relationships

What About Your Soul?

Time for a pep talk it will perk up your day like a strong cup of coffee. Yummy! Indeed while we are here we are to make the most of things. Have a great career, children, big house, being healthy and happy. There is nothing more important then knowing where is your soul going to go simple because while we are what we feel are most important won’t matter once we are gone.

So how are your eyes? Do you see the best in people? When was the last time you read the Bible? How is your hearing? Are you listening to people truly?How is your water intake? How much living water are you drinking? How is your heart? Do you feel compassion for others? How is your mind? Do you think of ways to encourage people? How are you hands? How often you put them together to pray? How is your diet? When was the last time that you fasted?  Most importantly how is your relationship with God have you ask Him to work on everything about you so you can be ready once He return. He is coming back.

The Pleasure and Pain of Sexting

You guys already know that eventually I was going to go there. Here on Be Lifted the things that are thought about are talked about. I keep it positive always. Still  we can’t ignore situations they won’t go away. In my opinion sexting is something that married people can do to keep things interesting. Surprise your spouse with something tasteful and something that you feel comfortable doing. Let’s not act like intimacy is suppose to be boring even God said to be fruitful and multiple. Did He say vegetable? I rest my case.

The pain of sexting is doing it for someone that you are not married to. Definitely would Not advise that at all!!! It will back fire it always does you better think before you press the send button. It takes a lot of trust and know that there are a whole lot people walking around who should Not be trusted. Everyone doesn’t deserve a VIP pass. If there are Not your spouse think it over.

Balance Is Key

Never forget the people who was there for you when you had no one. They are the ones who you will need again this is a true fact. God puts everyone in our lives for a reason so balancing your friends and new relationship is key. It’s important to keep in contact with your friends. You never want it to come off as you only contact them when there is a problem. Friendship is a two way street if you don’t have time to talk a simple text is fine too anything to show a person that you are thinking about them. I get that life gets busy but if we really want to time can be taken out it’s all about priorities. One has to have the want to to do. Yeah I said it.

Relationships and marriages are completely different don’t get it twisted people can walk away from a relationship not so for a marriage. I am not saying not to give a relationship your all. After all relationships has to happen prior to marriage so I get it. What I am saying is don’t forget the people who will be there if the relationship goes wrong. As far as I am concerned best friends are not friends they are family. Family is for life through ups and downs as well as thick and thin. Proverbs 18:24

A man [that hath] friends must shew himself: and there is a friend [that] stickers closer than a brother.

 

Give It Your All

Pep Talk it’s time for a pep talk. Congratulations!!! God blessed you to find that special someone who you got into a relationship that lead to marriage. The goal with a marriage is longevity. Once you get married the marriage takes nurturing never get too busy that you can’t. A marriage can not work itself it requires help from both people. The worse thing that can begin to happen is to develop an ego of what you want to do and will not do. Let me tell you get a clue there should be nothing that you would not do for your spouse unless it’s something that’s not of God. Still if God is in it than chance are you are being stubborn and you shouldn’t. A husband is a king and a wife is a queen so they should be treated like royalty. Don’t be ashamed to treat them this way. Do whatever it takes to make your marriage great.

What We’ve Got

You are the sunrise

To my sunset

Your beautiful words

Makes my heart melt

I want our hearts

To bump into one another

Like crash test dummies

But our love is true

It isn’t funny

Two smart individuals

Who allow their feelings to spill

Secret for what

There’s no hiding

What we’ve got

So the truth is out

Like the sun

On a summer day

What we have won’t go away

Even if we stop talking

To one another today

Our feelings will not fade

Our love doesn’t rely

On close contact to exist

Some people need an audience

To prove what they got

Not us

We don’t look for validation

From others but from one other

That’s what real love

Is all about

This is how I feel

Without a doubt

You are the day

To my night

Even when it’s dark

You are my light

The best romances

Are those that no one

Saw coming

Surprise here we are

And what we’ve got

Is going to make it far

 

Online Dating and Christians

The Bible says Proverbs 18:22

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.

Online dating is another way to be able to cast your net far an wide to reach your ideal mate. Still we didn’t have the internet years ago and many people still found their true love. Which clearly shows that God is in control it’s best to consult Him always. Back to the scripture should a woman try online dating that would be considered looking right? Still on the other hand how can a woman be found if she’s not getting out to be found? Ruth traveled and found Boaz although finding love wasn’t her reason for moving everything just fail into place when she did.This subject has many questions to explore and everyone should know by now that I am ready to find the answer. And I’m definitely open for a debate not on the Word of God that’s not what I do. I do believe in trusting God and He will guide us to do what’s best.

My Love

How can something

That seems so simple

Become so difficult

I love you

And I know this much

Can’t stop thinking about you

Can’t stop wondering about you

Can’t sleep

Constantly staying awake

Like I have drank gallons of coffee

You mean so much me

I don’t care about being vulnerable

Or who knows

You are my love

And I love you so

You just don’t know

What this is doing to me

It’s a good feeling

But it also gets me in touch

With other feelings

That aren’t me usually

Like jealousy

I can’t stand the thought

That someone could replace me

So when it comes to you

Even my self confidence

Is threaten

Not going to sit here

And act like I ain’t sweating you

Cause that isn’t true

When you love someone

That’s what you do

I stay loyal

Faithful and true

There is nothing

That I won’t do for you

I know that this has

To be real what I feel

Because I have no fear

Of telling you

Or telling every man, woman, boy, girl

At the same time fear losing you

You are a huge part of my world

You’re my vanilla

I’m your chocolate

Loving this swirl

Let’s close our eyes

And give this thing a whirl

You are the only one

I’ve wanted for a very long time

I have been praying to God above

For Him to give me you

My love

 

 

 

The Perfect Fit

There are so many books

On how to find love

Well I am thankful to God

That I have not read none of them

Waiting on God is what I have done

In my mind I truly believe that

There’s someone for everyone

The journey with us

Has only just begun

You and I have so much fun

We both love the same music

Movies and TV shows

Have life experiences that has

Helped one another to grow

Aren’t afraid to be goofy

So God has to be

A part of this

I could not have

Found a better love

Even if I were to dream it

We are a perfect fit

Like an echo of finesse

Our love is a true

Product of happiness

It’s so strong

My heart with yours

Is where it belongs

Being with you is wonderful

I could never go wrong

Some people search for a lifetime

To find a love like ours

Like a lovely flower

I never want to stop

Seeing you as being beautiful

You make living so meaningful

I have you

And I won’t let go

I love you so

God has given me a kiss

And a big hug from heaven

When He sent you to me

You are such a blessing

We are truly meant

You and I

Are the perfect fit

 

Myths About Black Women and Interracial Dating

There is a lady who’s book that I read on my Kindle her name is Christelyn Karazin the book is called Swirling. I follow her blog and her on Youtube as well. Anyway she had a fascinating video recently where a man had his theory on why black women dated white men. His theory was quite laughable to be honest. He claimed that black women are into thugs and that once they where done being used they would go and seek a white man. What I can’t understand is why everyone can accept the gay lifestyle but come up with ways to belittle black women that date outside of their race. As far as I am concerned everyone has there reasons as to why they dated outside of their race however one thing is clear it’s our choice.

I grew up without my father in the home, a neighborhood that was 70/30 black and white, mostly black schools, yet my first love was a white man not black. I am not a scorn black female just like many black women aren’t as well. So all of the hateful theories people can keep them it’s not their lives. The world would be such a beautiful place if people were nicer and wished others well. Different circumstances brings different results are there people who get hurt by someone in their race and decide that they want to date out of their race sure. Still I know females who gave up on men altogether there’s no difference. Everyone has a right to make their own choices and we should be responsible believe or not we will have to answer for them later. People can get hurt by anyone of any race just like people can be love by anyone of a different a race if it’s meant.