friendship

Waiting to Be Forgiven

Learning the art of forgiveness can sometimes be a hard lesson to take. Everyone talks about the hurt that has happened to them and how they have trouble forgiving the person who has wronged them. Sadly we are living in a world where people are always the victim, and they never accept accountability for anything. Still, does anyone ever think about how would it feel if the shoe were on the other foot? What if it’s you who is waiting to be forgiven? Is it ever too late to say that you are sorry? Whether it was unintentional or intentional, everyone has hurt someone before. Nobody is above offending someone.

Yes. It’s always best to forgive after all forgiveness is for our peace of mind. It’s mentally exhausting stressing about something that we have no control over. Life is not like a DVD; there are no alternate endings things are what they are. So there is no need to regurgitate a situation continuously.

I read a post about forgiveness that was interesting; it almost sounded like a guilt trip. It said something about not blocking blessings by holding grudges aka unforgiveness in one’s heart. When we are the ones waiting for forgiveness, we can’t speed up the process no matter how much it may hurt. Like a cut or bruise, it takes time to heal.

I also thought about a television show that featured a situation that required forgiveness. A boyfriend caught his girlfriend kissing a close friend of theirs. The boyfriend felt destroyed; he loved his girlfriend so much. The girlfriend apologized, and the boyfriend accepted it; however, he asked her for space. For weeks the girlfriend did everything that she could to make situations happen so that she could cross her boyfriend’s path. Finally, the girlfriend built up the courage to talk to her boyfriend. She told him that it had been weeks and that she wanted to speak. The boyfriend called her out on her actions, immediately expressing that he told her that he needed some space and that she only wanted to talk so that she could feel better about herself. He further went on to say that he knew that it was hard for her, but it wasn’t his problem.

When we try to force a person to forgive us on our terms, it can make the person that we offended question if our apology was even authentic. We have to remember that everyone is different and heal at different rates. It’s essential to respect a person’s space if they ask for it.

Forgiveness is a two-way street. If we ever hurt someone, we should make an apology quickly, own it, and make things right. When we own what we have done, it should not be shared. Making a person share the blame for what we have done is never cool. Sometimes we can hurt a person so severely that it may burn a bridge and we have to move on. As we get older, it should be about doing adult things like producing a healthy environment with the people that we care about. It’s childish and selfish to care only about ourselves. It’s vital if we can to not do things that can jeopardize relationships with the people we care about. I would rather spend my time enjoying the relationships that I have with people instead of waiting to be forgiven.

To My BFF

We have been friends
Since the 90s
You have always been there for me
Over the years
There have been situations
That have occurred
Which helped me to grow
As well as appreciate people
And the lessons that
They have taught
Many people have crossed
My path
Some have remained
Some have changed
Into people I don’t remember
And some have became total strangers
I have realized that true friends
Have a calling in our lives
You and I can go years
Without talking
But once we talk
It’s like we never
Missed anytime at all
I don’t want us
To go lots of years again
Time is flying
It should be spent
Hanging out and making memories
Life is short
I want you to stay in my present
So that you will be in my future
We have so much in common
Especially our birthdays
Both are in May
Yours in on the 14th
Mines is on the 17th
Taurus Baby
That Brahma Bull
We are kind
We are loyal
I am so thankful for you
My BFF

Like a Sister

We see it on television or social media every day a person who was considered to be a sister who betrayed another in the worse way. Is there any true sisterhood anymore? Are there any loyal sisters today?

It’s all about the respect and the value that people choose to place on things like friendships, relationships, marriages, and yes sisterhood.

I saw a beautiful post and it’s so how I am. The post said ” I am a woman’s woman and a faithful friend. I won’t run off with your man. I won’t hate you because you’re beautiful. I’ll celebrate your success as my own. I’ll keep your secrets and listen to your rants. I choose my friends carefully and if I choose you, I’ll love you like a sister.

I don’t take pleasure in pulling other sisters down. No matter where I am in life through my highs and lows I am never stingy with a compliment. If a sister has lost weight, a new place, new hair-do I will tell her, that I am proud, that she’s beautiful. Never will I undermine a sister’s accomplishment she deserves her props. One thing I don’t do and that’s jock another sister’s style, I am a confident woman I don’t constantly need the spotlight.

This world is already wicked and filled with heartless hateful people. Being negative is easy to do, seeing the best in people can be hard if we focus on the bad things only. There is peace in positivity.

Being mean and fault finding all the time isn’t healthy it’s good to have awareness of the negative people and situations. However, it’s good to enjoy things as well as people that come along.

I choose to believe that there are still good people and that means sisters of every color. Flowers bloom together, they don’t compete because each has their own unique beauty. I’m keeping faith about true sisterhood. It exists.

Balance Is Key

Never forget the people who was there for you when you had no one. They are the ones who you will need again this is a true fact. God puts everyone in our lives for a reason so balancing your friends and new relationship is key. It’s important to keep in contact with your friends. You never want it to come off as you only contact them when there is a problem. Friendship is a two way street if you don’t have time to talk a simple text is fine too anything to show a person that you are thinking about them. I get that life gets busy but if we really want to time can be taken out it’s all about priorities. One has to have the want to to do. Yeah I said it.

Relationships and marriages are completely different don’t get it twisted people can walk away from a relationship not so for a marriage. I am not saying not to give a relationship your all. After all relationships has to happen prior to marriage so I get it. What I am saying is don’t forget the people who will be there if the relationship goes wrong. As far as I am concerned best friends are not friends they are family. Family is for life through ups and downs as well as thick and thin. Proverbs 18:24

A man [that hath] friends must shew himself: and there is a friend [that] stickers closer than a brother.

 

Appreciate Those Who Celebrate You

Good Morning to everyone! I am a person who gets up early but isn’t a morning person until I have had my coffee. When I woke I had a text and I was like man because I was hoping that it was from someone else. I’m just being honest we are all guilty of this. God place something inside of me this morning and that was appreciate those who celebrate you. The same way someone else took the time to text or even inbox they did not have to. It’s about holding on and valuing these people they are special truly. Besides the people that we are waiting to hear from don’t value you as much because if they did we would hear from them more often. Never push away a person who care they may stay away everyone has their limit. People can be closed doors too maybe the reason that they don’t see you because they aren’t meant to. Let’s not do self inflicted harm to ourselves let go of the people that we don’t hear from obviously that chapter is done. So delete their number and unfriend too friends who are true are people that love you too and would never harm. Keep who celebrates you and remove those that don’t you don’t hear from them away so you won’t miss them.  Love yourself enough to let go of uncertainty and cling to the definitely. Remember communication is a two way street text those special people before that text you there should no ego when it comes to the people that we care about because they care about us. Have a fantastic day. Blessings!

I Am A Rider

Allow me to make this crystal clear

I ride for my team

Anyone who means

A whole lot to me

Has my absolute loyalty

Whether it’s friendships, family

Relationships or the Dallas Cowboys

By the side of those that I

Care about is where I stand

Never doubt always understand

I don’t keep tabs

Of what I do

Leave the checks and balances

To an accountant

I’m a true friend

There no need to recognize

Me constantly for what I do

For what I do comes from

My heart as well as way

Deep down inside

I speak the truth and no lies

Always loyal and I never turn

My back on anyone

Nothing can comes between us

No fight

No distance

Definitely not an outsider

Because I am a rider

I’m in it for the long haul

Through every season

Winter, Spring, Summer and Fall

Not fairweathered

Never changing call me evergreen

Every word I mean

I am loyal forever

Like a soldier

I am a rider

Believe that

 

We’re Just Friends

Is it possible?  Can a man and a woman be just friends only? This applies to straight people. Yes we all realize how important friendship is it should be the foundation of a relationship. There’s more to a relationship than the basic things we have to be able to get along with our mate. What I am talking about is not a relationship just friendship can it happen without it developing into more.  Definitely  not speaking of being friends after a relationship that has ended it’s rare that a friendship works out.We’re not suppose to be in a relationship with everyone. Friendship if it’s true last a lot longer than some relationships and marriages. People who enter our lives have different assignments this must be kept in mind.

Can a woman and man enjoy the same things like football, same music, movies, TV shows and hobbies?  Most men and women who are friends only have had some sort of sexual contact at least once. Or wonder what it would be like to cross the line however the thing about crossing a line there is no turning back. Curiosity should not overpower ruining a great friendship how much do you value it. Friends true ones anyway are hard to find so when you’re blessed with them do what it takes to keep them. That means not placing a friendship in jeopardy regardless of the person’s  sex. I  don’t know about anyone else but I rather have a lasting friendship over most things any day.

Communication

Most problems between people would be saved if only they would communicate. If something is bothering you say it don’t throw hints talk clear the air. It isn’t fair to the person that you have a problem with. You have a mouth use it. Look at it like this when a baby is hungry, sick, upset etc what does it do? It cries so a parent know it needs something. A baby should not communicate better than an adult it’s time to grow up. Great friendships and relationships have been broken up all behind people not communicating and having an ego which aren’t a good combo.

There’s no need to write a thousand words about something that’s so simple. Don’t lose a treasured relationship because you refuse to open your mouth.

The problem could  be simple to fix but you will never know if you don’t talk. If you value your friendship or relationship save it. Talk.

 

Your Biggest Fan

I’m your biggest fan

I will give all the support

That I possibly can

Willing to do things that

You can see

Like giving you encouraging

And super uplifting speeches

Rooting for you will be no secret

Or things that you can not see

Even if you were to stare

Like my nightly prayers

Anything to show that I care

Just know that my support

Will not go anywhere

My friendship is not fair weathered

It’s durable like Tupperware

With the strength of DeMarcus Ware

You better believe I will always

Be there

Believe this it’s not always about

What you can see

That holds the most importance

Like air

Without it we would not last a minute

Never forget or doubt

Cause my support is like a winning

Ticket that’s in your pocket

All you have to do is cash it

Never doubt the strength

Of great support

As they say in the game of spades

The strongest cards are the ones

That haven’t been played

Just to let you know

I am here always

In every kind of way

I will do whatever

I can for a friend