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Tameeka’s Opinion On The Confederate Flag

I realize that I am about to get under people’s skin with this topic. Oh well so be it. Last night I was talking about my opinions on the confederate flag and Duke’s of Hazards. Growing up my mother allowed me to watch the Dukes of Hazards I loved the show and I still do that’s right I said it. The show wasn’t a racist show.We have got to do more research before we jump to hasty decisions that’s just in the way. We have to stop falling for all of the race baiting tactics because that’s all it is majority of the time. So no I’m not pressed about the Confederate Flag. Why should I be?

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What’s Enough? What’s Too Much?

One of the most beautiful things that God invented is love He gave it to us. The way that the world is nowadays it’s a complete shame. If a woman displays her passion, she’s desperate. If a man reveals his love, he’s thirsty. There is nothing wrong with showing the one that you love how much that you do. We can’t allow our egos to control us either all it is fear of feeling vulnerable. Being vulnerable is how we have to be to feel love. Love can’t be felt with your guard up, and it’s certainly not fair to the person that you are with. When you love getting hurt is a risk that comes with it and also the reward of being loved back. Don’t let the world try to harden your heart about love.

The media wants to have us listen to Beyonce’s lemonade you can fall for all the hype if you’re going to try to relate you will end up with lemons. Beyonce is running a business she’s an entertainer. She had the song out called single ladies, and at the time she was married. Okay!!!! She’s happy with Jay until I see divorce papers that’s what I will choose to believe. I don’t get all hung up on Beyonce I’m not a massive fan of hers it’s just how people want to think that there’s a problem and there isn’t much like her bank account. She’s just adding to the problem of getting people to give up on love.

When you put up a wall of protection, you also can’t see what’s in front of you, and you could miss out. If you are going to be involved, give it you’re all. Don’t allow outsiders to tell you different messages have motives so always be careful. There is never enough words that a person can express to the one that you love, never enough time spent, never enough I Love Yous, never enough good deeds as a matter of facts it’s never too much. Let me tell you if a person comes along and can sway your love one it’s one of two things. One they are just a selfish person, and nothing is good enough. Two you’re not doing enough to keep your loved one from feeling like they are missing something. You can’t get catch up into what the world is saying about love it’s beautiful. At the end of the day, you can listen. Be alone, or you can listen to your heart and love. Treat your king as a king and treat your queen like a queen.

Myths About Black Women and Interracial Dating

There is a lady who’s book that I read on my Kindle her name is Christelyn Karazin the book is called Swirling. I follow her blog and her on Youtube as well. Anyway she had a fascinating video recently where a man had his theory on why black women dated white men. His theory was quite laughable to be honest. He claimed that black women are into thugs and that once they where done being used they would go and seek a white man. What I can’t understand is why everyone can accept the gay lifestyle but come up with ways to belittle black women that date outside of their race. As far as I am concerned everyone has there reasons as to why they dated outside of their race however one thing is clear it’s our choice.

I grew up without my father in the home, a neighborhood that was 70/30 black and white, mostly black schools, yet my first love was a white man not black. I am not a scorn black female just like many black women aren’t as well. So all of the hateful theories people can keep them it’s not their lives. The world would be such a beautiful place if people were nicer and wished others well. Different circumstances brings different results are there people who get hurt by someone in their race and decide that they want to date out of their race sure. Still I know females who gave up on men altogether there’s no difference. Everyone has a right to make their own choices and we should be responsible believe or not we will have to answer for them later. People can get hurt by anyone of any race just like people can be love by anyone of a different a race if it’s meant.

What I Have Learned

I decided to start a blog and I have done some audio as well. This is my first time ever doing these things. Just wanted to do something different add some more coolness to my life’s resume while inspiring as many people as I can.With starting anything new you will have people being positive and people being negative. I am not going to say embrace positive words only we have to be open to constructive criticism. The more that we know the more we grow.  Anything different people have to adjust to it but we can’t allow it to let go of what we are passionate about.

We must be selective of how much that we choose to take in. Too much negative words isn’t good either. We may have to resort to treating people who are always negative like static in a radio just straighten the antenna to hear what we need to hear crystal clear.

Blog- a regularly updated website or web page, typically one run by an individual or small group, that is written in an informal or conversational style.

Blogging is something that caught my eye I enjoy writing and sharing my views. How much of anyone’s opinion do I need? I’ll answer the question. It’s none. However  anyone whom I trust truly opinion I value so I will listen. I do want my blog to grow  and it will eventually. What I am going to do is continue what I am doing as well as a whole lot more. I’m proud of my blog and I’m not planning on stopping anytime soon.

Myths About Black Women

It upsets me having to make a post about this situation at this point in time. The disrespect that black women receive is so ridiculous. The myths pertaining to us are unbelievable that we have kids by several men, that we are uneducated, that we are lazy, the list just goes on. When a black woman decides to date outside of her race the stereotypes are even worse.  First off I don’t fit into the cliche’that’s placed on women who date outside of their race. I grew up in a mostly black neighborhood, had a mixture race of friends, mostly black schools etc. I don’t watch Empire or Scandal. I am just attracted to white men and that’s just how it is. I’ve spoken about this before there’s a lady that I follow on YouTube and she talks about interracial dating. She gets a lot of flack because she’s promoting love. So what’s wrong with that?  When I  find my potential white mate I’m going to broadcast it too. That’s what people do when they are in love.

I’m for the human race and yes I am very concerned about the black community. Being a black woman I am apart of the black community so how could I not be concerned. It’s quite laughable how many speak of racism and don’t  want to address the hate that’s going on in the community against black women. The lack of respect is astonishing.  Where did it all come from?  And why? In my opinion I believe that a lot of pain starts at home. Broken homes where mainly single mothers are the head of the household with fathers who aren’t in their children’s lives. Broken children who grew up into angry adults that’s hurting the community. Hurt people hurt others. Hurt people justify their hurt by hurting others. The saddest people are the ones who validate trying to destroy a person by blaming the person who they are trying to destroy. The hate that a lot of black men have for black women is so overwhelming that it demolishes all the positive things that’s going on. This needs to stop we have to do better. At the end of the day we are hurting ourselves as a community. Think about it we must break the chain. Who will be brave enough to not point fingers but do their part?

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Carry It Gangsta

Goodfellas, Griselda Blanco and Al Capone

When a relationship is over

You’ve got to carry it gangsta

At some point in most of our lives

We will have a break up

Gone are the days

When marriages lasted a lifetime

I’m not saying don’t work

Things out if you can please do

However staying in a relationship

When you are unhappy

Makes no sense

When you have done all that you could

It’s best to let things go

Will it hurt

Of course

But why hold on

Most times when relationships

Comes to an end

There were signs that it was going to

Like more arguments

Less time spent together etc.

So don’t be scorn

Don’t be bitter

Especially if you once loved the person

Where did the hate come from

Anger only hurts the

One that’s angry

Healed people heals others

Just because something comes to an end

It doesn’t have to be

On a sour note

There are many things that ends

Books but you don’t stop reading them

Movies but you don’t stop watching them

It’s all about how you look at it

One doors closes

And another one opens

So when a relationship is over

Don’t hate or mope

The way to cope is to

Carry it gangsta