Blackwomen

This One’s for You

Ha Ha Ha

I’m about to make some

Of these negative black men puke

You know the ones who rebuke

The positive black men who uplift

Their black sisters and

The white men who love us

Would like to give a big shout out

This one’s for you

And I don’t mean Barry Manilow but

I do want you to take these words

With you wherever you go

You are appreciated

Just want you guys to know

What you are doing is in not in vain

When the smoke clears

Your positive actions will remain

Black women have been hurt

But who hasn’t

These things were beyond our control

Still we don’t allow it to

Take a toll

Black women have been spat on

Tongue slashed

With negative words and stereotypes

Like a horror movie

Still black women may cry

But it does not take long

For our tears to dry

We might sink a little

But still we rise

Once the pain is gone

There is none left over

We are soldiers

We still stick our hearts

Out and choose to love

We know our children will

Take our lives as an important

Lesson for when they get older

White men who love us keep

In mind that we chose you

Because we wanted to

We were never looked over

By certain black men

We know that everything

Happens for a reason

So we kept on movin

White men who love us

You are our choice

Not another option or backup plan

So have no doubt about

The black women who loves you

You are not pawns in a game

More like kings for us queens

Positive black men understand

We applaud you for being real men

Black women are becoming a whole lot

More wiser so we are more bolder

When it comes to making

The right choices for our lives

We raise our heads up high

And never hunch our shoulders

We are owners of excellent posture

We recognize who is

The true controller of our lives

In spite of the lies

We keep complete composure

Our self esteem will not be lowered

Please know positive black men

And the white men who love us

On earth you are the true stockholders

Of our respect

So you guys are the ones

Who we care about

Don’t stop doing the positive

Things that you do

One day it will all pay off

In the meantime just wanted

To commend you

You guys are valuable

 

 

 

 

 

 

It Is On

Okay Okay I absolutely cannot stand it. Some of you black men are going overboard with your hate against black women. What exactly is the deal? I can’t fathom what it could be. Some of you categorize all black women into one claiming that we all aren’t crap. Then you wonder why black women have zero respect for you.

I seen a video that was so disgusting. I would share but it’s not worth it for several reasons. One the language in it was way too foul, it disrespected a woman’s child directly and I don’t want to help it earn money. My whole goal is to shed some light on this situation. It’s not drama it’s raising awareness. The madness most stop I mean you guys do know where you came from right? A black woman birth you into this world.

I plan on discussing this topic every chance that I get. Anyway the guy who made the video to take shots at a beautiful lady on YouTube Christelyn. She promotes swirling which is black women and white men interracial dating. Through I do not know her personally I sent her an email and she responded back promptly. She really does care about people.It’s so disappointing to see some black men bashing her on a daily basis. I wish people would allow this lady to do what she wants it’s not hurting anyone. To be honest I think because she’s successful the men who attack her are jealous. Whatelse could it be? She’s doesn’t wear wigs or weave so they can’t make the claim that she’s trying to be white although I feel that that has nothing to do with how black that a person is.

Look we as black people don’t have to love or like each other still we should respect one another. A black man is someone’s son, father, brother, cousin or grandson. Just like a black woman is someone’s daughter, mother, sister, cousin or granddaughter. We are all valuable to somebody one life touches another. I am not into bashing I believe in meeting people where they are. Still I will not lie the bashing that’s going on between black women and black men at times it bothers me. It’s deeper than black people who choose to date interracially there is some deep seeded hate and I am trying to figure out where it came from.

Are there some black people who could be doing better yes but it doesn’t mean they never will do better either. It’s just way too much finger pointing and too many negative people are spreading their poison around. With not one person taking ownership of what they should be doing.We have to do better it’s a must. I don’t care about how many times I write about it if it will help to push us into the direction of positivity.

Where is it written that if you are black that you must date black only? Just like why and how do people reach the conclusion that people who date outside of their race must hate their own race. Love is an energy people. When souls connect the person’s color is not involved. Love has no color everyone is entitled to love who they want as long as it’s within God will. Love is beyond black love or interracial love. God is in control. What is destined to be will be whether we like it or not.

It’s time to promote love and respect letting go of the hate that is going on between our black brothers and sisters. The generation behind us are watching us we have to get it together.

 

 

Skin Deep

My brother my brother seriously

Some of you claim to care

About what’s happening

Within our black community

Yet some are you guys insults

Are never ending

Everyone of us are free to love

Who we choose and it has

Nothing to do with any of you

The only thing that any of us

Are obligated to do

Is pull and uplifted one another

In our community

Some of you guys needs to develop

More of an understanding

Be more loving

God has much to be

I am ready for what He has for me

Therefore I am not worry about

What other people think

Anyway negativity comes off

As a bunch of noise

So I will treat it as if

I have Van Gogh’s ear for music

Recently my mind and heart

Had an epiphany

It was as loud as an

Mozart No. 41 symphony

How can some of you claim

To say that you are madly in love

With a special loved one

But can not see others happy

Com’on now some of you guys views

On interracial dating went

Out in the 60’s

Get real

What exactly are some of your guys deal

You will not steal my joy

Black White Asian

We are all human

Can some of you black brothers

Explain to me how it is that

You say that appreciate a sister

For what’s on the inside

Yet you can’t get pass the outside

We are all the same underneath

Try looking beyond the skin color

How can we move forward

With this backwards thinking

Before you think that

I am a sister who is hurt or scorn

Let me stop you right there

I want what I want

By attacking me or others

Who dates like me

Show you don’t care clearly

No one can rain on my parade

Rattle my cage

Nor get me to change my mind

According to what you guys think

I’m throwing negative thinking back

Like a boomerang

Love was created to be learned

Then shared and cherished

With the one that we adore

Regardless of their color

I thought with all of the books

And advanced technology

That it would make people smarter

Have I held onto too much hope

Giving people so much of

The benefit of the doubt

As deep as space

That’s requires looking

Through a telescope

Judging me according to

My preference is not fair

I get asked questions

Like a questionnaire

Millions like a millionaire

Some brothers say that

They have all the answers

And not one of them can

Stop a person from being single

I want a white knight

That’s what’s right for me

Have him sing the lyrics

Of “Her” in my ear

By Majid Jordan

Going “I’m on the way

To finding out exactly

How to treat her right

Another day and I’ve been waiting

But I’ve been waiting

My whole life to find

Someone like her”

A woman longs to

Not feel as if she’s invisible

Much how some brothers

Treat us sisters

Women get  tired of hearing

Words of hate

Thinking that we have to accept it

Is a huge mistake

Mistreatment is becoming too familiar

It’s something that isn’t deserved

A woman seeks one who

Will see her as a beautiful creation

One that embraces

All of her imperfections

Without any objections

One who is attentive

Has an ear that hears

Her words and receive

Them as part of

Understanding communication

Mere venting and not calling

It meaningless ranting

See the truest love

Is one that’s beyond

Skin color and what any

Human eyes can see

Know that what will be will be

 

 

 

My White Knight

Yes I am for human rights, for my black community to respect one another and get along. However I can still be attracted to what I am attracted to and still want the best for everyone at the end of the day. Hey I just want my white knight. Can a black man be a knight? Sure for someone else. I don’t have self-hatred I love the skin that I am in. If it’s within God’s Will let people love who they want wish them well and be happy for them.

I will be his prayer partner, best friend, biggest cheerleader, his rib and his chocolate bar nice as well as sweet. He’ll be my prayer partner, best friend, knight, and my vanilla ice cream. After God and my children he will be my everything. What a wonderful dream come true!

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Black Men What’s Up With You?

I have joined a movement to unfollow, unsubscribe and ignore all negative posts about black women. What is going on in the black community is an issue and if you have a problem with me writing about it then don’t read what I write.

There are some good black men and there are some bad ones. Believe it or not the bad ones aren’t always the ones who make memes and videos. Some of the bad ones don’t believe in black women they down their intelligence, their talents any gifts anything that is negative is part of the problem in the black community. The way that some black men treat black women affects the community. While some claim that the the negative ones are a minority their negativity is what’s heard majority of the time. The disrespect has caused an domino effect it’s time to end it.

The black community it my community too. We have to do better.Who is to blame for what’s going on in the black community? I see a lot of finger pointing and no one owning up to their mistakes. Some of the black men blame the black women for how they treat them. The disrespect is poison that here the community in every way. There are so many broken homes that it’s disturbing. Lots of mothers who aren’t wives and no it’s not right. Lots of father who aren’t in their children’s lives and the sad things they think that it’s alright. Everything starts at home that’s where dysfunction begin children who grow up into messed up adults we have to break the chain. Someone has to care. This movement will be successful.

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A Noose Around A Brother’s Neck

Yes child support is for children of every race this is understood. I am writing this pertaining to a video.So there’s a guy whose video that I came across on YouTube claiming that child support is a noose around a black man’s neck. The guy who made the video claimed that it was a way to keep a black man down. Let me start off by saying two things one is that the guy is biased against women and two as long as I watch YouTube I will not run out of things to write about. Feeling the way that I felt I still watched the video in it’s entirety and it interested me so much that I had to blog about. Just couldn’t pass up this topic it is a hot one. 

There are so many stories that I have pertaining to mothers, fathers and child support. The situation has plenty of blame to go around. It’s ashame that the government has to get involved to make a parent do right. Yes there are some women who pay child support however it’s mostly men. It makes me upset when people starts to point fingers just do what you are suppose to do as a parent. When you get involved with a person think are they a person that you can see yourself marrying or having children with them? If the answer is no then don’t risk the chance of being tied to that person with a lifetime commitment.  Are there some spiteful money hungry women who use the money on other things besides their children? Yes but you saw the signs there are always signs you just choose to ignore the red flags. Am I saying that a person deserves to be stressed out forever with drama? No but don’t take a chance and gamble. When a person shows you who they are believe them.

Indeed there is a time to be private and there’s a time to help with your story. Imagine if no one shared their testimonies and stories it’s important to encourage as many people as we can. It may help someone out and that’s an awesome thing. As I have shared I am a single parent of two sons and I am doing as best as I can WITHOUT child support. My children’s father was in prison for basically ten years and I did NOT put him on child support. Even while a person is in prison they can be placed on child support I choose to opt out of that choice. My ex has been out since November and has Not seen his children after ten years. Does it make me upset how he treats our children? Yes of course however I place things into God’s hands He will handle things. I’m Not spiteful here’s why I have Not sought child support the agent would throw him back into jail and that doesn’t do either one of us any good. I’m giving him time to get on his feet and an opportunity to do what he can however I have a time limit trust me.

Let’s look at things like this why would a person try to hurt another? Perhaps there are still feelings there I do Not have feelings for my ex it’s about our children. Our children have been through enough and do Not deserve any additional heartache. If you love your children make it about your children Not about your ex. The children did not ask to come here. Some of you mothers quit trying to hurt the father by digging into his pockets in the hopes that no woman will want him because we all know that it won’t happen. Fathers child support is not worth more than time spent with your children. Call your children more often, visit them, and yes you can date as well as move on however take your children with you. Our ex is our past but our children are a lifetime commitment honor it  and don’t ever forget that. Put your grownup pants on and co-parent properly.

It’s Time To Swirl

As I have shared before there is a lady that I follow on YouTube her name is Christelyn Karazin, she’s is incredibly awesome. Anyway she has just uploaded a video called I would never date a black woman. It’s a response video pertaining a video that circulating with black women who are upset about the black men who say that they would not date them. This is why I promote interracial dating. No one can make a person love them and no one should force themselves on anyone. Love is an energy it can’t be forced or faked. There will be a podcast made for this post. This is absolutely too good to pass up. At the end of the day I pray that everyone of every race experience love and that includes my black brothers.

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Sisters

It is 2016 and it’s time to take accountability for our own actions. This goes out to my fellow black sisters let’s stop being competitive. We are different shades that doesn’t matter at the end of the day we check off the same box on a job application and that’s for the black race. I’d like to think of all of us as flowers unique but all very beautiful. Today is a new day black women are more educated and career driven with brand new visions that are on the horizon. Stop with the stereotypes many of us don’t watch Love and Hip Hop, Real Housewives,  Empire, Scandal etc. I  prefer flesh eating zombies Walking Dead baby! So let’s stop with the division and let’s lift one another up. If treating another person wrong makes you feel good then what’s wrong with you. Come on we have to do better.

Really not caring what people think of me when I say that we have to stop living in the past unless your intent is to make things better otherwise doing so is just useless.  What are doing in the black community?  Why are we still hung up on the complexion? What is wrong? We have sisters walking around hating the skin that they are in. Who’s responsible for this? When are we going to be responsible for our own actions?  All black women are gorgeous our lips,  our noses, our foreheads, our hair texture and our sexy curves the same things that our very mothers own as well. It’s time for us stop this nonsense seriously something has got to give.