relationships

School Experiment

I had to conduct a experiment for class. I had to take two IATs (Implicit Association Test) they are various ones a Race IAT, Straight/Gay IAT, Thin/Fat and Gender Career- Family IAT. I took all four of tests because I was curious about what the results would be. To be honest I was very skeptical until I saw the results. The Race IAT was whether a person preferred white people over black people. Look at what my results were

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It got me to thinking if I were white most people would think that I was racist. I guess from my results people would think that I am a sell out or something. I think it should that I love all people regardless of their color. Praying that the world loves people despite their color of their skin. I just felt the tests were pretty cool. I told a lot of my friends and family about the test it’s quite interesting. I love learning something new everyday otherwise what’s the point. I once heard a saying a by Charlie Chaplin it goes a day without laughter is a day wasted. Well I fill a day without learning anything is a day wasted. After all a mind is a terrible thing to waste. Thanking God for giving me a heart and mind like mine. God is an awesome God.

 

Assumptions

Psychology has gotten me to do a lot of thinking but it can’t replace God’s Word. Every chance that I get whether it’s in my personal assignment or a group discussion I interject Christ into whenever an opportunity presents itself. Let’s face it there has never has been a more critical time for Christians as much as now. Therefore it’s imperative for Christians to let their voices be heard. There are so many misconceptions about Christianity it’s very disappointing. Most Christians are doing what it takes to show that we want to do things according to God’s will. Christians who take their faith seriously are considered to be Bible Thumpers or radicals which is far from the truth. God is love. I don’t use Christianity as a way to feel superior or to put others down. It’s a daily mission of mine to make someone’s day with God’s help of course.

Anyway back on topic one of this week’s question was if there was ever a time when people made the wrong assumption about your motivations. I could go on and on about this situation. Yes the world is filled with lots of people who have harmed people or people who do things with strings attached. The world also has people in it who are kind and do things from the heart with no intention of wanting something in return. What helps me to stay positive and keep being kind is knowing that there are good people in the world I’m one of them. I am not the only person in the world who wants to spread positivity in the world. I have to admit that Christ has a lot to do with the reason why I am so kind, supportive, caring etc. Amazing things happens when a person allows Christ to lead them completely. He changes a person from the inside it’s a wonderful feeling. At times it has got frustrating when I do things from the heart and people want to believe that there has to be a reason why I do things. Sometimes I just want to ask people what can you do for me that God can’t give me? It’s like some people need a big slice of humble pie. I mean really. No matter what I wouldn’t allow negative people to change my heart it’s apart of who I am. In a world like this it can indeed be a challenge to continue to be who I am and do what I do. It really does not matter God is my protector and I will continue to beautify the world with love.

Trading Places

This week’s class assignment got my brain to hatch an idea. My assignment was to write a paper about collectivist and individualist parents how they differ and what would it be like if they were to switch children. Would their parenting skills influence them enough to make changes? So it got me to thinking and evaluating my lifestyle as a Christian. If I were to swap my life with a person who doesn’t know Christ would my Christian lifestyle change them. I know that I would not want to live their lifestyle I have been there before. It definitely should make one think. God wants everyone’s soul to be saved. He doesn’t want not one of us to perish. We have all heard the saying that we maybe the only Bible that a person reads and it may cause some pressure for some people. If we’re living according to God’s will one should not mind others watching them as an inspiration not as an idol. Now I feel that people shouldn’t focus only on me or any other Christians but the one who we look to which is Christ. All Christians want to be pleasing to Him.

If a person were to swap lives with me I liked to hope and pray that it would inspire them to turn to Christ. There are many testimonies that I have and that alone should be a huge inspiration. My mother grew up in Christian home her church was right next door. She was very active in her church things like being in the choir and writing church bulletins. When she became an adult she kept being a Christian and passed on her  parenting to skills to her children. I am doing the same things prayers day and night most importantly teaching my sons to have a strong relationship with God. One important thing that I have learned that having a relationship with God must be all of the time. The devil doesn’t take time off to attack us. It isn’t about the devil anyway it’s about God’s love for us that in itself should make the hardest heart soften for Him.

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For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

Single Black Mom

Growing up I always told myself

That I would not be a single parent

Raising kids without help

I always felt

That life belonged to someone else

There’s no lucky charms

It’s time to ring the alarm

What’s going on in the

Black community

Making it seem like being

A single black mom

Is an awesome thing as if

Being a struggling mother is a way

To earn stripes

Being a single parent

Doing it all alone

Is not right

It’s quite pathetic

Some of this black fathers

Don’t even care enough

To co-parent

They like to forget

Or assume that paying

Child support will make up for it

This situation is a huge epidemic

One that no one should mimic

It isn’t a lifestyle

That’s glamorise

Say what you want about me

It won’t change how I feel

A stable upbringing should

Always be within our sight

Some of us are just too

Blind to see

I was once like other people too

Now I look back and think

What did I do

To end up with a baby father

Like you

Like a song on the radio

I listened to your tune

Now I am here looking like a fool

Man I wish that I had the analogy

Of no wedding no wound

Had I had it

It would have giving me more

Time to get to know you

I wished that my old schooled ways

Had of saved me from

What I am going through today

My sons would have been saved

From the typical black

Single parent home

It’s so wrong for my sons

To grow up withdrawn

I wished that only I

Could bare this burden alone

Still this is the life that I chose

My choices I own

Allowing my fleshy goals

To take control

Thankful for allowing Christ

To help me to be reborn

And I have learned to never

Put a deadline

On God’s time

For He has no limits

That sometimes it’s not

Always the things that we planned

That are the best

But in fact it’s the things

That are not planned

Which are the true miracles

Not trying to get all spiritual

But God’s way is the best way

For sure

So I will embrace

What God has on the way

Being a single mom

Isn’t the end

But the beginning

Of what God has

For my family and me

Thank You God All Almighty

 

 

 

 

 

Second Time Around

When you can look back at past mistakes and own up to your choices it says a lot about your work with Christ. Our God is awesome. I can’t wait to see what He has in store for me!

 

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Put A Lock On It

Hey Everybody!!! Blessings to All!!!

Man going back to college this time around really is keeping me way busy. I’m glad that it has it got me to thinking about a whole lot of things. I was looking at a Wi-Fi signal with a lock on it and boy did that get my creative juices flowing. I am a people person and I do enjoy people of all nationalities.  As a Christian I do love all of my brothers and sisters. I’ve always have been inquisitive something about getting to know a person sparks my curiosity. Now that I am in this Cross-Cultural class it’s really has gotten me in more interested in people. As I have said before I feel that everyone has something to offer that’s worth knowing. The key is what’s worth knowing and what’s not. Indeed God sends everyone into our lives for a reason if only for a season. It’s important when to hold on, let go or not let a person in from the start. Some people may cross our paths as a demonstration of what you don’t want or need.

I have become a lot more cautious of whom I connect to. I have learned to put a lock on my connection. Have you ever noticed some of the places that offer free Wi-Fi but sometimes the connection is  crappy? Well our spirits are like Wi-Fi they can’t stay connected all the time especially with people who drains you. Even phone companies after a certain amount of data usage it gets reduced. I want to connect to as many people as I can. I want to brighten days and put smiles on people’s faces. After all the best things in life are free. Still I don’t want the wrong kinds of people connecting with me to download what they can from me it’s can drain my spirit. I want my data usage to stay up and so I have decided to place a lock on who I connect to. God maybe sending someone my way to inspire it’s okay to have a cut off point if we give too much away we won’t have anything left for ourselves.

Blossom

Blossom- mature or develop in a promising or healthy way

Like the flowers in the spring love can become a beautiful thing. Love doesn’t need help to start in fact I believe when it’s rushed or forced it tends to fall apart. I was watching TWD and it got me to thinking about Rick and Michonne romance. It wasn’t rushed it happened slowly over time. I know what you are thinking “Tameeka what are you talking about.” The chemistry between Rick and Michonne was happening in a subtle way from almost day one. Real love starts very much that way. When Rick and Michonne shared their first kiss I was super excited. I loved seeing interracial love happening in a huge way. Though I always stress that love has no color.

 

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When we are in love we hope and we pray that it doesn’t go away. Love is something that we want to last forever. We all want to experience the love from the 1940’s, 1950’s or even earlier when people fought for what they wanted and won. When all they had were letters and telegrams to rely on yet with all of the technology of today. Holding on to love should be less harder. Indeed it’s the question of the heart and the will to not give up. But we have to allow God to guide us and we have it trust the process. We will know when we have it can’t be ignored .

As I have said before I am not a hopeless romantic but I do admire the beauty of true love. I mean who doesn’t? I’d love to experience real love Rick and Michonne style. You know the kind where the two people involved don’t care about what outsiders think but the people on the outside knows that it’s real. So they want to experience it for themselves. Yes love is so incredibly awesome.