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A Christian Man Is That You?

First off a Christian man should look nothing like a man of the world. He is destined to be the head of his family and thus behave that way before it happening. I know some are saying, “Hold up, Tameeka what exactly do you mean?” Well, I am going to explain what I mean a true man of God can do many things yet understands that he should Not do them all.

He has self-control is a counselor, prayer warrior, and encourager. He always wants to be the man that God has called him to be. He is aware that there are young men who are watching him. He doesn’t take his walk with Christ lightly and is mindful that he may be the only Bible that some people reads. He doesn’t makeup excuses for what he does or hides behind grace as a way to get away with things. He takes a tally of what he is doing and matches it to what God wants. He’s continuously evaluating himself he desires to be the best man of God that he possibly can be. He treats people like how he would like to be treated.

People will flock to him for advice, prayer, encouragement, and inspiration. He never takes advantage of people, especially women. He lets a woman know where she stands the word games is not a part of his vocabulary. When he sees a marriage that’s in trouble, he sees it as an opportunity to pray for the couple and doesn’t try to prey on the wife. He has boundaries in place so that there are no misunderstandings. He never wants a fellow brother to feel any hurt caused by him. He knows when he can help and when it’s God’s job. He is very responsible never plays fast and loose he doesn’t use a woman. He doesn’t put anyone down but lifts them. A man of the world and a man of God only has one thing in common when it comes to women. They both realize at the time of meeting a woman whether she has the potential of being his wife. In a Man of God relationship, he doesn’t go tic for tac he knows that a real man doesn’t behave like that. He gives his all in his relationship. He has left no backdoors open with any other woman he knows that he is better than that. A man of God understands that the right matches don’t have to be tested he trust that God is in it. If for some reason a relationship doesn’t work out, and he finds that the woman isn’t the right fit he lets her go so that she can find the right man of God to commit to. He doesn’t walk around angry with grudges or a heart of revenge he thanks God for every life lesson. His mission with God’s help is to leave a lasting impression of positivity on every person that he meets.

This is not bashing it’s giving a lot of  Men of God credit I know many this is a checklist. Are you all of these things, or is it merely a bucket list. A man of God is held with the highest regards if you can’t uphold it then lose the Christian label. The word  Christian should not be treat as a bumper sticker but more like a tattoo. Be an ambassador for Christ as a man; make sure that you do it right. How can a Christian man be a leader when he can’t get minor things together? If it’s too much of responsibility  back away until you are ready. One can not have one foot in the world and the other with Christ. Understand that things aren’t all about you and that your actions can effect someone else’s life. Walk right.

Ezekiel 22:30

I searched for a man among them who would build up the wall and stand in the gap before Me for the land so that I would not destroy it; but I found no one.

2 Samuel 10:17

Be strong, and let us show ourselves courageous for the sake of our people and the cities of our God; and may the LORD do what is good in His sight.

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I Am A Writer

I am a writer there I said it. Working hard to develop work of brilliance being resistant towards anything that’s trying to plant a seed to quit. So very committed I love writing thinking of ways that are inspiring it’s such a blessing. The other day I was super siked I wrote a post that was over 600 words long. Still as I have shared not trying to make my posts as long as a novel.

My goal as always is to write the things that people are afraid to speak about. If I can help just one person to me it’s like winning a million dollars.

It Is On

Okay Okay I absolutely cannot stand it. Some of you black men are going overboard with your hate against black women. What exactly is the deal? I can’t fathom what it could be. Some of you categorize all black women into one claiming that we all aren’t crap. Then you wonder why black women have zero respect for you.

I seen a video that was so disgusting. I would share but it’s not worth it for several reasons. One the language in it was way too foul, it disrespected a woman’s child directly and I don’t want to help it earn money. My whole goal is to shed some light on this situation. It’s not drama it’s raising awareness. The madness most stop I mean you guys do know where you came from right? A black woman birth you into this world.

I plan on discussing this topic every chance that I get. Anyway the guy who made the video to take shots at a beautiful lady on YouTube Christelyn. She promotes swirling which is black women and white men interracial dating. Through I do not know her personally I sent her an email and she responded back promptly. She really does care about people.It’s so disappointing to see some black men bashing her on a daily basis. I wish people would allow this lady to do what she wants it’s not hurting anyone. To be honest I think because she’s successful the men who attack her are jealous. Whatelse could it be? She’s doesn’t wear wigs or weave so they can’t make the claim that she’s trying to be white although I feel that that has nothing to do with how black that a person is.

Look we as black people don’t have to love or like each other still we should respect one another. A black man is someone’s son, father, brother, cousin or grandson. Just like a black woman is someone’s daughter, mother, sister, cousin or granddaughter. We are all valuable to somebody one life touches another. I am not into bashing I believe in meeting people where they are. Still I will not lie the bashing that’s going on between black women and black men at times it bothers me. It’s deeper than black people who choose to date interracially there is some deep seeded hate and I am trying to figure out where it came from.

Are there some black people who could be doing better yes but it doesn’t mean they never will do better either. It’s just way too much finger pointing and too many negative people are spreading their poison around. With not one person taking ownership of what they should be doing.We have to do better it’s a must. I don’t care about how many times I write about it if it will help to push us into the direction of positivity.

Where is it written that if you are black that you must date black only? Just like why and how do people reach the conclusion that people who date outside of their race must hate their own race. Love is an energy people. When souls connect the person’s color is not involved. Love has no color everyone is entitled to love who they want as long as it’s within God will. Love is beyond black love or interracial love. God is in control. What is destined to be will be whether we like it or not.

It’s time to promote love and respect letting go of the hate that is going on between our black brothers and sisters. The generation behind us are watching us we have to get it together.

 

 

The Material Girl’s Prince Tribute

Many of Prince fans wasn’t happy about Madonna paying tribute to him on the Billboards Awards. It has been years since I have watched an award show I guess because of the music being made in the recent years. Like how is most of it even award worthy. Which gets me to thinking about the people who started a petition to stop Madonna from performing as if those people have a clue about real music Yeah I said, I’m just saying.

Now I will admit that I am partial to Madonna I’ve been a fan of hers every since I was very young. My mother bought me her 45s and LPs for my stereo which had a record player. Even with that being said she’s still a fantastic artist she and Prince were both red hot in the 80s. Yes it takes big shoes order to fill Prince’s legacy and the same applies for Madonna. It makes sense to think of picking her to pay tribute.

If we’re up to me I would have had various artists performing their favorite songs by Prince Lenny Kravitz being one of them. I watched Madonna tribute to Prince on YouTube it was pretty good Stevie Wonder joined her singing Nothing Compares To You. Prince wrote the song and Sinead O’Connor sang it which was a huge hit. Hmmmmmm I think I will share it on What’s Tameeka listening to? At the end of the day a true fan of an artist must be a music lover to understand the depth of music. Kind like a football so called fan who bails out when a team lose or a Walking Dead so called fan refusing to watch it if Daryl dies they are not true fans just a group of people looking for something to complain about. Madonna did well if people have a problem why don’t they try to do it doubt if they will be successful. Ummmmm Yeah I Said.

Playing Detective

The other day I convicted myself I wondered what it is about me that I instantly turn into a detective. Why I just can not accept things at face value? I guess with everything that I have been through I simply can not help it. Especially when it comes to opening myself up to love again. I don’t want to risk my heart being broken or looking like a fool.

Not trying to make myself seem so special but I always come across people who try to make it their mission to prove who I am really, I’m liked” Really Bro how would you know me better than I know myself?” One thing about me I am very kind hearted and so that makes me an easy target.  People tend to take my kindness for weakness. I know that I am God’s creation therefore I am under His protection. No matter what happens I won’t change who I am because of people.

I will admit that I have trust issues at one point in life I didn’t want to. Admitting to having trust issues sparks characteristics within a person that they never knew existed. Let me explain further I do not believe it’s okay to go through a person’s things, have passwords etc if a person needs to do all of that then perhaps it’s best to end the relationship. My trust issues are with my heart and words whether a man is being genuine or not.

The one only that I have learned noone can convince a person not to hurt you if they want to justify why it’s okay to do so. Just pray that they are exposed for what and who they are to avoid unnecessary heartbreak.

A person who won’t be alone to heal is selfish Yeah I said it. It’s not cool to use a person to help you get over pain that’s not okay. For me I am willing to be alone as long as God sees fit I WOULD NEVER inflict any pain on someone else. God doesn’t like ugly and He does make people pay for their messed up way. No I am not trying to speak negativity on people still one can not treat a person wrong expect not to be punished for their behavior.

My hopes are for us all to find love with the right one and as far as for me playing detective I never will stop doing it. Nothing is going overboard when it comes to heartbreak I rather be alone. I know that God has my Boaz even if it takes a couple more years of waiting I will. Because I know that once my Boaz arrive I will never have to play detective again. All of my Boaz words will match I won’t have an uneasy feeling about him. He will do everything not to break my heart. I won’t make him feel uncomfortable because of doubt. Let’s face it a seed of doubt has the power to grow into the biggest oak tree.

Determined to not allow doubt to rob me of my Boaz or loneliness for that matter. Being lonely is the reason for a lot of bad relationships people aren’t patient enough to wait on God. Word to the wise you can’t be with the right one if you are with the wrong one. Mr. Or Mrs. Right now will ruin who you are truly destined to be with. The right one will not interrupt what you have no one can see if you are unhappy they just know that you are unavailable. I don’t know about anyone else I know that we are worth the wait.

 

 

You Say

I put my heart on lock

You have the key

This is what I want to believe

As a mature woman

I feel life is too

Short to play games

Don’t  start something for nothing

Building a future with someone

Should not be done for fun

Other people hearts are involved

If you are hurt then

Allow yourself to heal

It’s not a big deal

If you feel that you have found

Love again if it’s real

It will not go anywhere

Don’t hurt someone else

Or cause unnecessary stress

If you are not ready

Don’t do it

It won’t be a real commitment

You say that you love me

You say that you will not

Make me angry or hurt me

Love is something that

I do not take lightly

Thus the words I Love You

Should not be thrown around freely

I want to believe what you say

But I don’t want to

Experience heartbreak

If what you say is true

And it’s proven valid

I will love you

Do what I am suppose to

Which is support you from

Here to the moon and beyond

We can do this arm and arm

Heart to heart

We can set the sky ablaze

Make others amazed

And they two become love crazed

I will make you

My prayer warrior, my lover

My King, My everything

Willing to do anything for

Each other cause it’s a team effort

I will not go away

I’m here to stay

We can do thing

You can believe every word

That I say

 

 

 

What A Christian Must Do

Number one a Christian must never forget about what lead them to their faith. I truly believe that it will help us to remain humble on our walk with Christ. Many times it was a tragedy that lead to a Christian’s choice and No I am not asking for anyone to live in condemnation or go back to where God delivered them from. But don’t looked down on anyone because of their struggles. We can all fall.

No matter what my fellow Christian sisters or brothers go through I will not judge them I refuse. When others walk out I will walk in and stay. This may sound crazy to some people but I believe when we see others going through a struggle that we are being tested too. Let me tell you why two reasons one it shows our character during a person’s time of need. It isn’t about the person it’s about how we choose to be. Second are looking at the person or are we looking to God. We can’t have part-time faith we all know how great God is and He always see everyone of us through. Therefore we must pray for understanding and the strength to help our fellow sisters and brothers according how God sees fit. We just have to allow Him to guide us and He will.

I realize that at times the only thing that we can do is pray. If praying is what we must do than we must do it as much as possible. Much prayer Much power, Some prayer Some power No prayer No power. Let’s encourage one another, be there for one and love one another at all times.

 

A Christian Wife Duties

We always hear what I husband must do and what he must not do. A wife have obligations to making sure that her marriage is successful. God is number He is the glue that holds things together. Still like everything including our relationship with God takes work. In a marriage if both husband and wife understand their roles in a marriage the marriage can be a masterpiece without a doubt. During the hardest times in a marriage is when you have to love your spouse harder it’s important to not give up on them. God can and will give you more strength just ask for it.

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