Learning the art of forgiveness can sometimes be a hard lesson to take. Everyone talks about the hurt that has happened to them and how they have trouble forgiving the person who has wronged them. Sadly we are living in a world where people are always the victim and they never accept accountability for anything. Still, does anyone ever think about how would it feel if the shoe were on the other foot? What if it’s you who is waiting to be forgiven? Is it ever too late to say that you are sorry? Whether it was unintentional or intentional everyone has hurt someone before. Nobody is above offending someone.
Yes. It’s always best to forgive after all forgiveness is for our peace of mind. It’s mentally exhausting stressing about something that we have no control over. Life is not like a dvd there are no alternate endings things are what they are. So there is no need to continuously regurgitate a situation.
I read a post about forgiveness that was interesting it almost sounded like a guilt trip. It said something about not blocking blessings by holding grudges aka unforgiveness in one’s heart. When we are the ones waiting to be forgiven we can’t speed up the process no matter how much it may hurt. Like a cut or bruise it takes time to heal.
I also thought about a television show that featured a situation that required forgiveness. A boyfriend caught his girlfriend kissing a close friend of theirs. The boyfriend was destroyed he loved his girlfriend so much. The girlfriend apologized and the boyfriend accepted it however he asked her for space. For weeks the girlfriend did everything that she could to make situations happen so that she could cross her boyfriend’s path. Finally the girlfriend built up the courage to talk to her boyfriend. She told him that it had been weeks and that she wanted to talk. The boyfriend called her out on her actions immediately telling her that he told her that he needed some space and that she only wanted to talk so that she could feel better about herself. He further went on to say that he knew that it was hard for her but it wasn’t his problem.
When we try to force a person to forgive us on our terms it can make the person that we offended question if our apology was even authentic. We have to remember that everyone is different and heal at different rates. This is why it’s important to respect a person’s space if they ask for it.
Forgiveness is a two way street. If we ever hurt someone we should apology quickly, own it, and make things right. When we own what we have done it should not be shared. Making a person share the blame for what we have done is never cool. Sometimes we can hurt a person so badly that it may actually burn a bridge and we have to move on. As we get older it should be about doing adult things like producing a healthy environment with the people that we care about. It’s childish and selfish to care only about ourselves. It’s important if we can to not do things that can jeopardize relationships with the people who we care about. I would rather spend my time enjoying the relationships that I have with people instead of waiting to be forgiven.