Happy Father’s Day

It’s not easy being a single parent, it’s something that no-one signs up for. Parenting isn’t about just the easy stuff like picking something from out the refrigerator for the children to eat or taking them to the park. Parenting is about the hard stuff too like staying up all night when a child gets sick or for me helping your autistic son to understand what puberty is. Indeed, parenting can become a frustrating job at times and some mothers want to claim father’s day too.

Believe it or not there are a lot of excellent fathers who are in their children’s lives. Some fathers are still with the mothers of their children and are a positive entity. There are fathers who weathered the storm of the ups and downs in a relationship or marriage. There are also fathers who aren’t with the mothers of their children but his presence is still felt. There are fathers who don’t only see their children on holidays but often. There are fathers who take their children to school who knows their children favorite foods and colors. There are fathers who are making memories with their children not just making children who dream of seeing them. There are fathers who don’t just pay child support and feel that’s enough. There are fathers who put their children first and it stays that way regardless of whatever happens.

There are fathers who want to see their children but can’t. There are fathers who are single parents too. Is it really okay to rob the excellent fathers of their day because some of the mothers are in their feelings? Mothers day is in May. Father’s day is in June. Single parents day is in March we must understand the difference. Happy Father’s day to all of the great fathers around the world you are appreciated truly. Blessings!

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The Child Support Hustle

Oh, do it. Oh, do it Do it. Do the hustle, do the hustle. Do the hustle, do the hustle. Do the hustle. Oh, do it. Oh, do it. Do it. Do the child support hustle. I’m sorry but I just couldn’t resist because it’s so funny to me how some men can come up with anything excuse as an attempt to dodge their responsibilities. Anyway I hear lots of guys call child support a woman’s hustle. Like dude you guys cannot be serious. Are you?
I’ve heard some guys say to women for them to “choose better” when they get involved with a guy. As if I guy is going to introduce himself like “Hello my name is loser. I’m going to sell you a bunch of dreams, impregnate you and be a dead beat father.” Oh if only things were that simple there would be less broken homes.
As I always say that I don’t put black men down but I am not making excuses for the ones who are not right either. We have to call a spade out when we see one. There are some men who get a woman pregnant to tie her down. There are some men who pay child support but don’t want to be a father to their children. There are some men who don’t want to pay child support nor be a father to their children either. What boggles me is that must people in the black community have come from broken homes. Why don’t people in the community want to break the chain of broken homes instead of adding more links? We’ve seen what’s it’s like to grow up in a broken home and we know as well as understand the pain.
I get so tired of guys calling child support a hustle. Like a woman didn’t make a child alone and yeah don’t forget dude it’s your responsibility regardless. I don’t receive child support for my two sons by the way and  I won’t touch that subject…for now anyway. Attacking black mothers isn’t going to change the fact that a man has to pay child support. Most times when a woman takes child support out on the father he was given many opportunities to do right but he didn’t.
No woman want to go through going to court to make a father do what is right. Think about it when a father gets behind on child support the child gets like really nothing. So who’s losing here? The child. If you ask me it’s some of these fathers running a hustle because they are skipping out on their responsibilities. Some of these fathers need to bust a move and take care of their children or just use protection. It’s just that simple.

Fathers Enjoy Your Day

Billy Graham once said that “A good father is one of the most unsung, unpraised, unnoticed, and yet one of the most valuable assets in our society.” I realize that there are some people who have experiences that has caused them to be bitter on or about Father’s Day. I used to be one of those people still we must turn bitterness over to our father in heaven.

Listen when we allow bitterness to affect us and act out on it we can not blame someone else behind actions that we chose to do. It makes us no better than the person who hurt us. We can endure but we must surrender by turning our mess into a message it can only be done it we put everything into God’s wonderful Hands.

Some of the single mothers have to learn to stop trying to make everything about them. Get rid of the selfishness and ask God to help with selflessness. With that being said Happy Father’s Day to all of the awesome fathers. Enjoy your day! Blessings!

 

 

Rest Father

Father I want to make amends

Not sure if you are in hell or Heaven

If you can hear me

I need for you to listen

Please lend me your ear

I want to make it clear

That you no longer have to fear

Your angry little girl

Has become a grown woman now

In more ways than one

I have forgiven you for

Everything that you have done

I have learned to move on

To not allow grudges

To destroy me

I may not know all of your story

Still I give God the glory

For helping me it has healed me

I see things a lot more clearly

Forgiveness is everything

Now that I am a mother

And I have children of my own

New thoughts have been born

Even though you wasn’t around

I have found

That’s it’s best to turn

My frown upside down

Everything happens for a reason

Regardless God made you my father

You help to make me

Because of you I have my two babies

Blessed to see possibilities

I’ve done what it takes

For my soul’s sake

To realize that human beings

Make mistakes

And it may sound weird

But not having you around

Wasn’t such a bad thing

Every event that took place

In my life has help to mold me

Into the person that I am today

Yes you too are apart of that

I am sorry that I didn’t

Say these things at your hospital bed

I guess I wasn’t ready

I guess it wasn’t time

This is what I want and need

You to know

I will now allow your soul to rest

Father you sleep now

I forgive you

I just had to let my feelings out

Happy Father’s Day

Rest In Peace

 

Mother’s Day 2016

What I am going to say may sound weird still you know that I am going to write it anyway. When I think of Mother’s Day Father’s Day comes to mind I know right. I think of all the single mothers who wants to claim both days. To me that’s just being selfish I know some single parent fathers who are excellent truly. I was raised by a single parent for awhile until my step-dad came along. My mom and father separated when I was five it was an ugly separation. Growing up I remember how tough it was for my mother being a single parent. I wanted no part parent of being a single parent sadly that wasn’t the hand that I was dealt. 

Back on topic I see a lot of mothers who celebrate both mother’s and father’s day. Sometimes it bothers me how selfish and self-centered people are becoming these days somehow making things about them. My mother was never that way and neither am I. I too am a single parent is it rough sure it is still I’m not going to make father’s day my day. There are great fathers in the world and some are single parents for various reasons. The fathers are a single parent isn’t trying to celebrate mother’s day.Father’s Day needs to remain for dads and Mother’s Day for moms everything isn’t equal opportunity let’s grow up. We picked the mothers and fathers of our children therefore we share a role in having a bad parent. Unfortunately we sometimes find out how people are until it’s too late still we must allow this to make us better not bitter. I repeat Mother’s Day is for moms and Father’s Day is for dads it’s not Single Parent’s day. Just in cases you missed Single Parent day it’s on March 21st. Being a parent is about selflessness not selfishness Yeah I said it. Let’s recognize things when it’s time. Quit trying to hog the spotlight. It’s okay to be apart of the audience applauding for those who deserve it.

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Parenting

Eeny,meeny,miny, moe

When choosing a mother or father

For your children

The Negan route isn’t

The way to go

Trust me I know

Allow that theory

To blow out the window

Of a car that’s speeding at 180

Even though there are

Books on parenting

There are also some on driving

Yet people still get tickets

For speeding

Some things we can not help

And some we can

Sadly  there’s no way

To be a perfect parent

There are still things

That we can control if we can help it

Like who will have

The blessing of being

A parent to our children

Don’t be in a rush

Because the children

Are the one who gets hurt

When things don’t work

Children deserve both parents

In their lives full-time not partly

Parenting is something

That’s a lifetime commitment

If you think it ends

Once they become 18 forget it

As a parent that loves and cares

For your children

Worry is something

That we always do

We always see them as

The baby that was

Born at the hospital

Being I a parent

Is a blessing truly

Still the number one rule

Of parenting is the choice

Of who will be our children’s

Mother or father before

They are even born

We have to be responsible