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Happily Ever After

Normally I don’t write a lot of posts on celebrities but every once in awhile I do when there’s an awesome story. In case some of you don’t know NFL Seahawks quarterback Russell Wilson and R & B singer Ciara tied the knot almost three days ago. I know what you are thinking okay Tameeka what’s the point of this. Well I’ll tell you their love story is rather fascinating. Russell Wilson is a Christian. They both made the decision Not to have sex until they got married. They were engaged for quite a while and that says a whole lot about Russell’s Christian walk imagine all the people that they have inspired including me.

Ciara hasn’t had good relationships in the past she has a child with rapper Future and he has bad mouth about her the whole time that they have been split up. Word to the wise any ex who spends too much time talking about their ex whether it’s good or bad are not over them. Otherwise why waste all the time and energy talking about a person who they have entirely no dealing with think about it. Anyways back on track Future talked so bad about Ciara to whomever would listen on Twitter and on radio shows to name a few. She must be on his mind a lot and I bet even more now that she’s married. I’m sure the things that he said hurt her. He only did that in hopes of ruining her happiness. God rewarded her for not going down to his level. Besides she has Russell he showed her what a real man is. Why ruin your blessing acting ugly? It’s just not worth it.

What we need to take from this story is that God is in control no human has control over your happiness in your life. We have to trust him always. We must never allow a person to think that they can speak existence into our lives because guess what they can’t. God has a blessing with our names on it. The best is yet to come. Believe that. Ciara has her king they got married in London in a castle which was great considering all the frogs that she had to kiss in order to have her king. Kiss the frogs but don’t have sex with the frogs. You don’t want warts. People carry spirits it’s important not to come in contact or entertain the wrong ones. LMBO!!!

Anyway God has us to do or go through certain things for a reason. Having sex before marriage ruins things no one wants to end up being just another notch in a person’s belt. Many people laughed when Russell and Ciara chose to wait to have sex but look at them now. There is no doubt in my mind that Russell will be a great husband look how he has demonstrated his leadership Yeap he’s definitely King worthy. I’m so very happy for them. May they enjoy many blissful years together with God as their foundation I am sure that they will!

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No one Deserves To Die

Many times I get slammed for my views on various situations and I am fine with that everyone can’t take the heat…. I can though. Just call me Onyx slam me all you want duh duh duh duh duh duh. On a serious note the media again has fueled another story up and has caused a stir between the races. There is already so much tension this just added more to it. Now let me start by saying that the Philando Castile shooting was in no way justified and neither was the shooting of the innocent Dallas police officers. It’s all wrong. It’s not about race but people try to make it about that every time perhaps sometimes it maybe but Not all of the time.

With my background as a Christian and education in Paralegal studies I base my judgement on a case to case basis. There are some people who are walking around with hate in their hearts towards cops, towards black people, towards white people, towards asian people, towards latinos etc etc. And don’t give me the I don’t care about black people or self hatred speech neither are true. I am a black woman who is the mother of two sons. Look I know who I am. I love all people and no one has the right to cut another person’s life short.

I get the frustration that everyone has but we must not lose our heads. Now I watched the video of the Philando Castile shooting it was heartbreaking the officer sounded like he was panicking. He pulled the trigger way too quickly. Now I know some police officers and they are good yeah I said it.  They are people too who are doing a hard job and the job isn’t a popular one. There are some good police officers anyway I would ask them questions and one thing that they all have said to me a police officer only has a split second to make a decision. A police officer’s goal is to get back home to their families every night. Do you know the things that they see everyday? The things that a police officer sees can mess them up and then they have to remain in control. I don’t know what happened in Dallas exactly but I bet that the snipers who gunned the police officers down used the Philando Castile shooting as an excuse. Which is wrong. Some people wants to say how much they hate the police but they’re the first ones that people call when there’s a problem.

There are good people in every race. There are bad people in every race. It’s time for us all to understand the difference. Some people wants to have a reason to be angry and sorry I’m not one of those people. Facebook is off the hook people are arguing and deleting one another racism is a touchy subject. We tend to see who people truly are when the subject is brought up. Everyone is hurting and our country is in need of healing. Our country need much prayer. God is the only person that can save us. Many of us are so lost because of hate. Everyone of us are sisters and brothers we may be different on the outside but underneath we are all the same. It’s time to get prayed up and to fight the real enemy which is the devil. Yes I said it the devil anything opposite of love is his work and he’s using people to do it. I’m not falling for the hate that’s going on. You can do if you chose to. I got nothing but love for everyone. That’s just how my heart is setup God give me my heart. Every life touches another we all matter to somebody. Nobody is a nobody somebody is somebody a to someone. We have to do better. Blessings. Much love to all.

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What’s Tameeka Listening To?

Although I love all music Rock&Roll is my first love. Growing up my bedroom wall was plastered with posters of many different artist. My mother brought me different T-shirts Guns N Roses was one of them. I’ve been playing a whole lot of their music. Their music is classic I love them so much. Check out one of my favorite songs by them.

Long Distance Relationships

Relationships are hard add long distance to the situation and it becomes harder. I’m a very optimistic person did Ruth not meet her Boaz? What is meant will be when God is apart of it anyway. I so believe that God has the right person for everyone. It’s just knowing when the person is right. How will you know if a person that cross your path is just destined to be just a friend?  A mean the love of your life should be your best friend. Questions, questions and more questions love though beautiful can be like a giant maze that sometimes leads to nowhere. Yesterday a person said that long distance relationships never works the person further went on to say that someone always become lonely and messes things up. Well I’m not sure that it’s loneliness but more like selfishness why get involved with a person if you can’t stand the distance? I mean if you truly love the person who is away then what can someone else close by  do that person isn’t the person that you miss or love. It just doesn’t make sense.Yeap when a person allows loneliness to take over they are being selfish. True love can withstand anything with God as the foundation people in the military do it all of the time. 

I wonder whether people are Christians or not would make a difference when it comes to long distance relationships? When I looked back on the relationships that I had which were very few none of the men were originally from where I was from whether it was a different city or state. It just goes to show that what God has meant to be will be still we have to want to put in the effort. A part of maturity is being able to look back on past relationships and realize what you need and value it once you are blessed to have it. Look when God is involved He makes things happen and as funny as it may sound sometimes it’s not always easy. Every great love has a great love story. I have never heard a boring love story there is always something that’s remarkable about it that makes them special. When I think of love long distance or close by it’s a heart thing. Someone who’s miles away can make you feel more special than a person who could be sitting right next to you. Perhaps the legendary group Whodini said it best one love one love you’re lucky just to have one love. My favorite part of the song one love goes “baby, one of these days, you’ll have to learn That love is something, that you gotta earn. And once you earn it, you gotta know how to keep it You got to want it, as well as you need it”To have lost love, was a hurtin’ lesson. But to have had love is a definite blessing. Hmmmmmm definitely valuable words right to this very day. If someone had of told me that I would be using lyrics from a song in my writing I would have been like Yeah right! Anyway you can’t tell me that everything doesn’t serve a purpose even if it’s just to inspire. Praying that everyone is blessed to have love it’s one of God’s greatest creations. Once you’re blessed to have love do what it takes to keep it. God didn’t make multiple people for one person just one value who you have.

My Calling

After all the years of hurting and tears I have found one of my callings. It’s to help to heal people’s hearts and marriages with God’s help of course. I have been hurt deeply but God has healed me too. I want to help couples to enjoy their marriages.

In order for a marriage to be successful a husband and wife must understand their roles, do their roles and respect them. A marriage has to have God in it to help with everything. Communication is a huge key it’s important to talk to God and your spouse. A couple has to be willing to let God in allow God to be the glue that holds them together. Don’t throw in the towel when angry and go to God always.

Life can get busy but if it gets so busy that there’s no time for God or your spouse then it’s time to slow down. Marriage can not work by itself or with only one spouse but together. Never push your spouse away or make them feel less than a person. Forgiveness is a great thing to do and have but don’t abuse it. Say that you are sorry and show that you mean it with positive actions. If a situation happens and you choose to forgive then do that. Don’t keep throwing up the past because the marriage will not and can not move forward on a positive note. A happy marriage has a happy family children deserve a happy home. A couple daily should always remember why they got married and what makes their spouse special to them. It’s important for a spouse to be valued, not taken for granted or made to feel like a habit.

Remember you’ve been blessed with a person who you want to spend the rest of your life with and they want the same. It’s very important to have a realistic concept of marriage a lifetime spend is of many hours, days, months and years like the weather it wouldn’t always be sunny. There will be ups and downs but God can turn things around. Just don’t give up and fight for your marriage daily. Don’t allow anything to steal your joy. Enjoy the blessing that God has given and most of all keep Him in it. God is needed everyday, in every way and in everything.

Racism and Christianity

Racism-the belief that all members of each race possess characteristics or abilities specific to that race, especially so as to distinguish it as inferior or superior to another race or races.

Prejudice-preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience

As you can see racism and prejudice means two different things. Here on Be Lifted the things that are thought about are talked about. I would like to compare Christianity to the four food groups fruits, vegetable, bread and meat all are essential we need them to grow. Yes as Christians we are suppose to be filled with love. Still we can not act like things don’t exist we must face them because the people who are aware of racism use it as a crutch. Racism is in the church. Now I don’t race bait I do think we need to face all situations it helps with our maturity level on our Christian walk. One can’t call themselves a Christian and be racist. Yeah I said it. How can we go out and save souls when some of us can’t pass the basic elementary level of Christianity. You can’t claim to love God but hate your neighbor. This is regardless of the race of a person I once heard a person tell me that black people can not be racist or prejudice and I was really? Get the heck out of town.

I am black my mother grew up during a time where she drank from separate water fountains and  attended segregated schools. My mother didn’t bring my sisters and I  up to be racist because racism is taught. Racism is something that is sometimes past down from several generations and yes it is in church too.

I wanted to point out how racism is in the church and what can be done about it. The main question that we must ask ourselves is do we as Christians really know how to love one another if not we must ask God for His help. Being racist and being prejudice is a sign of a person who is spiritually immature. It’s important for us to be honest why do some people attended church with others who look like them? Look we all know that the Word of God can bridge the gaps between any group of people. All people have to do is give God their hearts and He will soften it.

I remember I had a Facebook friend of mine apologize for what her white ancestors did to black people. I quickly told her that she doesn’t have to apologize for something that took place long before she or I were born. It’s with all the guilt and hate it’s hard for racism to go away it keeps getting fed. I know that I may get slammed for what I am about to say but so be it. Some of us must stop giving racist people a reason to hate whether it’s with guilt and the blame game it just needs to stop. Racism needs to be fed to continue so let’s starve it and make it go away. We can do this one step at a time.

John 13:34

34 A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.

All I Want To Be

In order for things to be successful

Between me and you

There are essential things

That I need to do

I am going to be your

Prayer warrior, a leaning shoulder,

A confidant and a Proverbs woman

Because I want to be your

Best friend under God of course

All I want to be is

A ray of positivity

That shines like sunshine brightly

In your morning

When you first open your eyes

I want to be motivation

In your afternoon

That gives you a boost

So you can reach the end

Of the day with peace smoothly

I want to be the highlight

Of your night

So when you close your eyes

To sleep you will

Dream sweet dreams of me

When the next day come

We’ll start it right over again

I want to do this daily

Be everything

That you want and need

I’m going out on a limb

And be a little cocky

Because ain’t nobody like me

That’s why I do these things

With easy

I aim to please

My king

You are the right man

This I believe constantly

That’s why I show

You so much love

That it overflows

I love you truly

And I am not letting you go

Fight For Your Marriage

Mark 10:9

9 What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Do Not I repeat do Not give up on your marriage.

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Be careful when a marriage is in trouble the devil will send someone along who Appears to be everything that your spouse isn’t. Don’t fall for the trick of the enemy remember his mission is to kill steal and destroy. Tell the enemy to keep his hands off of your spouse

Fathers Enjoy Your Day

Billy Graham once said that “A good father is one of the most unsung, unpraised, unnoticed, and yet one of the most valuable assets in our society.” I realize that there are some people who have experiences that has caused them to be bitter on or about Father’s Day. I used to be one of those people still we must turn bitterness over to our father in heaven.

Listen when we allow bitterness to affect us and act out on it we can not blame someone else behind actions that we chose to do. It makes us no better than the person who hurt us. We can endure but we must surrender by turning our mess into a message it can only be done it we put everything into God’s wonderful Hands.

Some of the single mothers have to learn to stop trying to make everything about them. Get rid of the selfishness and ask God to help with selflessness. With that being said Happy Father’s Day to all of the awesome fathers. Enjoy your day! Blessings!

 

 

Don’t Be Afraid

Don’t be afraid

That wasn’t always easy

For me to say

I’ve had my

Good and bad days

Good and bad years

Still through all the tears

I let go of my fears

All of the pain

It helped my mindset

To change

Especially when it

Comes to love

I know that I have

A good heart

I’ve have learned

That I am not alone

That realization

In itself

Is inspiration to

Not give up

On love

And being open to

Having the right one

I believe truly that it’s you

You are the one for me

So I am telling you this today

To please do not walk away

Forget about the sadness of yesterday

I mean the words that I say

I won’t hurt you

Or betray you

So don’t be afraid