relationships

Blunt Talk

Are the number of your past partners small enough for you all to be able to fit into your bed? There some people who actually needs additional beds and maybe rooms too sad but true. Blunt talk right now not judging still our souls should not be allowed to connect to everyone. We are better than cheap WiFi have it so a person needs the right password to connect to our soul.
Growing up I always looked up to my mother her faith was strong and she carried herself as a lady. My mother had only four partners during her whole entire life and I always told myself that if my mother can operate with self control so can I. I remain a virgin until I was a little over 21 years old my first love came along who was white and so I gave in to having sex. I don’t regret giving up my virginity to my first love just wish that it was gone about differently. The first time is a beautiful thing remember though there are no do over once you do it it’s done.

One would be surprised but there are many people who are sustaining from sex. Many rather wait then taking the chance and having sex outside of marriage. On Facebook I have various ladies who ask me for tips on staying strong and not giving in to their desires. It isn’t an easy thing to do seems like once one makes this choice all of a sudden people want to ask you out.
Abstaining from sex is one of the best choices that I made. I have been celibate for six years and I am very proud of it too.

A person being celibate is something to be proud of and not ashamed of. There is so much garbage out here making young people feel like sleeping around is okay. Sleeping around is not okay it’s okay to not sleep with anyone of the opposite sex that comes your way. We all should value ourselves and not allow anyone to make us think that we are less than the way that God sees us. If we allow people to dictate to us our worth we will be cut short every time most people are competitive and don’t want anyone to get passed them or even have the same things. Remember God wants and has the best for us all we have to do is trust Him. Everything that happens in our lives are meant good or bad it’s all about timing. Yes even bad things are meant for good so wait on God He has many awesome things in store and that includes the right partner. Don’t give up on what God has for by allowing loneliness to rush you. Just because one is alone doesn’t not mean that they are lonely.

Here are a few tips that can help you to stay celibate:

1. When going out with a person for a date meet in a public never be alone this gives one opportunity to mess up.

2. When you feel weak pray. Pray when it’s hardest to pray. And it does work.

3. Talk to other people who are celibate many times when we hear positive testimonies it inspires us to want to do the same.

Don’t cut yourself off from the world you can do it stay strong. You Got This!!

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Appreciate Those Who Celebrate You

Good Morning to everyone! I am a person who gets up early but isn’t a morning person until I have had my coffee. When I woke I had a text and I was like man because I was hoping that it was from someone else. I’m just being honest we are all guilty of this. God place something inside of me this morning and that was appreciate those who celebrate you. The same way someone else took the time to text or even inbox they did not have to. It’s about holding on and valuing these people they are special truly. Besides the people that we are waiting to hear from don’t value you as much because if they did we would hear from them more often. Never push away a person who care they may stay away everyone has their limit. People can be closed doors too maybe the reason that they don’t see you because they aren’t meant to. Let’s not do self inflicted harm to ourselves let go of the people that we don’t hear from obviously that chapter is done. So delete their number and unfriend too friends who are true are people that love you too and would never harm. Keep who celebrates you and remove those that don’t you don’t hear from them away so you won’t miss them.  Love yourself enough to let go of uncertainty and cling to the definitely. Remember communication is a two way street text those special people before that text you there should no ego when it comes to the people that we care about because they care about us. Have a fantastic day. Blessings!

I Am A Rider

Allow me to make this crystal clear

I ride for my team

Anyone who means

A whole lot to me

Has my absolute loyalty

Whether it’s friendships, family

Relationships or the Dallas Cowboys

By the side of those that I

Care about is where I stand

Never doubt always understand

I don’t keep tabs

Of what I do

Leave the checks and balances

To an accountant

I’m a true friend

There no need to recognize

Me constantly for what I do

For what I do comes from

My heart as well as way

Deep down inside

I speak the truth and no lies

Always loyal and I never turn

My back on anyone

Nothing can comes between us

No fight

No distance

Definitely not an outsider

Because I am a rider

I’m in it for the long haul

Through every season

Winter, Spring, Summer and Fall

Not fairweathered

Never changing call me evergreen

Every word I mean

I am loyal forever

Like a soldier

I am a rider

Believe that

 

Not All Advice Is Good

It’s sad to say but not all the people who come into our lives will mean us well. There are ways to filter them out they are exposed eventually just keep your eyes  open actions never lie. Here’s one thing that true always keep it in mind to happy people wants to see other people happy. So if you have a person in your ear given you advice but the results aren’t looking like what they have chances are their advice isn’t good. It’s like the three pigs taking advice from the wolf. Some things aren’t good as they appear sugar and salt look alike so always beware. Don’t allow anyone to steer you away from what you deserve.

What Is Most Important?

Everyone is different so everyone seek different things when it comes to a potential mate. What they seek separates us from who’s right for us and who’s not. I believe that there is somebody for everybody because God made it so. I was watching an interview pertaining to relationships and  people’s choices in a mate. It was quite interesting. To me nobody knows everything but everybody knows something that we can learn from. We just have to be open to learning. Anyway on with the story there was a lady speaking saying that she cares about what a man has to offer financially. She mentioned nothing else accept the man being really tall. I found that to be very disturbing though it shouldn’t have. Most people care about money men and women. My question is what happens when the person can not provide or they get sick. The world is filled with selfish people. Don’t get me wrong I want to live comfortable too. Comfortable for me are my bills being paid, a nice place to live it could be an apartment, townhouse etc it doesn’t have to be a mansion. You get where I’m  coming from and I mean what I am saying. Some people care about looks and that’s fine. It’s just isn’t good to care too much about things that don’t matter very much. They change over time eventually.

For me I want my Boaz to be smart, kind hearted, respectful, loyal a natural born leader someone I can trust. These things are actually pretty hard to find. I’m a leader but a woman is not suppose to lead it’s  a man place. Being a true leader is knowing how to be a great follower. Of course no leader will allow just anyone to lead them. It’s like giving a person a map that they can not read that’s definitely setting yourself up for failure. You’ll be stranded in the middle of nowhere fast. I love Courage the Cowardly Dog but nowhere doesn’t look like a cool place to live. I’m not glutton for punishment. At my age I am realistic, I have sons therefore I don’t expect to find a man my age without children. That’s just a selfish mentality. To be honest I really don’t have everything down to an exact science of what I  am  looking for in my Boaz. Not looking in the first place God has the situation covered already. I do know that I want the love of the old couples who fought for their love. Everyone wants to learn from them a true romance story.

I Got Time

The biggest mistake

That we all make

Is feel that it’s okay

To put off things until tomorrow

What can be done today

Should be

Don’t procrastinate

Don’t wait

Stop thinking

Oh I got time

Because none of us

Knows what’s down the line

We have to stop

Taking things for granted

Like our loves ones

We get into a fight

We run

We hide

We get an ego

We won’t let the anger go

We plan on speaking

With the person later

In hopes that the peace

Between the both of you

Will be greater

Or how about that special someone

The one we have feelings for

But has yet to tell them

It’s always

One day I will let them know

It’s always

Oh I got time

Let me ask you a question

Who’s in control of time

It certainly isn’t us

What happens

When the moment that

We are waiting for never arrives

Missed opportunities

Are dangerous

They kill you inside

Makes you want to cry

Makes you want to die

Waiting on tomorrow

Sometimes can bring sorrow

From being shallow

I challenge you to borrow

From your wasted time

And contact the one who

Has been on your mind

Ever think about what happens

If you never were

To see that person ever again

I’m not judging

We are all human

I too am guilty of this

I will admit

But we must not allow

Ourselves to forget

That everyone’s time

Is limited

We must not allow ourselves

To become blind

By the phrase

Oh I got time

Because the truth is

It’s  a huge lie

 

 

Communication

Most problems between people would be saved if only they would communicate. If something is bothering you say it don’t throw hints talk clear the air. It isn’t fair to the person that you have a problem with. You have a mouth use it. Look at it like this when a baby is hungry, sick, upset etc what does it do? It cries so a parent know it needs something. A baby should not communicate better than an adult it’s time to grow up. Great friendships and relationships have been broken up all behind people not communicating and having an ego which aren’t a good combo.

There’s no need to write a thousand words about something that’s so simple. Don’t lose a treasured relationship because you refuse to open your mouth.

The problem could  be simple to fix but you will never know if you don’t talk. If you value your friendship or relationship save it. Talk.

 

Privacy

No I’m not tripping

Yes I truly believe

Whether you are in

A relationship or married

Everyone is entitled to a

Certain level of privacy

It’s important to have trust

In the one that you love

A  phone doesn’t need to be locked

But at the same time

A phone shouldn’t be

Checked through Facebook,

Texts or voicemail

If your love one phones rings

How about don’t answer it

How about forget it

Unless they ask you to get it

That’s trust

Just like staying off of

Their Facebook page

You can’t get accurate information

From that anyway

Doing all this will drive you crazy

Don’t nobody feel like

Having to explain their every move

Always questioning

Oh and another thing

Go out together

As well as enjoy time alone

Everyone deserves an outlet

So don’t blow up their phone

Allow your partner to

Enjoy their space

If you have to play detective

Then you need to reevaluate

The relationship there maybe

Something or there may not be

If you are one with an issue

With trust then chances are

It’s you

Trust-building-blocks

Every Once In Awhile

You cross my mind

Every once in awhile

I wonder how you are

Hoping that all is well

After all this time

The feelings still feel new

There’s no shaking you

It’s no use

Or any substitute

Beside I don’t want to

For it’s what I choose

Like a natural piece

Of uncut diamonds

You are one of a kind

Not a knock off

Or a fake wanna be

You speak your mind freely

Not wanting to be in a relationship

But I would love to

Have the chance to show

You why I feel that

You are worth it

And it has nothing to do with sex

Yeap you crossed my mind

A couple times today

It made me smile

Yeap that happens

Every once in awhile

 

Unlovable

We have all been told

That there were times

Or will be times

In our relationships when

We seem to be unlovable

Completely intolerable

The condition seemed unsolvable

Still true love is unstoppable

Regardless of the problem always

Remember that God is in control

Even on the days

When we want to walk away

Not want to stay

Having to rely solely

On the love between

Us and our mate

To help the relationship to sustain

Holding on extra tight

To help the love

So it will remain

Making sure that nothing changes

We have to weather the storm

Tough times don’t last long

Sunny days will be reborn

We have to stay strong

Cause we already know

We are where we belong

Don’t want the love to be gone

Yes even on the days

When we seem unlovable

It is those days

We are required to love

One another more

This is for sure

It’s not about the easy stuff

It’s about the hard stuff

It makes us tough

Being able to endure much

Looking back on it

Like look at us

We are still together

Even after all the pain

And all the hurt

We did what it took

To make things work

It was so worth it

To be able to spend the rest of our lives

With the person who

God intended

There will be ups and downs

No matter how long

As long as the person

That we love see

How much they mean to us

Even on the days that they

Or we are unlovable

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