relationships

Stoned Age Mentality

Really??? Some people’s mentality went out in the stoned ages, Yabba Dabba Doo. Allow me to explain it’s one thing to be old fashioned with morals and another to be the cause of negativity. Especially when it comes to interracial relationships being prejudice and racist needs to go. I am so over it. As long as it’s within God’s will people should love who God has for them. God knows what is best and He has the best for us all that is including the person who is meant for us.

Everyday I am always hearing new stories of the problems that interracial couples encounter. It’s so sad. A couple must surround themselves with people who support their happiness. Couples should be experiencing love to the fullest but have to have the headache of dealing with hate.

Take a look around us just look at all the things that God has created. Things are different colors and wonders  He didn’t create things the same colors. Tulips, roses of every colors they don’t blossom separate but together.

Christelyn the awesome lady that I follow on YouTube catch flack simply because she promotes love. In the year of 2016 the negative views towards dating outside of one’s race is way outdated. It’s a shame as soon as she uploads a video the trolls come from underneath of their bridges. It’s aggravating why can’t people just be happy for others? Miserable people need to take a chill pill  for real that’s all it boils down to people are miserable and have to have company. What I will never be able to understand about miserable people is why can’t they enjoy the company of other miserable people? Why must miserable people try to conform happy people into miserable people? Anyway whatever their is it won’t affect who I choose to love. I’m get my love on and gonna be so very happy regardless of what others think. They can’t and won’t change my mind and nope they really can’t.

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Single Parenting It Isn’t A Joke

It’s not a white thing or a black thing being a single parent can be hard.We all come from a family which is suppose to be a beautiful thing. Unfortunately things happen and what we felt was destined sometimes falls apart. Many times a family split can become ugly. What really makes me think and I try really hard to not allow it to get to me is how can something that was once so happy become the opposite?

When a family experience a split it’s really hard on the children. As far as I’m concerned regardless of how I feel about my children’s dad I don’t allow it to affect them my feelings ended when we did. My children are my top priority their happiness is all that I care about. Every time I look at my boys it’s with the look of when they were first born so much love. I will give any and everything for my children to be okay. That’s why they don’t see tension between their father and I it’s not for them to be involved in adult situations.

Growing up my mother never discussed her feelings with me pertaining to my father unless I asked her getting an answer out of her was like abstracting a tooth from a tiger. She didn’t want to feel like she was influencing my decision about my father. My mother was an amazing mother all of my parenting skills comes from her.

Anyway back on top it doesn’t matter how we feel or where we are. The children takes priority they should never go neglected. They should never be used as pawns between a mother and father. At times everyone has advice to give about single parenting still each case is different but both parents must care about the children’s well being. When we bring children into the world our lives change and so does their too which should be for the better even if a relationship or marriage turns out bad.

Is She The One?

The last one who should not be confused about anything is a person who calls themselves a Christian. We must respect God’s Word all of it because it applies to us all. We don’t get to pick and choose which parts that works best for us. Christian people have to understand that we maybe the only Bible that people read.

I wrote a post the other day pertaining how a Christian man is compared to a man of the world. A Christian man is the head of the household thus must be treated as such and behave as such. Family is a very important subject in the Bible. The Bible should be the foundation of a family it has instructions which must be followed. If there is one thing that we shouldn’t be doing and that’s bring children into the world out of wedlock. We can look around at society it’s damaged much of it is due to broken homes. Do you really what to add more broken homes to society?

A man whether he is a Christian or not knows when he meets a woman what his intentions are. No Christian man should be playing house if she’s good enough to lay with then why isn’t she your wife? Why have children out of wedlock? When we know better we do better. It’s time to get real and understand that people aren’t toys either Man up or move on.

Domestic Violence Forget What You Think You Know

I have been a huge fan of Johnny Depp every since he starred on the television show 21 Jump Street. He is quite an attractive man. Not too long ago I wrote a post about domestic violence. However Johnny Depp doesn’t come to mind it just goes to show we never know who could be an abuser. His wife has gotten a restraining order and has shared pictures of the bruises on her face. I admit that I’m a person who is inquisitive so I have many questions pertaining to this situation. How long has Johnny Depp been an abuser? He offered his wife money to be quiet about the abuse. How will the public receive this news? I know it’s his private life but it definitely gets us to raise our awareness. Will he be treated like Chris Brown? The public was outraged about his abuse against Rhianna could it be people were more upset about Rhianna being harm. All I know is it will be very interesting to see how things are over the next couple of weeks.

All jokes aside I can’t get Edward Scissorhands and Charlie and the Chocolate Factory out of my head.What makes Johnny Depp go off? I know that he recently loss his mother. Now in no way am I making up excuses but I feel in order to change a situation we must understand it. When a person hit another person it’s just not good to stay. I’m praying for his wife, everyone who has been abuse and the abusers. It must stop. Prayers going up for all of the hurt people in the world. Abuse is never okay no matter if the person is famous, good looking, poor, rich, man or woman.

 

This One’s for You

Ha Ha Ha

I’m about to make some

Of these negative black men puke

You know the ones who rebuke

The positive black men who uplift

Their black sisters and

The white men who love us

Would like to give a big shout out

This one’s for you

And I don’t mean Barry Manilow but

I do want you to take these words

With you wherever you go

You are appreciated

Just want you guys to know

What you are doing is in not in vain

When the smoke clears

Your positive actions will remain

Black women have been hurt

But who hasn’t

These things were beyond our control

Still we don’t allow it to

Take a toll

Black women have been spat on

Tongue slashed

With negative words and stereotypes

Like a horror movie

Still black women may cry

But it does not take long

For our tears to dry

We might sink a little

But still we rise

Once the pain is gone

There is none left over

We are soldiers

We still stick our hearts

Out and choose to love

We know our children will

Take our lives as an important

Lesson for when they get older

White men who love us keep

In mind that we chose you

Because we wanted to

We were never looked over

By certain black men

We know that everything

Happens for a reason

So we kept on movin

White men who love us

You are our choice

Not another option or backup plan

So have no doubt about

The black women who loves you

You are not pawns in a game

More like kings for us queens

Positive black men understand

We applaud you for being real men

Black women are becoming a whole lot

More wiser so we are more bolder

When it comes to making

The right choices for our lives

We raise our heads up high

And never hunch our shoulders

We are owners of excellent posture

We recognize who is

The true controller of our lives

In spite of the lies

We keep complete composure

Our self esteem will not be lowered

Please know positive black men

And the white men who love us

On earth you are the true stockholders

Of our respect

So you guys are the ones

Who we care about

Don’t stop doing the positive

Things that you do

One day it will all pay off

In the meantime just wanted

To commend you

You guys are valuable

 

 

 

 

 

 

Playing Detective

The other day I convicted myself I wondered what it is about me that I instantly turn into a detective. Why I just can not accept things at face value? I guess with everything that I have been through I simply can not help it. Especially when it comes to opening myself up to love again. I don’t want to risk my heart being broken or looking like a fool.

Not trying to make myself seem so special but I always come across people who try to make it their mission to prove who I am really, I’m liked” Really Bro how would you know me better than I know myself?” One thing about me I am very kind hearted and so that makes me an easy target.  People tend to take my kindness for weakness. I know that I am God’s creation therefore I am under His protection. No matter what happens I won’t change who I am because of people.

I will admit that I have trust issues at one point in life I didn’t want to. Admitting to having trust issues sparks characteristics within a person that they never knew existed. Let me explain further I do not believe it’s okay to go through a person’s things, have passwords etc if a person needs to do all of that then perhaps it’s best to end the relationship. My trust issues are with my heart and words whether a man is being genuine or not.

The one only that I have learned noone can convince a person not to hurt you if they want to justify why it’s okay to do so. Just pray that they are exposed for what and who they are to avoid unnecessary heartbreak.

A person who won’t be alone to heal is selfish Yeah I said it. It’s not cool to use a person to help you get over pain that’s not okay. For me I am willing to be alone as long as God sees fit I WOULD NEVER inflict any pain on someone else. God doesn’t like ugly and He does make people pay for their messed up way. No I am not trying to speak negativity on people still one can not treat a person wrong expect not to be punished for their behavior.

My hopes are for us all to find love with the right one and as far as for me playing detective I never will stop doing it. Nothing is going overboard when it comes to heartbreak I rather be alone. I know that God has my Boaz even if it takes a couple more years of waiting I will. Because I know that once my Boaz arrive I will never have to play detective again. All of my Boaz words will match I won’t have an uneasy feeling about him. He will do everything not to break my heart. I won’t make him feel uncomfortable because of doubt. Let’s face it a seed of doubt has the power to grow into the biggest oak tree.

Determined to not allow doubt to rob me of my Boaz or loneliness for that matter. Being lonely is the reason for a lot of bad relationships people aren’t patient enough to wait on God. Word to the wise you can’t be with the right one if you are with the wrong one. Mr. Or Mrs. Right now will ruin who you are truly destined to be with. The right one will not interrupt what you have no one can see if you are unhappy they just know that you are unavailable. I don’t know about anyone else I know that we are worth the wait.

 

 

You Say

I put my heart on lock

You have the key

This is what I want to believe

As a mature woman

I feel life is too

Short to play games

Don’t  start something for nothing

Building a future with someone

Should not be done for fun

Other people hearts are involved

If you are hurt then

Allow yourself to heal

It’s not a big deal

If you feel that you have found

Love again if it’s real

It will not go anywhere

Don’t hurt someone else

Or cause unnecessary stress

If you are not ready

Don’t do it

It won’t be a real commitment

You say that you love me

You say that you will not

Make me angry or hurt me

Love is something that

I do not take lightly

Thus the words I Love You

Should not be thrown around freely

I want to believe what you say

But I don’t want to

Experience heartbreak

If what you say is true

And it’s proven valid

I will love you

Do what I am suppose to

Which is support you from

Here to the moon and beyond

We can do this arm and arm

Heart to heart

We can set the sky ablaze

Make others amazed

And they two become love crazed

I will make you

My prayer warrior, my lover

My King, My everything

Willing to do anything for

Each other cause it’s a team effort

I will not go away

I’m here to stay

We can do thing

You can believe every word

That I say

 

 

 

Skin Deep

My brother my brother seriously

Some of you claim to care

About what’s happening

Within our black community

Yet some are you guys insults

Are never ending

Everyone of us are free to love

Who we choose and it has

Nothing to do with any of you

The only thing that any of us

Are obligated to do

Is pull and uplifted one another

In our community

Some of you guys needs to develop

More of an understanding

Be more loving

God has much to be

I am ready for what He has for me

Therefore I am not worry about

What other people think

Anyway negativity comes off

As a bunch of noise

So I will treat it as if

I have Van Gogh’s ear for music

Recently my mind and heart

Had an epiphany

It was as loud as an

Mozart No. 41 symphony

How can some of you claim

To say that you are madly in love

With a special loved one

But can not see others happy

Com’on now some of you guys views

On interracial dating went

Out in the 60’s

Get real

What exactly are some of your guys deal

You will not steal my joy

Black White Asian

We are all human

Can some of you black brothers

Explain to me how it is that

You say that appreciate a sister

For what’s on the inside

Yet you can’t get pass the outside

We are all the same underneath

Try looking beyond the skin color

How can we move forward

With this backwards thinking

Before you think that

I am a sister who is hurt or scorn

Let me stop you right there

I want what I want

By attacking me or others

Who dates like me

Show you don’t care clearly

No one can rain on my parade

Rattle my cage

Nor get me to change my mind

According to what you guys think

I’m throwing negative thinking back

Like a boomerang

Love was created to be learned

Then shared and cherished

With the one that we adore

Regardless of their color

I thought with all of the books

And advanced technology

That it would make people smarter

Have I held onto too much hope

Giving people so much of

The benefit of the doubt

As deep as space

That’s requires looking

Through a telescope

Judging me according to

My preference is not fair

I get asked questions

Like a questionnaire

Millions like a millionaire

Some brothers say that

They have all the answers

And not one of them can

Stop a person from being single

I want a white knight

That’s what’s right for me

Have him sing the lyrics

Of “Her” in my ear

By Majid Jordan

Going “I’m on the way

To finding out exactly

How to treat her right

Another day and I’ve been waiting

But I’ve been waiting

My whole life to find

Someone like her”

A woman longs to

Not feel as if she’s invisible

Much how some brothers

Treat us sisters

Women get  tired of hearing

Words of hate

Thinking that we have to accept it

Is a huge mistake

Mistreatment is becoming too familiar

It’s something that isn’t deserved

A woman seeks one who

Will see her as a beautiful creation

One that embraces

All of her imperfections

Without any objections

One who is attentive

Has an ear that hears

Her words and receive

Them as part of

Understanding communication

Mere venting and not calling

It meaningless ranting

See the truest love

Is one that’s beyond

Skin color and what any

Human eyes can see

Know that what will be will be

 

 

 

My White Knight

Yes I am for human rights, for my black community to respect one another and get along. However I can still be attracted to what I am attracted to and still want the best for everyone at the end of the day. Hey I just want my white knight. Can a black man be a knight? Sure for someone else. I don’t have self-hatred I love the skin that I am in. If it’s within God’s Will let people love who they want wish them well and be happy for them.

I will be his prayer partner, best friend, biggest cheerleader, his rib and his chocolate bar nice as well as sweet. He’ll be my prayer partner, best friend, knight, and my vanilla ice cream. After God and my children he will be my everything. What a wonderful dream come true!

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