s sitting on His throne. God will correct the wrongs and heal the hurting hearts. I know that none of us are God but if you come across a hurting person be kind always. The best thing that we all can do once we have done everything that we can is pray.
Father God In Heaven,
My prayer to You is to please guide people to marry the right people. Once You bring two people together have it so that they understand the vows that You made. Have it rooted in the married couples that at times better could become worse, that sickness may come, that they can have it all one day and lose it all the next. Father God help them to stay strong in You. Have a married couple understand that tough times don’t last but tough people do. Father God on the days when one of them become unlovable have their love for You to be more stronger so that it will keep their marriage together. Have a married couple to take their eyes off of the world and fixed on You. This wicked world at times has no concept of the beauty of marriage Father God only You can keep a marriage strong. I pray also for the couples who are separated may their marriage be restored and that they come back together stronger than ever. Father God I know that You hate divorce however if it comes to that please forgive those who have divorced. Have every marriage experience many years of happiness and their children too. Most of all thank You Father God for all that You do and what You are about to do. In Jesus Precious Name
Bishop Eddie Long passed away today and there are mixed feelings about it. Let me start off by saying I don’t care about the denomination sexual abuse is wrong. Sexual abuse is deep beneath the skin it’s a sin issue. The church is a place where everyone is suppose to feel and be safe. Bishop Eddie Long molested young boys in his church. I pray that he got right with God and repented. The problem with the church is the wrong people are leading and people are following blindly.
We have to understand that no one is exempt from falling in our faith so we must remain humble always. We have to stay on fire with God it requires us to stay connected with those who are burning. I want people to let me know if I am doing wrong I want to be right for God. Back on topic there is a lot of perversion going on in the church but no one wants to discuss it. When Eddie Long victims spoke about the abuse they were treated like suspects. I watched his victims do an interview they were so broken. Sexual abuse causes a whole lot of damage not just to the ones who are abused. I feel sorry and prays for Eddie Long’s family. We must speak up about abuse it’s time to quit being silent.
Many people don’t speak up out of fear of being attacked. The words that I speak aren’t mine they are from the Bible. I am not judging Eddie Long only God can do that. Our children are innocent we must protect them it’s our duty.
Luke 9:23 – And he said to [them] all, If any [man] will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me
Recently I finished a course in Intercultural Competence and it taught me a lot of new things when it comes to interacting with different cultures. In order to become aware of other cultures it helps to become aware of your own. I have learned that once we understand others cultures; we can then appreciate them, establish a relationship and build an alliance. To build a strong community it takes a large number of people to make it work. Each culture is unique and has perspectives and strengths that any community can benefit from. Having an understanding of every culture can help us to overcome as well as avoid ethnic and racial divisions. A community can win when people don’t struggle with the vision of what a fair, moral and harmonious society is. There are many cultures and of course many of us would like to know about them all a good way to start is finding out about who lives in our community, the kind of diversity that already exists, the struggles that exist between the cultures, the struggles that are openly recognized and the kinds of issues that the different cultures have in common.
When it comes to having a community that is united there certain steps that should be taken and there are things that should not be done as well. Let’s use the African-American culture as an example there has been a lot of bad things that have taken place. There is still a lot of hurt that has turned into anger which is present in America to this very day. Even though I am an African-American one thing is true making people feel guilty for what their ancestors have done hundreds of years ago will not help diversity to become effective. People tend to change when they don’t feel condemned or guilt tripped. One day I saw a post from a Facebook friend she actually apologized for what her ancestors had done hundreds of years ago and I commented telling her that it was unnecessary. It may come as a shock to many but I get called names a lot like sellout and even accused of not being true to my culture. I have gotten slammed on several occasions all because of my views. My Christian beliefs help to keep me hopeful no matter how a situation looks like. In my opinion when it comes to bring cultures together everyone must be included, a solution of what can be done to solve the issues with hope of getting it done together is a huge step into the right direction. Having a strong community can only happen by people working together from every culture this will help to build a strong relationship that has a core.
As I have written in the beginning getting to know one’s own culture and other cultures builds bridges that can connect people in addition recognizing the differences is important too. Many times people don’t want to recognize cultures differences out of fear that it may cause division however it’s actually on the contrary. Learning about other cultures can actually bring people closer together. When people are aware of other cultures they learn how to interact without negativity happening. A mind closed mind is not open to knowledge and so ignorance grows. It’s important that we all keep in mind that regardless of our cultures being different we all have feelings,we are human beings and we are all God’s Children.
For ye are all the children of God by faith in Christ Jesus.
Merry Christmas to Everyone!!!
I’m not crying the blues however being a single parent is tough that’s a reality. All I want like most single parents is for my parenting skills to have the effects of a two parent home. I love my two sons with everything that I have. When I write papers in class I always speak of how the ultimate gift of parenting is how your children turn out and how they choose to raise their children like how they were raised.
This year I was blessed to be able to give my sons some great gifts still I was going to have a talk like I always do with my youngest son about Christmas. As I have shared my youngest has autism, so things have to be repeated a lot until he grasps it. I walked in the bedroom with my youngest and he goes Jesus the reason for the season. The tears just started to stream down my face even with his disability he understands what Christmas is what a awesome gift that was for me to receive. I just want to thank God everyday I pray for the best for my sons one of the things that I want them to have the most is for them to have a relationship with Christ. I have instilled into my children that without Christ we are nothing so never leave Him out of anything. It’s not Happy Holidays, Xmas, it’s Merry Christmas always, Christ is to be kept in everything always. When we allow God to lead our paths we can’t go wrong and things can only go right.
The second gift that I receive was a letter from my oldest son he wrote:
I love you mom
Merry Christmas mom your love is more powerful than a nuclear bomb. You’re better than the rest. You are a fighter and a great provider. You are so smart. You get A’s on you school work and I am proud to call you my mom. I pray that you have lots of success because you deserve it. Merry Christmas mom I love you very much!
I just want to thank Christ for all that He has done and what He continues to do. God is the reason why I made it this far in life and with raising my sons.
I truly believe that healed people heal others that’s why I don’t mind discussing events that have taken place in my life it’s done with the hopes of helping someone else. Think about the Bible everyone in it had some sort of battle that they all overcame with God’s help of course. God wanted us to see ordinary people tackle everyday problems with the help of an extraordinary God!
Back on topic it seems like every channel I watch are promoting commercials about wedding rings it’s Christmas which is the time when most people get engaged. A wedding ring though it is a small piece of jewelry it’s meaning is very significant. A wedding ring is worn on the fourth finger on the left hand because it was believed that the vein in the fourth finger ran directly to the heart. It’s sad that some people don’t take wearing their wedding rings seriously which is the reason marriage end it’s not taken seriously. Marriage is a covenant and not a contract; God intended it to last for a lifetime. A marriage can only survive on the foundation that is Christ based, loving freely and unconditionally committing. Marriage is not something that we pick and choose to do when we want to. I wish that I knew these things years ago I sure hope that this help someone somewhere.
So marry the person who you can’t see yourself without. Marry the person who is your best friend. Marry the person who regardless of who comes along your love reminds strong. Marry the one who you can’t stop thinking about or talking to. Marry the one who makes you better and even when you don’t feel your best they treat you like you are. Marry the one that even if the ring came from a bubble machine they would wear it proudly.
Wear your wedding ring always it’s not about the value of it but about the person whom you are married to for they are priceless.
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
I’m a very positive person still you have to speak truth. Sometimes when you speak truth some people don’t want to receive it that’s fine come back to my blog when you are ready to. I write about things that are thought about and on this post I want to discuss cuffing season.
Now I know what you are thinking what is Tameeka talking about now??!!! Well I’ll tell you cuffing season is when people try to cuff others and it’s Not out of love so don’t confuse the two. If a person hasn’t contacted you springtime nor summer but want to now you should wondering why. Sometimes when others are treating us wrong we think that it’s a reflection of ourselves but it isn’t it’s quite the opposite. We still have to be honest to keep us from enduring unnecessary pain. Just because a person is with you physically doesn’t mean that they are mentally remember home is where the heart is. Who needs a dude texting another woman while you are sleeping and some woman may want to fool herself if a man is doing sneaky things like that it’s not love believe me when I tell you.
I understand that sometimes we get lonely it’s human but we don’t want to allow a season to mess us up for a lifetime. God will send the right one but it can’t happen if you are with the wrong one. Any person cuffing you during cuffing season is the wrong one. Trust God. In our times of weakness it’s best to pray.