Don’t Be A Fool Being A Bully Isn’t Cool

Today I read a very disturbing post an eleven year old girl committed suicide. The little girl was a victim of bullying. Even more heartbreaking about the story was who found her body it was her three year old sister. The little girl who committed suicide saw no way out except for taking her life. Bullies are a huge situation that should not be ignored. Children aren’t the only bullies adults can be too which is actually sadder. There are different types of bullying it’s important that we know what they are so we can spot them.

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Bullying affect people in negative ways it can push people to the point of no return. Children deserve to experience a happy life that’s bully free. I feel sorry for the bullies too hurt people hurt others. Many times bullies feel insecurities inside so they pick on other people. Bullies most times are bigger than their peers physically and have trouble at home.

Society really has things stacked up against parents with the internet, promotion of violence and disrespect of others it’s a lot for parents to monitor. I’m old schooled so the main thing I would tell another parents is to keep a open line of communication with your children. Pay attention to your children so you can notice if they are withdrawn, angry or sad remember children are very scared when it comes to a bullying situation. Parents should talk with their children’s teacher if they sense a problem. Teachers must report any problems to the principal or the dean most importantly inform the parents about everything.

I also touched on adults sometimes being bullies too because it’s the truth many of them use social media to publicly humiliate others. When it comes to adult bullies others should not back what they are doing causing them to stop. Bullies feed of the power off of having an audience and fear. Let’s make this clear one is a fool if they think being a bully is cool. If you are a bully who is an adult you are a even bigger fool… so grow up.

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Let’s pray for people who are being bullied and ask God to protect them from harm. Be a bully nor quietly observing mistreatment of another person is not cool. What if it was you? What would  you do? What would you want to see happen?

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Am I Asking For Too Much?

The purpose of my blog is to discuss things that no one wants to talk about. What I am doing is not very popular but  I am fine with that. In my opinion everyone has some knowledge that’s useful in one way or another. Even a fool is right sometimes just like a broken clock has the right time twice a day. All it takes is for us to empty out the noise that in our minds that at times helps to cloud our perspective of things.

I consider myself to be a pretty open-minded. I will give anyone a chance still there are situations that cannot be ignored, like dead beat fathers. I always speak up for the good fathers because they are some. Let me give a description of what I feel is a good father:

He’s there for his children

He understand that money isn’t more important than his time

He’s love for his children is not limited

Regardless of what is going on with the mother of the children it doesn’t impact his relationship with his children

He understands balance and does it well

The word bashing isn’t a part of his vocabulary because he is responsible

He doesn’t hold pity parties

We all strive to be more and a parent should never cut their children short of anything especially love. None of us wants to be the reason for creating a damaged child because they grow up into messed up adults. I am really tired of dead fathers getting upset because people speak on the things that they aren’t doing. It’s time to stop making excuses for the choices that you made being a parent is a two way street.  Dead beat fathers stop contributing to the dysfunction in the black community if you didn’t have a father then be the dad that you never had.

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I’ve Got Personality

It’s official I have started another new course it’s called Theories of Personality. The whole point of me taking Psychology is for me to be able to counsel people before they get married and after. I want to help people stay happily married. God placed it on my heart to help married people and that’s what I am going to do. Being a blessing to others it’s a dream of mine I love supporting people anyway that I can. The world is filled with negativity and darkness I want to be the light in it.

Anyway back on topic this course got me to thinking about my personality and what influences me to be me. Growing up I believe it was rough for most children when we are coming into our own and trying to find out who we are. For me a huge part of my influence is Christ I am definitely proud to say that too. I’ve always loved to write and help others. Really looking forward to finding out more about myself although this course cannot teach me more about myself than God can. Yeah I said it.

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13 For thou hast possessed my reins: thou hast covered me in my mother’s womb.

14 I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.

Ordinary People Deserves Extraordinary Love

Good Morning! Happy Friday to All!

So I was watching a YouTube video and it sparked and idea in my mind which I plan to set into motion. Here’s the case the video talked about a black Christian woman who’s interested in a white Christian man where they attend church together. While they never have spoken outside of church the lady feels an attraction to this man yet neither of them are making a move. She says he smiles at her, she smiles back and they have spoken briefly at church. Now we know that the Bible says when a man Finds a wife he Finds a good thing therefore it’s not a woman’s job to pursue. It’s important for these two people to engage with one another outside of church. That way it will be clear for sure exactly what they are feeling towards one another. Based on the video and a comment that I read I wondered why the white man is not approaching this lady. Is he shy? Being that it’s a church setting could he just be being friendly? Does he feel that interracial dating isn’t for him? Is he afraid of rejection? The questions just goes on.

Anyway about the comment that was on the video a person said that many times in the media when it comes to interracial dating you rarely see ordinary people who are in love majority of the time they are usually really good looking and really successful people. While being successful is important everyone will not live in a mansion and everyone will not be millionaires. I know that I will never possess a mansion nor be a millionaire and you know what? That’s okay. I’m fine living a ordinary life being an ordinary person who has an extraordinary personality that deserves an extraordinary kind of love. Yeah I said it. I’m ordinary and I’m proud. My Boaz doesn’t have to be rich but he does have to love Christ be can be rich in love that good enough for me.

So yeah. I’m making it my mission to sharing pictures of ordinary interracial couples that way ordinary people like myself won’t feel intimidated and not miss out on love. We deserve what God has for us remember God is a show off God. He wants His glory so He does things that blows our minds. I really hope that the black woman and white man in the video hook up and I pray that they are successful in love. We all deserve happiness.

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Stoned Age Mentality

Really??? Some people’s mentality went out in the stoned ages, Yabba Dabba Doo. Allow me to explain it’s one thing to be old fashioned with morals and another to be the cause of negativity. Especially when it comes to interracial relationships being prejudice and racist needs to go. I am so over it. As long as it’s within God’s will people should love who God has for them. God knows what is best and He has the best for us all that is including the person who is meant for us.

Everyday I am always hearing new stories of the problems that interracial couples encounter. It’s so sad. A couple must surround themselves with people who support their happiness. Couples should be experiencing love to the fullest but have to have the headache of dealing with hate.

Take a look around us just look at all the things that God has created. Things are different colors and wonders  He didn’t create things the same colors. Tulips, roses of every colors they don’t blossom separate but together.

Christelyn the awesome lady that I follow on YouTube catch flack simply because she promotes love. In the year of 2016 the negative views towards dating outside of one’s race is way outdated. It’s a shame as soon as she uploads a video the trolls come from underneath of their bridges. It’s aggravating why can’t people just be happy for others? Miserable people need to take a chill pill  for real that’s all it boils down to people are miserable and have to have company. What I will never be able to understand about miserable people is why can’t they enjoy the company of other miserable people? Why must miserable people try to conform happy people into miserable people? Anyway whatever their is it won’t affect who I choose to love. I’m get my love on and gonna be so very happy regardless of what others think. They can’t and won’t change my mind and nope they really can’t.

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Three Things That I Wished That I Had Known About Social Media

Social media is not self explanatory there is so much to it than what meets the eye. I miss the good ole days before the internet don’t get me wrong the internet is a great invention. It’s just sad how it gets abused. If one isn’t careful it can swallow up a person’s life whole. Many lives are impacted by social media there is zero privacy and things gets made up. Whenever I am watching any television show somehow the subject of social media comes into play. It’s so and so contacted me on Facebook one can expect drama it’s a guarantee. It’s cause a lot of break ups as well I have known people who gave it up to save their marriages.

For me I am friendly I see the good in everyone which isn’t the best mindset to have on social media you will get burned. I learned that lesson besides not becoming friends or following certain people simply because our eyes and ears are windows to our souls it’s important to not allow yourself to become open to the wrong kinds of vibes. Social media is the number one reason that I started a blog and for that I am thankful. A few months ago God spoke to me and told me to give all my social accounts up expect for Facebook. When I did that it was one of the greatest things that I had ever done.

What I don’t like the must is the promotion of negativity that’s real poison. People fighting, kids fighting so much violence it’s quite sad. People arguing on social media as well .Of course there are people judging about others being negative and I’m like wasn’t you the one who was cursing earlier. Oh the headaches I will just keep this blog short and take a couple of Tylenol.

Three things that I wish that I had of known out before getting onto social media is the drama, the negativity and probably not even getting into it in the first place. That way it’s less headaches the saddest thing is the people who invented social media had positive things in mind. I’m just going to stick mostly to my blogging and pop in and out of Facebook until I give it up completely. Wah Wah Wah Wah!!!!