Selective Familyship

Don’t talk to me
About us being family
When a person
Being different
When diversity of thought
When not following the trend
Isn’t welcomed
Don’t talk to me
About our people
Being slaves
When in this
Current day
Some of you come up
With ways daily
To hurt your people
With memes and name calling
How black women
Are ugly, money grubbing,
Attitude, no hair or edges having,
Weave and wig wearing
Females with multiple
Children by different daddies
Warning anyone who will
Listening to stay away
Don’t believe me
Go look on social media
Search the internet
Things that are distorting
Black women’s image will be found
Which tugs at our self-esteem
For the whole world to see
It is the ultimate form of slavery
Bonded by the feelings
Of being unworthy
Of priceless things
Like love and respect
Public humiliation
At it’s finest
Some black men get on the internet
Proclaiming that black women
Just ain’t s***
For the record
I have two sons
By the same man
We got married
He went to prison
He got out
Guess where he is at
Yeap you guessed it
In another female’s bed
Taking care of another man’s kids
While acting like his kids
Don’t exist
When I share about
My history
It’s oh that’s why
She’s bitter and angry
There’s never any understanding
Some of you are
Worse than the Pharisees
Who caught the woman
In adultery
But the man that she was with
Got off scott free
It’s so sad
Nothing about this is funny
Ahhh the hypocrisy
Don’t talk about interracial dating
It’s almost like it’s a crime
For black women
To explore happiness
In some other locality
As if it’s poisioning
The black community
When some black men
Have been enjoying
Having cream in their coffee
Get some of them angry
That’s when things
Really gets ugly
And their true feelings
About you
Comes to the surface
But do you know
When they first had
These feelings
It was in the beginning
They didn’t just happen
And don’t get me
Started on the
Attacks that are used
As silencing tactics
I get so tired
Of being silent
So don’t come to me
With the our people mess
These selective battles
I just can’t stand it
It doesn’t make any sense
Stop being a hypocrite
I’m not for division
Amongst the races
Just leave me out of it
Claiming me
As your family
Or your people
Only when you see fit

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Tameeka’s Top Ten Metallica Songs

I love Metallica! They are one of my all time favorite bands.

I’m enjoying the idea of sharing my top ten songs by my favorite bands. Choosing my favorite Metallica songs was so hard but I did it. So here are my top ten songs:

10. The Memory Remains
9. Sad but True
8. A Wolf and Man
7. Wherever I May Roam
6. Until it Sleeps
5. Enter Sandman
4. Orion
3. Fade to Black
2. For Whom the Bell Tolls
1. One

It was so hard other songs that are my favorites that didn’t make the list are Nothing Else Matters, The Unforgiven and Master of Puppets.

80s Hair Bands

My, My, My, My, My! Kip Winger hands down was one of the most attractive lead singers of an 80s band. In the 80s it was a time for hair bands like Winger, Poison, Twisted Sister, Motley Crue, Skid Row, etc. Well you get it.

Winger is an amazing band. My favorite song by Winger is called Easy Come Easy Go which is my attitude towards love now a days! The video for that song had so much energy. I laugh at people who question my knowledge about rock and heavy metal. Play me in Song Pop! I’ll prove my knowledge.

Today I listened to every hair band there is especially Winger. Music can take a person back!

Here are my top 10 hair bands:
10.Slaughter
9.Warrant
8.Quiet Riot
7.Cinderella
6.Poison
5.Winger
4.Skid Row
3.Bon Jovi
2.Motley Crue
1.Guns N Roses

It was so hard to pick the top ten because I love all of the hair bands.

Which Playlist is Best?

Am I going to listen to the Red Hot Chili Peppers or Faith No More? Jack White is in a class of his own. He always wins with me.

I’m doing my assignment soon so I want music to play all the way through. Do you remember a time when albums were made instead of mixtapes? Yeah. Me too, it was in the 90s. In the 90s every genre was great it’s the truth. The 90s music could stomp today’s music into the dirt. Don’t make me call Mike Patton over here to prove it.
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Okay. Faith No More is my choice of music for today. Epic! What it is? You want it all but you can’t have it. It’s in your face but you can’t grab it. Mike Patton has a high octane voice that is thought to be higher than Mariah Carey’s. That’s amazing. The riffs on Epic though and that video! The videos of today are nothing like years ago.

Waiting to Be Forgiven

Learning the art of forgiveness can sometimes be a hard lesson to take. Everyone talks about the hurt that has happened to them and how they have trouble forgiving the person who has wronged them. Sadly we are living in a world where people are always the victim and they never accept accountability for anything. Still, does anyone ever think about how would it feel if the shoe were on the other foot? What if it’s you who is waiting to be forgiven? Is it ever too late to say that you are sorry? Whether it was unintentional or intentional everyone has hurt someone before. Nobody is above offending someone.

Yes. It’s always best to forgive after all forgiveness is for our peace of mind. It’s mentally exhausting stressing about something that we have no control over. Life is not like a dvd there are no alternate endings things are what they are. So there is no need to continuously regurgitate a situation.

I read a post about forgiveness that was interesting it almost sounded like a guilt trip. It said something about not blocking blessings by holding grudges aka unforgiveness in one’s heart. When we are the ones waiting to be forgiven we can’t speed up the process no matter how much it may hurt. Like a cut or bruise it takes time to heal.

I also thought about a television show that featured a situation that required forgiveness. A boyfriend caught his girlfriend kissing a close friend of theirs. The boyfriend was destroyed he loved his girlfriend so much. The girlfriend apologized and the boyfriend accepted it however he asked her for space. For weeks the girlfriend did everything that she could to make situations happen so that she could cross her boyfriend’s path. Finally the girlfriend built up the courage to talk to her boyfriend. She told him that it had been weeks and that she wanted to talk. The boyfriend called her out on her actions immediately telling her that he told her that he needed some space and that she only wanted to talk so that she could feel better about herself. He further went on to say that he knew that it was hard for her but it wasn’t his problem.

When we try to force a person to forgive us on our terms it can make the person that we offended question if our apology was even authentic. We have to remember that everyone is different and heal at different rates. This is why it’s important to respect a person’s space if they ask for it.

Forgiveness is a two way street. If we ever hurt someone we should apology quickly, own it, and make things right. When we own what we have done it should not be shared. Making a person share the blame for what we have done is never cool. Sometimes we can hurt a person so badly that it may actually burn a bridge and we have to move on. As we get older it should be about doing adult things like producing a healthy environment with the people that we care about. It’s childish and selfish to care only about ourselves. It’s important if we can to not do things that can jeopardize relationships with the people who we care about. I would rather spend my time enjoying the relationships that I have with people instead of waiting to be forgiven.

Happy Birthday to Princess Diana

She was a beautiful lady inside and out! Everyone loved Princess Diana that’s why she was called the people’s princess. She had an amazing fashion sense. She left a lasting impression on everyone that she came in contact with. One of my favorite pictures was of her and Mother Teresa. It was so sad when she passed away no telling what she would have been doing if she was alive today.

Happy Birthday Princess Diana.

Rest In Peace.

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God’s Children

In 1994, I was working at a convenience store, one of my coworkers and I would bring in different cassettes to help the shift pass by. She brought in Shania Twain for me to listen to and I brought in Korn. We listened to Shania Twain’s song called “Any Man of Mine”. I told my coworker how much I enjoyed Shania’s song; it had a different sound. To me it was like the turning point of country music. I put on my Korn cassette and the song called “Blind” began to play. My co-worker was like “Tameeka that music is too hard for me”.

I have been a huge fan of Korn every since the band first came out. My mustang was covered in bumper stickers and Korn was one of them.

As I have shared I was raised in a Christian household but I have not always followed closely with Christ and as a result have made mistakes. When it comes to being a Christian we should be quick to love and slow to judge because everyone have blemishes that are on our life’s record.

I remember when Brian “Head” Welch left Korn to focus on having a relationship with Christ. It was a very life changing experience for him. God will take us away from people and things as a way to get our attention it’s the only way that we will listen. Brian endured a lot but through it all God had his back several events showed him that.

One day God told him to rejoin the band Korn. God told Brian to look out at the audience and that all those people are His children too. The hardest part of Brian’s walk probably was and still is other Christians being judgemental. Of all the people in the world Christians should be the most understanding.

Now don’t get me wrong I understand that God says to judge righteously but being judgemental is different. When we as Christians set up boundaries about who real Christians are or what they are called to do it set up barriers. Boundaries becomes unnecessary making barriers blocking us from giving good service. Good service is allowing God to use us so that we can do God’s work. If we as Christians become selective of who we reach it causes people who wants to have a relationship with Christ to become discouraged. Discouragement is never helpful to anyone. I know that I never want to be responsible for sending a person to hell, that’s a burden that I do not want to bear.

The Bible is filled with people who went through trials and tribulations, this is why we should pray for discernment so that we won’t get in the way of what God is doing. God can use anyone because we are God’s children. There is hope for everyone because God can save anyone.

The Bible tells us to be careful how we treat people that we may be entertaining an angel. God is not one of confusion He would not give anyone permission to mistreat someone based on their views.

John 7:24 Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.