happiness

Single Black Mom

Growing up I always told myself

That I would not be a single parent

Raising kids without help

I always felt

That life belonged to someone else

There’s no lucky charms

It’s time to ring the alarm

What’s going on in the

Black community

Making it seem like being

A single black mom

Is an awesome thing as if

Being a struggling mother is a way

To earn stripes

Being a single parent

Doing it all alone

Is not right

It’s quite pathetic

Some of this black fathers

Don’t even care enough

To co-parent

They like to forget

Or assume that paying

Child support will make up for it

This situation is a huge epidemic

One that no one should mimic

It isn’t a lifestyle

That’s glamorise

Say what you want about me

It won’t change how I feel

A stable upbringing should

Always be within our sight

Some of us are just too

Blind to see

I was once like other people too

Now I look back and think

What did I do

To end up with a baby father

Like you

Like a song on the radio

I listened to your tune

Now I am here looking like a fool

Man I wish that I had the analogy

Of no wedding no wound

Had I had it

It would have giving me more

Time to get to know you

I wished that my old schooled ways

Had of saved me from

What I am going through today

My sons would have been saved

From the typical black

Single parent home

It’s so wrong for my sons

To grow up withdrawn

I wished that only I

Could bare this burden alone

Still this is the life that I chose

My choices I own

Allowing my fleshy goals

To take control

Thankful for allowing Christ

To help me to be reborn

And I have learned to never

Put a deadline

On God’s time

For He has no limits

That sometimes it’s not

Always the things that we planned

That are the best

But in fact it’s the things

That are not planned

Which are the true miracles

Not trying to get all spiritual

But God’s way is the best way

For sure

So I will embrace

What God has on the way

Being a single mom

Isn’t the end

But the beginning

Of what God has

For my family and me

Thank You God All Almighty

 

 

 

 

 

Second Time Around

When you can look back at past mistakes and own up to your choices it says a lot about your work with Christ. Our God is awesome. I can’t wait to see what He has in store for me!

 

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God’s Creations

Hey Everyone Blessings!!

One of classes that I am taking is called Cross-Cultural Psychology this week’s assignment was to choose a country to write about it’s culture and how are their emotions. I chose to write about Italy. I also had to compare it to the culture of the United States what a huge difference that there are. There is so much that I learned about Italy that I didn’t know like it’s a little larger than the state of Arizona but has ten times the population. How Italy has only been a country for 153 years. I learned how important family is to Italians not just immediate but extended too. How most Italians children don’t leave home until they are 30 and even though they are gone their mothers still cooks for them. Or how they talk with their hands and doesn’t hold feelings in. Practically every place in Italy holds some type of significance.  Vernice is my favorite place it’s the most beautiful and romantic place in the whole world.

My class got me to thinking about the beautiful things that God has blessed us with and the gifts that helps us to create more. I love all the beautiful things that we have here on earth and the things that we are blessed to experience. How God took so much care with all that He created including each one of us. God loves is everywhere all we have to do is take a look around. It blows my mind and gives my heart so much joy thinking about the goodness of the Lord. I’m so glad that I know Him and so very thankful for all that He does. I thank God for waking me up. I thank God for my children. I thank God for my family immediate and extended. I thank God for my friends. I thank God for every experience good or bad and the ones that made me happy or sad. For every blessing that I have ever had I am glad. Father God thank You!

 

Thank You Jesus

As I have shared I have started back to college and I cannot believe that I am done with my first course already. The start was rocky but with God’s help I kept pushing. I have come up with ways to stay focused. I’m super excited. I received an A. This is a giant step of a life changing  journey. I know that I could not have done it by myself. When I think of all the many times that God has brought me through I simply cannot thank Him enough. If I had a million tongues and  hands it still wouldn’t be enough to thank Him or Praise Him. I’m thankful that He can look into my heart. I just want to Thank You Jesus!

1 Thessalonians 5:18 – In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.

Blossom

Blossom- mature or develop in a promising or healthy way

Like the flowers in the spring love can become a beautiful thing. Love doesn’t need help to start in fact I believe when it’s rushed or forced it tends to fall apart. I was watching TWD and it got me to thinking about Rick and Michonne romance. It wasn’t rushed it happened slowly over time. I know what you are thinking “Tameeka what are you talking about.” The chemistry between Rick and Michonne was happening in a subtle way from almost day one. Real love starts very much that way. When Rick and Michonne shared their first kiss I was super excited. I loved seeing interracial love happening in a huge way. Though I always stress that love has no color.

 

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When we are in love we hope and we pray that it doesn’t go away. Love is something that we want to last forever. We all want to experience the love from the 1940’s, 1950’s or even earlier when people fought for what they wanted and won. When all they had were letters and telegrams to rely on yet with all of the technology of today. Holding on to love should be less harder. Indeed it’s the question of the heart and the will to not give up. But we have to allow God to guide us and we have it trust the process. We will know when we have it can’t be ignored .

As I have said before I am not a hopeless romantic but I do admire the beauty of true love. I mean who doesn’t? I’d love to experience real love Rick and Michonne style. You know the kind where the two people involved don’t care about what outsiders think but the people on the outside knows that it’s real. So they want to experience it for themselves. Yes love is so incredibly awesome.

It Just Flows

Having the mindset of not caring about what others think of you is absolutely total freedom. When you care only about what God thinks of you the positivity just flows. I want what God wants and God has the best for us all. It feels wonderful to think positive. I love it so much. Thankful for all the positive vibes that God sends my way. I just want good things always and for others.

Beautiful Things

There are certain parts of the day that really get me to appreciate God’s wonder. How can anyone look at God’s many creations and Not appreciate them. Things like the Word of God, prayer, crisp Autumn breezes, sunsets, sunrises, blue skies, blue oceans, friends, family and true love. So many wonderful things our God is an awesome God. A sunset is so beautiful it gets a person to relax and think nothing about reflecting upon a bad day. God has given us some things to help us to enjoy our lives here. I just want to thank Him for taking the time to create all of the beautiful things that He did. God loved us that much to created things that helps us to relax and become inspired. Do you know how many poems that there are written about the things that I mentioned above? Priceless things that inspires us like forever. Thank You Father God for blessing us to enjoy all of this beauty. Father God Father Your Are Magnificent.

Reflection

My My My time flies doesn’t it? Where does it go? This week is the last week of the course that I have been taking. The last assignment that I had to turn in is a writing about my reflection of the course. What will I do differently in my next course? What will I continue to do?  It got me to thinking ( which is no surprise) not just about this course but my walk with Christ, my sons, my relationships my past period. It had me feeling perplexed for a split second. My life though not perfect I’m content with my decisions because I have Christ in my life. Like what was I even thinking my life is beyond a book report this isn’t the movie the Breakfast Club. Anyway I trust God with everything always if there’s one that I have learned that’s report worthy I am nothing without God. I will not push Him out of my life He has brought me a long ways for that I am truly thankful. Sometimes I just like to write out how awesome that God is not that I could ever forget.

Recently and this is kinda off topic I lost contact with one of my close friends for some reason they were on my mind heavily. This friend was a Christian too on fire for God when I spoke with them it turned out that they had experienced a huge tragedy and in fact has turned away from God. What a bummer. I mean really everything that happens in our lives is not God’s fault all the time. It is sometimes the devil or our poor choices that put us into certain situations.

Having a strong relationship with God helps with understanding many things I may hurt but I won’t allow anything to cause me to fall away from Christ. When I think back on the many times that God has helped me there is just no way that I can turn away from Him. Some of the worst times that occurred was when my relationship with Christ wasn’t as strong. What I have learned is that the devil attacks us at our weakest time. But with God He keeps us strong all we have to do is trust Him. He speaks to us, comforts us, loves us and guides us all we have to do is let Him.

 

Happily Ever After

Normally I don’t write a lot of posts on celebrities but every once in awhile I do when there’s an awesome story. In case some of you don’t know NFL Seahawks quarterback Russell Wilson and R & B singer Ciara tied the knot almost three days ago. I know what you are thinking okay Tameeka what’s the point of this. Well I’ll tell you their love story is rather fascinating. Russell Wilson is a Christian. They both made the decision Not to have sex until they got married. They were engaged for quite a while and that says a whole lot about Russell’s Christian walk imagine all the people that they have inspired including me.

Ciara hasn’t had good relationships in the past she has a child with rapper Future and he has bad mouth about her the whole time that they have been split up. Word to the wise any ex who spends too much time talking about their ex whether it’s good or bad are not over them. Otherwise why waste all the time and energy talking about a person who they have entirely no dealing with think about it. Anyways back on track Future talked so bad about Ciara to whomever would listen on Twitter and on radio shows to name a few. She must be on his mind a lot and I bet even more now that she’s married. I’m sure the things that he said hurt her. He only did that in hopes of ruining her happiness. God rewarded her for not going down to his level. Besides she has Russell he showed her what a real man is. Why ruin your blessing acting ugly? It’s just not worth it.

What we need to take from this story is that God is in control no human has control over your happiness in your life. We have to trust him always. We must never allow a person to think that they can speak existence into our lives because guess what they can’t. God has a blessing with our names on it. The best is yet to come. Believe that. Ciara has her king they got married in London in a castle which was great considering all the frogs that she had to kiss in order to have her king. Kiss the frogs but don’t have sex with the frogs. You don’t want warts. People carry spirits it’s important not to come in contact or entertain the wrong ones. LMBO!!!

Anyway God has us to do or go through certain things for a reason. Having sex before marriage ruins things no one wants to end up being just another notch in a person’s belt. Many people laughed when Russell and Ciara chose to wait to have sex but look at them now. There is no doubt in my mind that Russell will be a great husband look how he has demonstrated his leadership Yeap he’s definitely King worthy. I’m so very happy for them. May they enjoy many blissful years together with God as their foundation I am sure that they will!

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Long Distance Relationships

Relationships are hard add long distance to the situation and it becomes harder. I’m a very optimistic person did Ruth not meet her Boaz? What is meant will be when God is apart of it anyway. I so believe that God has the right person for everyone. It’s just knowing when the person is right. How will you know if a person that cross your path is just destined to be just a friend?  A mean the love of your life should be your best friend. Questions, questions and more questions love though beautiful can be like a giant maze that sometimes leads to nowhere. Yesterday a person said that long distance relationships never works the person further went on to say that someone always become lonely and messes things up. Well I’m not sure that it’s loneliness but more like selfishness why get involved with a person if you can’t stand the distance? I mean if you truly love the person who is away then what can someone else close by  do that person isn’t the person that you miss or love. It just doesn’t make sense.Yeap when a person allows loneliness to take over they are being selfish. True love can withstand anything with God as the foundation people in the military do it all of the time. 

I wonder whether people are Christians or not would make a difference when it comes to long distance relationships? When I looked back on the relationships that I had which were very few none of the men were originally from where I was from whether it was a different city or state. It just goes to show that what God has meant to be will be still we have to want to put in the effort. A part of maturity is being able to look back on past relationships and realize what you need and value it once you are blessed to have it. Look when God is involved He makes things happen and as funny as it may sound sometimes it’s not always easy. Every great love has a great love story. I have never heard a boring love story there is always something that’s remarkable about it that makes them special. When I think of love long distance or close by it’s a heart thing. Someone who’s miles away can make you feel more special than a person who could be sitting right next to you. Perhaps the legendary group Whodini said it best one love one love you’re lucky just to have one love. My favorite part of the song one love goes “baby, one of these days, you’ll have to learn That love is something, that you gotta earn. And once you earn it, you gotta know how to keep it You got to want it, as well as you need it”To have lost love, was a hurtin’ lesson. But to have had love is a definite blessing. Hmmmmmm definitely valuable words right to this very day. If someone had of told me that I would be using lyrics from a song in my writing I would have been like Yeah right! Anyway you can’t tell me that everything doesn’t serve a purpose even if it’s just to inspire. Praying that everyone is blessed to have love it’s one of God’s greatest creations. Once you’re blessed to have love do what it takes to keep it. God didn’t make multiple people for one person just one value who you have.