love

Interracial Dating

Everyone knows where I stand on love as far as I am concerned love has no color. Yes I am down with the swirl. Therefore I am I interested in dating white men and I’m ready to accept what comes with it. I have seen the backlash that black women get for talking about dating outside of their race. We are attacked constantly like doves during hunting  season. The number one thing that’s asked  besides their claims of self hate is”With so much that’s going on in the world why are you dicussing your love life.” To me why not with all the horrific things that’s going on let’s talk about some goodness and being in love is a fantastic thing. So let’s share the good news please shall we.

I love all kinds of music, poetry, so many different things most black men who share my interests are into white women and that’s true facts. I want to be with a man who I can be me and that’s okay. He embraces who I am completely not partly. Doesn’t make me feel like I am trying to be someone else when all that I am being is myself it’s something that I cannot help. There was a time years ago when I would hold back who I was because I was being a people pleaser well that’s no more. Life is too short to not be happy. In my life besides caring about what God thinks it’s about what and who makes me happy.

A Second Chance

God is a God of second chances still when is it okay for us to offer it. When should we be open to giving something or someone a second chance.  There are so many scenarios and it’s best to look at both sides of the coin.  First and foremost  pray to God  for me many situations in my past would have went smoother had I done this. As everyone can tell I’m an optimist and a realist as well it’s like driving you have to be an offensive and defensive driver. Another thing about me is that I can be incredibly stubborn it takes a lot for me to give up on anyone or anything however when I do I’m done.

We have to evaluate what’s worth giving something another try and what isn’t. It takes removing the blinders and being completely honest about a situation. For instance like being in a relationship or marriage and our mate hurts us. Now let’s be clear anytime we take a chance in love there’s a chance of getting hurt maybe not intentionally it still happens. I guess it’s about looking at what took place and  filtering whether it was a choice or a mistake. Like with cheating it is a choice always still what made the person cheat its a selfish act absolutely I believe in scratching beneath the surface always. Did the person who cheated feel ignored?  Were they deprived of intimacy? Is the person who cheated selfish? Whatever answer that you come up with is how you move forward.

Forgiveness is something that we must do it’s not just for the person who hurt us but for us as well. When we forgive it sets us free from bitterness. We should not confuse forgiveness with trusting a person again. To forgive is to not hold a grudge and trusting leaves room for the opportunity of a second chance. Just because we forgive a person it doesn’t mean that we allow ourselves to be hurt again.

 

Straight Love

Straight love

Is great love

A connection between

A woman and a man

Is so wonderful

Call me homophobic

All you want

Claim that my heart

Is filled with hate

That won’t stop me

From being proud to be straight

You love who you choose

And I will too

When we stand before

God Almighty I will

Have to answer for what

I have done

Not pressed or calling

Out anyone

Not trying to get anybody

To change

Like everyone else

My choice will remain

I’m attracted to men only

A man’s build is so sexy

Would like to thank God

For creating something

That is so amazing

What I admire the most

Is a man that’s comfortable

With being who he is

Especially as he ages

Once again not

Trying to shove

My preference

Down anyone’s throat

Or force they’re eyes open

However I will

Promote Straight Love

 

 

Not All Advice Is Good

It’s sad to say but not all the people who come into our lives will mean us well. There are ways to filter them out they are exposed eventually just keep your eyes  open actions never lie. Here’s one thing that true always keep it in mind to happy people wants to see other people happy. So if you have a person in your ear given you advice but the results aren’t looking like what they have chances are their advice isn’t good. It’s like the three pigs taking advice from the wolf. Some things aren’t good as they appear sugar and salt look alike so always beware. Don’t allow anyone to steer you away from what you deserve.

Lessons In Love

No one knows what God

Has in store for us

So let’s be open to the possibilities

Of what love could bring

It can catch one off guard

Happen suddenly

Maybe today there’s no telling

People who are already in love

Should want others to have it

If they are truly in love anyway

They want to see others

Experience the same thing

Don’t allow anyone to tell you different

If they are then lose them

We all deserve to have happiness

So ignore and get rid of negative people

Play attention they are easy to spot

The ones that don’t celebrate your

Success or come up with excuses of

Why you should not have it

Surround yourself with people

Who wants to see you smile

Take advice from successful

Couples in love

And those who lost love to

Knowledge of both of these

Lessons in love are valuable

It’s will help one to understand

What they should and shouldn’t do

So your love life has a fair shot

Don’t be afraid to let go

When it’s the right person

You will definitely know

It will be someone

Who isn’t afraid to show

Their love for you

It will be mutual

And will make your

Relationship official

No one deserves to be hurt

So take your time

And never rush

Love is a wonderful feeling

It has powerful energy

Such a blessing

Love can send a person

In any kind of form

Love does not

Come with a manual

Love has no color

No weight amount

No height amount

No age amount

These things place limits

Expanded the bracket

Cast that net

Far and wide

No telling what you may get

Allow this kind of

Thinking to become a habit

Preferences can sometimes

Make you narrow minded

When it comes to

Love be open minded

So you can experience

The right connections

Many times our true mate

Are always someone

That we would never suspect

So keep your eyes open

And your heart too

In the meantime

I pray that your true

Love finds you

I really really really do

 

 

Don’t Rush The Process

Good Morning!  It’s time for a pep talk. There’s no time limit when it comes to healing everyone is different and therefore handles things differently. If you have lost a love one it gets better day to day but you will always miss them. I lost my mother in 1997 and it still feels like yesterday. What I have learned as long as we remember them they will always be with us. If you are suffering from a broken heart you will heal in time. Take your time to heal I’m not saying to dwell on it but it’s not good to act like you fine when you are not. Kinda like when my quarterback (Tony Romo) got hurt and came back too early he ended up being out for the entire season. More than likely he had people in his ear asking are you heal yet we need you. Which brings to something else don’t talk to people who aren’t empathetic. You know the ones who will go as far as to tell you to get over things lose those kind of people right away. You will heal eventually don’t rush the process. God is a excellent comforter and listener He won’t rush you as a matter of fact He will carry you.

With God

When you are a Christian

You hear people

All the time dismissing God

I don’t get mad

I just find it odd

Let’s see

With God

There’s Peace, Joy, Selflessness, Hope

Happiness, Strength, Being Content

Love, Adaptability, Caring, Comfort,

Compassion, Discipline, Goodness

Not to mention the testimonies

To match

Without God

A person is angry, selfish,has hatred

Lost, sad, dysfunctional, discomfort,

Disconnection, hopeless, despair

Absolutely no structure

The difference is having Christ

How does one explain these things

I’ll wait