Valuable Lesson

There are so many things that I have learned over the years some of the things were hard lessons. Although it’s said that experience is the best teacher in some cases I would like to elect not to take the lesson.

The job where I worked in the 90s had a lot of great people. I enjoyed going to work just to see them. My friend and I met one another at this job. We became great friends instantly. She was a big help to me when my mother past away in 1997 with her support. At my mother’s funeral I can’t tell you the number of people who promised to have mine and my sisters’ backs. I can tell you the number that kept their promises, it was about five people perhaps. My mother’s funeral was packed with people too. When tough times hits you find out who your true friends are. I didn’t need money I needed a listening ear and she was there. I had a lot of responsibility on me at the time.

Recently, I reconnected with my best friend. About ten years ago I saw her while I was at work and we talked for a few months sadly we lost contact. To be honest I was going out with a guy was extremely jealous and selfish. Thankfully I broke up with him it was one of the best decisions that I have ever made in my life.

It’s important when people are in relationships or marriages to make sure that the person is happy but not at the expense of losing friendships and family. It’s a big red flag when a companion wants you all to themselves. So run for the hills.

Anywho, my friend was on my mind and so I looked for her on social media. I could not find my friend anywhere on social media. She doesn’t have any social media at all. While I was searching for her I found out that some of the people my friend and I worked with passed away. It really hurt me too. Especially when I found out that her mother passed away during the time that we had lost contact. I was devastated, it’s a feeling that I don’t want to know ever again.

It’s so important to stay connected to the people who we care about. Money can always be earned back but time once it’s gone that’s it. The most valuable lesson that I learned is to never lose contact with great friends. I promised my friend that I would not lose contact with her ever again. Great friends are hard to find. They are like precious diamonds. We should hold our friends tight and never let them go. I know that’s what I am going to be doing from now on.

k.d.lang

k.d.lang is a Canadian born singer-songwriter who helped to make the 80s and 90s awesome. She has one of the most beautiful voices in the business. My favorite song by her is called “Constant Craving”. When she was on MTV Unplugged her voice sounded just like the album; the entire performance was flawless

For the people of today MTV Unplugged performances are for musicians with true talent. In other words no studio effects like Auto-Tunes are allowed. Auto-Tunes is nothing more than pitch-correcting technology used to correct flawed voices!!! Yeah I said it! LMBO!!!

k.d.lang is currently on The Ingenue Redux US Tour. The Grammy winner recently won an award from the Americana Awards. When you get a chance check out her music it’s what I am listening to today. I guarantee that her voice will have you craving for more constantly!

I’ll Give You Trouble

My youngest son love old school games, music, and movies. We have so much in common. Last week he asked me if I could order some board games. The games that my son asked for were Jenga, Connect 4, and Trouble. I ordered the games online quickly.

As soon as the games came in the mail, he, my niece, and I began to play the game Trouble. Anyone who knows the rules of the game of Trouble knows that you can’t get out of home base until you get a six. My son got a six and another six. I got a six too. My niece still had not gotten a six and all four of her pieces were sitting at home. My niece didn’t stop until she got a six. She didn’t get frustrated at all.

This put me in the mindset about God’s timing, little things gets me to do that. We can’t get caught up looking around at other people’s turns. We have to stay focused on what God has for us once it’s time for us to step out on our journey.

Anywho, my niece kept popping that bubble until she came out of home base. Like how the turtle beat the hare she won the game too! Our timing isn’t important only God’s timing is important. God does things on His time and His timing is perfect. So when thoughts of doubt attempt to enter into your mind give them trouble and keep popping that bubble.

To My BFF

We have been friends
Since the 90s
You have always been there for me
Over the years
There have been situations
That have occurred
Which helped me to grow
As well as appreciate people
And the lessons that
They have taught
Many people have crossed
My path
Some have remained
Some have changed
Into people I don’t remember
And some have became total strangers
I have realized that true friends
Have a calling in our lives
You and I can go years
Without talking
But once we talk
It’s like we never
Missed anytime at all
I don’t want us
To go lots of years again
Time is flying
It should be spent
Hanging out and making memories
Life is short
I want you to stay in my present
So that you will be in my future
We have so much in common
Especially our birthdays
Both are in May
Yours in on the 14th
Mines is on the 17th
Taurus Baby
That Brahma Bull
We are kind
We are loyal
I am so thankful for you
My BFF

That Special One

Ben Okri once said,” The most authentic thing about us is our capacity to create, to overcome, to endure, to transform, to love and to be greater than our suffering.”

I truly believe that everything happens for a reason, that everything good or bad molds us into our unique selves. Love is one of the most beautiful things that we all want at one point in our lives. There are some people who lie and front about love, those kinds of people are fools.

One of my guy friends said something that was absolutely profound. I have to be totally honest I learned a heck of a lot from him. Anywho he said,” that every man wants that one special woman”. This friend also told me, “that a man knows when he first meets a woman what his intentions are”. We have seen memes that have said that it doesn’t matter what you do for a man you can be the best cook, great career, beautiful face, body but the heart wants what the heart wants. A woman cannot keep a man that does not want to be kept. So many times we get on people about their lack of commitment but being in a loveless relationship is dangerous. Being honest and upfront with a love interest is always best. Let a person know what you want and if they don’t want the same set them free. If you don’t see a person in your future, set them free. It’s unfair to rob a person of their time because life is so short.

Prince Harry has had his share of girlfriends whom he dated from two years up to seven. He said that when he saw Meghan he knew that she was the one. Meghan is American, divorced, three years older than Prince Harry and the special one for him. Everything that has ever occurred in Meghan’s life molded into her unique self and made her fit for a prince. In less than two years Meghan is Harry’s wife, it doesn’t take years for a man to marry a woman.

There has been so much speculation about the reasons why Prince Harry called his ex just days before his wedding. It was their final call, a parting call in which they both acknowledged Harry was moving on. In my opinion, I think that what he did was smart. There is nothing worse than a scorned ex that brings up ancient history fixed the way they recollect aka selective memories. Like Bedrock twist, twist!!!
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Breakups are always hard but it’s best to iron out anything kinds of misunderstandings in order to find a common understanding which is that Prince Harry has moved on.

I have always talked about the relationship of Rick and Michonne, yes it’s tv but I want a love like that! Look beyond Rick and Michonne’s skin color because real love runs deep. Michonne knows the right time to give a suggestion and to get Rick to look at things differently. Michonne also stands behinds Rick’s decision even if she doesn’t always agree with it. The most important thing about Rick and Michonne is that they have one another’s backs. They both have encountered tragedies and in the end, found something beautiful which is their love.
True love is like something off of tv. Yeah, I said. With the way that modern day society is set up being faithful is like make-believe or a fairy tale. As we all know that true love isn’t a fairy tale just look at His Royal Highness The Duke of Sussex and Her Royal Highness The Duchess of Sussex. True love is worth fighting for. Everyone deserves their special someone.

Ray of Hope

I don’t have to experience someone else’s love
To be happy for them
There are so many
Ways to be able to relate
Maybe it was heartbreak
That makes me want to see others happy
And for them to not endure my mistakes
It’s never too late to realize what it takes for love’s sake
I don’t need other people’s possessions
I know that God is in the blessing business
I can go through life storms
Because I know that there is a rainbow afterwards
There is a balance that God manages
Which is why through it all
I believe that it’s what God
Has intended
What was meant
All things works
Together for good
I will trust God
Like I always do

The Haunted Mansion

I find the men who have trouble with commitment quite comical. No one and I do mean no one is going to stop me from being happy for people who are getting married or have gotten married especially for Her Royal Highness, The Duchess of Sussex and Duke of Sussex, Earl of Dumbarton and Baron Kilkeel. I was so stoked for Prince Harry and Meghan’s wedding yesterday, ooh and that gospel choir though!!!

These kinds of men will tug (attempt to anyway) at a woman’s self-esteem until they are able to bring them down to their level/standards. Newsflash if a man is one of substance he would not try to bring a woman down. Mind you if they are able to bring a woman down it is not for a commitment it’s only to use and abuse her while bashing the woman after she has given in and done what he wanted. A woman isn’t good enough for commitment but she’s good enough to have sex with.

Women must be careful of these kinds of men real men don’t do these kinds of things. These kinds of men possess soul ties so many souls that are tied to them that they no longer possess a temple but more like a haunted mansion. They have trouble with commitment however unbeknownst to them soul ties are for life and they need to get their lives right. We all need to pray for discernment so that we don’t connect with the wrong people.

As long as we are living we all deserve to smile so there is no time to entertain people whose main objective is to prey on you. We are better than that.

Twilight World

Swing Out Sister are my favorite pop group. The music from the 80s was so touched by them. BET played a lot of their music back in the day.They are considered as a pop group but their music sounds very soulful. There are so many songs by them that I love. One of my favorite songs is called Twilight World!! Check out the lyrics:

Twilight World
Song by Swing Out Sister

It’s twilight world
It’s twilight world
Time out
World in a hurry
There’s more love than money changing hands
Lights out
Thinking out loud
Turn your back on the world outside
Night thoughts
No one can share
As darkness breaks through another day
Secrets
Talking out loud
Silence waits just a dream away
Forget lonely crowds, unfriendly faces
They’ll soon became familliar places
Before too long, before too long
Don’t be fooled by love songs and lonely hearts
You’re living in a twilight world
Don’t be fooled by love songs and lonely hearts
Don’t give in to the twilight world
Time out
World in a hurry
There’s more love than money changing hands
Lights out
Thinking out loud
Turn your back on the world outside
Forget lonely crowds, unfriendly faces
They’ll soon become familiar places
Before too long, before too long
Don’t be fooled by love songs and lonely hearts. You’re living in twilight world.
Don’t be fooled by love songs and lonely hearts. Don’t give in to the twilight world.
Don’t be fooled by love songs and lonely hearts. You’re living in a twilight world. Don’t be fooled by love songs and lonely hearts. Don’t give in to the twilight world.

Happy Birthday Kalieel

You were born ten days before my birthday
You are one of the most beautiful gifts
That I have ever been blessed to receive
Happy Birthday to my youngest son
Ever since you were born
You have been a ray of sunshine
And one of the best things
That I have ever held in my arms
Besides your brother
You know me better than anyone
In spite of you having autism
You know my favorite
Music, tv shows, video games, and football team
Our number one favorite thing is praying
Such an amazing young man
You always know how to brighten my day
When I am feeling down
You tell me that
Things will be okay
I could go on forever in a day
Telling you how much
Of a blessing that you are to me
I am so thankful
That God gave me you
I love you very much
You are my everything
To my heart
There is so much joy that you bring
Happy 15th Birthday Kalieel
I pray that God blesses
You with the desires
Of your heart
Each and every one

I Stand Corrected

Yesterday I wrote a post about the out of wedlock rate for black single mothers as 72%. I stand corrected after further research the number has grown to 77%. It’s sad to me instead of some people wanting to face the issue they rather question the information. I read a black guy’s comment in a video attempting to debunk the number based on most black people not taking a census. SMH! I don’t need a census I see a lot of single black mothers. Denial is a heck of a drug!

Another thing when I spoke of people attacking me for speaking the truth I still stand on that. Some people don’t like to hear the truth. Many times when some people have a losing position and are unable to formulate a sound logical argument to counter what a person is saying the next thing they do is attack you!!! These people will do whatever they can to attempt to discourage a person from speaking truth. I am not worried I am not perfect and neither are the people attacking me. How about coming up with solutions for this out of wedlock rate problem? If not the numbers will continue to grow. So who’s to blame for it?

http://www.washingtonexaminer.com/77-black-births-to-single-moms-49-for-hispanic-immigrants

This is an old video but it has a great message.