Don’t Come For Me

Today I had a black man tell me that myself and other black women who choose to swirl deserves to be placed into an oven alive so we can burn. I know what you are thinking Tameeka “why do you care about what a troll says?” I’ll tell you why because like I have already been saying there is a problem within the black community. It’s hard for me as well as some of the other single mothers who have black sons. Many of us are fighting to make sure that our sons will be respectable and productive citizens. I have already shared that I have always been attracted to white men however I did have two children with a black man. One day I will tell the whole story in a book because it’s worthy of that. I will say this while I love my sons very deeply I do wish that they was blessed to have another father however they would not be who they are without having the father that they have. The main thing that needs to be said is this don’t come for me unless you know my story and you heard it come from me directly. I am Not ashamed of my battle scars the war has been won that part of my life is done. I am at the point in my life that I don’t mind talking about what I have been through if it can help someone else.

My sons are by the same man who I married as well. The marriage did not work out it is what it is, getting married is one thing staying married is another. What is the most important thing that needs to be understood is that sometimes in order to avoid what Not to do you must understand why you should Not do it. I had my oldest in 2001 and my youngest in 2003 that was before Facebook, Twitter and You-Tube. Today there is a wealth of information available that can help the generations after me. Understand this I have never told any black woman to date a black man only. I always say date the person who loves and treats you the best regardless of his skin color because love has no color. There is nothing wrong with a woman wanting to have a family it just has to be done properly. If hurricane Harvey wasn’t an eye opener I am not sure what will there were way too many single black mothers who were totally alone. I am a advocate for breaking the chains of broken homes because they are the destroyer of children’s tomorrows. Every child deserves to be brought up in an intact home. I do Not want any child to walk around with a hole in their heart that was created by their parent. Children can be repaired unlike most adults this is why broken homes must cease be eradicated all together.

Back on topic I remember when I told my mother that I was attracted to white men at first she had a hard time accepting it. My mother told me that she was afraid of me being hurt but as I told her any man can hurt you. The support of interracial dating that is out now wasn’t around in the 80’s and 90’s. Support strengthens people to be brave enough to stand up for what they believe is right think about it civil rights didn’t happen with just Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. acts alone. As black women we must pull together and lift one another up not looked down on other women who messed up. I know that there are some disrespectful black men who are on a vendetta to try to destroy us but they can’t do that as long as we band together. I want to see all black women happy and successful don’t judge me by my past. To know me now is to learn my past so you may learn from it the struggles that I encountered yesterday made me the woman who I am today and I am not ashamed. Hurt people, hurt others and healed people, heal others please know that I am healed woman.

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Where Are The White Guys At?

I can almost hear the people who hate

To see race mixing whispering

Uh Oh here she goes again

Speaking on her feelings

About white men

She’s cooning

She’s a bedwench

How could she be attracted

To white men

It doesn’t make any sense

Of course hateful hearts

Can’t understand

That love is blind

They will not understand

The purpose of someone else’s love life

Black men date interracially

At twice the rate

Of black women

And that’s great

I don’t hate

I only want to know one thing

Where are the white guys at

Who wants a lady that’s black

Let me start off by saying

I’m not looking for help

God and I have that down pat

Looking for a strong believer in God

Who’s honest, loyal and faithful

Looking for commonalities

Like music listening, writing poetry,

Football watching and Bible reading

Being a Dallas fan like me

Would be a bonus treat

I would definitely embrace

Your differences as well

For they make us all unique

A special union I seek

One that’s drama free

You be the salt and I’ll be the pepper

That’s adds a little spice

With God as our guide everything

Will be alright

We won’t worried about the naysayers

Our future has something

In store that’s greater

 

 

 

The “IBM”

So I was watching a very interesting video on YouTube it was about black men who don’t like it when black women swirl. Everyone knows where  I stand on this subject I believe that people should be able to explore their options in peace. It’s about numbers there are not enough black men for every black woman. I don’t know about the other black women but I am not waiting around or going on a scavenger hunt looking for an “IBM”. In case no one knows what IBM means it short for ideal black man. So what is an ideal black man he’s a leader, faithful, honest, loyal….I guess one can throw in his employment, doesn’t have a lot of children, is a great father to the children he does have, educated etc. What made the video interesting is that a black man suggested polygamy as a way to solve the number’s problem and noooooooooo. I don’t know any woman who values herself that would be willing to share a black man…..or any man period.

I don’t hate black men nor do I put them down. I do have a problem with the black men who put black women down. I do believe that black love exists however it’s not for me. I am into various things most of the things black men aren’t if so they are into white women plain and simple. Let’s be real honest for a second most black people have come from broken homes I came from one. I understand that for most people are unstable because they came from dysfunction okay when does it stop? I recognized my issues a long time ago and  I fixed them. Let me give an example when you hear a noise coming from your car don’t you go get it fixed? Okay if a person is broken they need to allow God to fixed them so they don’t go and damage someone else. Anyone who have emotional issues should not get involved with anyone their only pulling someone into their life storm. I’m pulling someone into my peace because life is too short to live any other way.

I guess the reason why  I wrote about this is because I can’t understand why interracial dating is such a huge problem. Growing up I had “One” crush on a black guy I have always been attracted to white men. Anyone who knows me personally know this and  I have dated white men too. Recently I decided that  I am going to do what makes me happy. If I am blessed to see 85 years old  I wanted to have a full life of happiness. The way to be happy is doing things as long as they are within God’s will that make us happy. The only person who we are suppose to live our lives for is God no one else. I pray that people find the one who makes them happy regardless of the person’s color.

Can’t Stop Won’t Stop

Yes! Yes! Yes! Y’all!!! Interracial relationships and marriages are on the rise! Indeed love has no color! People are now widening their options which is a awesome thing. A recent studies shows a huge increase between black and white people since the 1980’s. What’s up with the change? Love is a wonderful thing truly. The internet is definitely making the world smaller and it helps people to broaden their horizons. There has been so many myths and bias pertaining to people of other races the internet shows different. People are using their voices and telling their own stories. Yaaaaaaay to interracial love!! Check out the top states for interracial marriages this may surprise you:

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The state of Hawaii is number one Aloha Ha Ha Ha !!! Hey now!! People all over the world (everybody) join hands start a love train love train!! I’m so excited can’t you tell it’s absolutely refreshing to see something positive pertaining to love. It seems like everyday when you turn on the news a disaster comes jumping out of the screen and we all know that’s there’s more to life than negativity. God wants us to enjoy life and love is one of the most beautiful things that He created. I love love seeing people in love! Join the love train what do you have to lose in my Donald Trump voice!

 

Ordinary People Deserves Extraordinary Love

Good Morning! Happy Friday to All!

So I was watching a YouTube video and it sparked and idea in my mind which I plan to set into motion. Here’s the case the video talked about a black Christian woman who’s interested in a white Christian man where they attend church together. While they never have spoken outside of church the lady feels an attraction to this man yet neither of them are making a move. She says he smiles at her, she smiles back and they have spoken briefly at church. Now we know that the Bible says when a man Finds a wife he Finds a good thing therefore it’s not a woman’s job to pursue. It’s important for these two people to engage with one another outside of church. That way it will be clear for sure exactly what they are feeling towards one another. Based on the video and a comment that I read I wondered why the white man is not approaching this lady. Is he shy? Being that it’s a church setting could he just be being friendly? Does he feel that interracial dating isn’t for him? Is he afraid of rejection? The questions just goes on.

Anyway about the comment that was on the video a person said that many times in the media when it comes to interracial dating you rarely see ordinary people who are in love majority of the time they are usually really good looking and really successful people. While being successful is important everyone will not live in a mansion and everyone will not be millionaires. I know that I will never possess a mansion nor be a millionaire and you know what? That’s okay. I’m fine living a ordinary life being an ordinary person who has an extraordinary personality that deserves an extraordinary kind of love. Yeah I said it. I’m ordinary and I’m proud. My Boaz doesn’t have to be rich but he does have to love Christ be can be rich in love that good enough for me.

So yeah. I’m making it my mission to sharing pictures of ordinary interracial couples that way ordinary people like myself won’t feel intimidated and not miss out on love. We deserve what God has for us remember God is a show off God. He wants His glory so He does things that blows our minds. I really hope that the black woman and white man in the video hook up and I pray that they are successful in love. We all deserve happiness.

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Two In A Trillion

According to the FBI

They estimate that the odds

Of a coincidental DNA match

Are 1 in 108 trillion

We are two in a trillion

A perfect match

It can not be explained away

God has taken two shattered hearts

That were torn apart

He shaped and healed them

They are now glue together

I’m your chocolate

You are my vanilla

Together you and I

There’s no need to question why

Something that’s so brilliant

Is absolutely God sent

God has proven it

We have a blessing from Heaven

We have so much fun

Forget magical that’s reducing

What we have to practical

God is in this for sure

His powers are powerful

There’s so much more in store

You are a good person

I am a good person

And God is good

He does good things

Turning broken things

Into beautiful things