Lit a candle in remembrance
Of all the people
Who passed away
Someone’s best friend
Someone’s wife or husband
Someone’s brother, sister, or cousin
Someone who was held near and dear
The pain of loss
Can put anybody into tears
And then here comes the fears
The realization
Of how short life is
Becomes painfully clear
Some people prepare
By having a relationship with Jesus Christ
Some people prepare
By getting life insurance
Some people prepare
In others ways
And all of these things are great
Regardless of what people
Do as ways to prepare
What do we do
For the time that
We are still here
Life is precious
It should not be spent
Wasting time
On hate
On grudges
On fear
We should live
A life that is filled with love
A life with a heart of forgiveness
A life that is lived fearless
Forgetting about the things
That we cannot fix
It shouldn’t have to take
The passing of someone special
To realize this
We should live life
Appreciating the people
Today before they go away
There are not many
Opportunities for second chances
So when they present
Themselves grab them
All while enjoying the lives
That we are blessed with
Because it’s a gift
sadness
Like a Sister
We see it on television or social media every day a person who was considered to be a sister who betrayed another in the worse way. Is there any true sisterhood anymore? Are there any loyal sisters today?
It’s all about the respect and the value that people choose to place on things like friendships, relationships, marriages, and yes sisterhood.
I saw a beautiful post and it’s so how I am. The post said ” I am a woman’s woman and a faithful friend. I won’t run off with your man. I won’t hate you because you’re beautiful. I’ll celebrate your success as my own. I’ll keep your secrets and listen to your rants. I choose my friends carefully and if I choose you, I’ll love you like a sister.
I don’t take pleasure in pulling other sisters down. No matter where I am in life through my highs and lows I am never stingy with a compliment. If a sister has lost weight, a new place, new hair-do I will tell her, that I am proud, that she’s beautiful. Never will I undermine a sister’s accomplishment she deserves her props. One thing I don’t do and that’s jock another sister’s style, I am a confident woman I don’t constantly need the spotlight.
This world is already wicked and filled with heartless hateful people. Being negative is easy to do, seeing the best in people can be hard if we focus on the bad things only. There is peace in positivity.
Being mean and fault finding all the time isn’t healthy it’s good to have awareness of the negative people and situations. However, it’s good to enjoy things as well as people that come along.
I choose to believe that there are still good people and that means sisters of every color. Flowers bloom together, they don’t compete because each has their own unique beauty. I’m keeping faith about true sisterhood. It exists.
African Americans and Mental Illness
Between the internet and google there are a lot of social media psychiatrists and psychologists, applying mental disorders to people like sticky notes or bumper stickers. News flash!!! Psychiatrists go to college for years and still understand the importance of the DSM-5, which they must go by. Psychiatrists also use assessment tools, interviews, tests, and observation before diagnosing a person with a disorder. Psychiatrists understand the harm that can come from misdiagnosing and mislabeling people. It’s about matching a client’s syndrome to a disorder. Look internet doctors leave the job of diagnosing people to the professionals, after all they went to college for it.
We really have to be careful how we handle mental illnesses. People feel uncomfortable being honest about their battle with an mental illness. A lot of it has to do with the negative stereotypes associated with mental illnesses. Some people would rather suffer in silence instead of talking about their mental health.
The black community is very bad at not handling mental illness well. Years ago black people would spank children but mental illnesses can’t be beaten out of people. Some also believed in divine intervention, which is great however God also gave us common sense to go see a doctor. I believe that God uses people and guides doctors to help people as well. There are still a lot of people who needs to be educated not to be doctors but so they will know how to treat people. A person can have a disorder and still live a normal every day life without becoming unhinged.
Currently I am pursuing my Bachelor’s degree in Forensic Psychology and I am almost finished! With God’s help I plan on getting a Master’s degree in Marriage, Couple, and Family Counseling. Yaaaaaaay!!! It’s important to support people when it comes to mental illnesses because it’s their health. It’s about living well, with the right support and treatment it is possible.
Sad News
From me there was so many bands that made the 90s great and The Cranberries was one of those bands. My favorite song by The Cranberries was Linger. There has been some sad news the lead singer of The Cranberries Dolores O’Riordan has passed away at the age of 46. I will always love her voice. R.I.P!!!!
Domestic Violence Forget What You Think You Know
I have been a huge fan of Johnny Depp every since he starred on the television show 21 Jump Street. He is quite an attractive man. Not too long ago I wrote a post about domestic violence. However Johnny Depp doesn’t come to mind it just goes to show we never know who could be an abuser. His wife has gotten a restraining order and has shared pictures of the bruises on her face. I admit that I’m a person who is inquisitive so I have many questions pertaining to this situation. How long has Johnny Depp been an abuser? He offered his wife money to be quiet about the abuse. How will the public receive this news? I know it’s his private life but it definitely gets us to raise our awareness. Will he be treated like Chris Brown? The public was outraged about his abuse against Rhianna could it be people were more upset about Rhianna being harm. All I know is it will be very interesting to see how things are over the next couple of weeks.
All jokes aside I can’t get Edward Scissorhands and Charlie and the Chocolate Factory out of my head.What makes Johnny Depp go off? I know that he recently loss his mother. Now in no way am I making up excuses but I feel in order to change a situation we must understand it. When a person hit another person it’s just not good to stay. I’m praying for his wife, everyone who has been abuse and the abusers. It must stop. Prayers going up for all of the hurt people in the world. Abuse is never okay no matter if the person is famous, good looking, poor, rich, man or woman.
Carry It Gangsta
Goodfellas, Griselda Blanco and Al Capone
When a relationship is over
You’ve got to carry it gangsta
At some point in most of our lives
We will have a break up
Gone are the days
When marriages lasted a lifetime
I’m not saying don’t work
Things out if you can please do
However staying in a relationship
When you are unhappy
Makes no sense
When you have done all that you could
It’s best to let things go
Will it hurt
Of course
But why hold on
Most times when relationships
Comes to an end
There were signs that it was going to
Like more arguments
Less time spent together etc.
So don’t be scorn
Don’t be bitter
Especially if you once loved the person
Where did the hate come from
Anger only hurts the
One that’s angry
Healed people heals others
Just because something comes to an end
It doesn’t have to be
On a sour note
There are many things that ends
Books but you don’t stop reading them
Movies but you don’t stop watching them
It’s all about how you look at it
One doors closes
And another one opens
So when a relationship is over
Don’t hate or mope
The way to cope is to
Carry it gangsta