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Trading Places

This week’s class assignment got my brain to hatch an idea. My assignment was to write a paper about collectivist and individualist parents how they differ and what would it be like if they were to switch children. Would their parenting skills influence them enough to make changes? So it got me to thinking and evaluating my lifestyle as a Christian. If I were to swap my life with a person who doesn’t know Christ would my Christian lifestyle change them. I know that I would not want to live their lifestyle I have been there before. It definitely should make one think. God wants everyone’s soul to be saved. He doesn’t want not one of us to perish. We have all heard the saying that we maybe the only Bible that a person reads and it may cause some pressure for some people. If we’re living according to God’s will one should not mind others watching them as an inspiration not as an idol. Now I feel that people shouldn’t focus only on me or any other Christians but the one who we look to which is Christ. All Christians want to be pleasing to Him.

If a person were to swap lives with me I liked to hope and pray that it would inspire them to turn to Christ. There are many testimonies that I have and that alone should be a huge inspiration. My mother grew up in Christian home her church was right next door. She was very active in her church things like being in the choir and writing church bulletins. When she became an adult she kept being a Christian and passed on her  parenting to skills to her children. I am doing the same things prayers day and night most importantly teaching my sons to have a strong relationship with God. One important thing that I have learned that having a relationship with God must be all of the time. The devil doesn’t take time off to attack us. It isn’t about the devil anyway it’s about God’s love for us that in itself should make the hardest heart soften for Him.

John 3:16

For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

Single Black Mom

Growing up I always told myself

That I would not be a single parent

Raising kids without help

I always felt

That life belonged to someone else

There’s no lucky charms

It’s time to ring the alarm

What’s going on in the

Black community

Making it seem like being

A single black mom

Is an awesome thing as if

Being a struggling mother is a way

To earn stripes

Being a single parent

Doing it all alone

Is not right

It’s quite pathetic

Some of this black fathers

Don’t even care enough

To co-parent

They like to forget

Or assume that paying

Child support will make up for it

This situation is a huge epidemic

One that no one should mimic

It isn’t a lifestyle

That’s glamorise

Say what you want about me

It won’t change how I feel

A stable upbringing should

Always be within our sight

Some of us are just too

Blind to see

I was once like other people too

Now I look back and think

What did I do

To end up with a baby father

Like you

Like a song on the radio

I listened to your tune

Now I am here looking like a fool

Man I wish that I had the analogy

Of no wedding no wound

Had I had it

It would have giving me more

Time to get to know you

I wished that my old schooled ways

Had of saved me from

What I am going through today

My sons would have been saved

From the typical black

Single parent home

It’s so wrong for my sons

To grow up withdrawn

I wished that only I

Could bare this burden alone

Still this is the life that I chose

My choices I own

Allowing my fleshy goals

To take control

Thankful for allowing Christ

To help me to be reborn

And I have learned to never

Put a deadline

On God’s time

For He has no limits

That sometimes it’s not

Always the things that we planned

That are the best

But in fact it’s the things

That are not planned

Which are the true miracles

Not trying to get all spiritual

But God’s way is the best way

For sure

So I will embrace

What God has on the way

Being a single mom

Isn’t the end

But the beginning

Of what God has

For my family and me

Thank You God All Almighty

 

 

 

 

 

Second Time Around

When you can look back at past mistakes and own up to your choices it says a lot about your work with Christ. Our God is awesome. I can’t wait to see what He has in store for me!

 

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A Shade of Black

Tameeka is about to go there. Yes I am about to talk about colorism in the black community. I was watching a video on YouTube and it was about a website called Smoochr. The website is a place that allows people to filter the kind of people that they want. A person get to choose based on skin shade, size of lips, hair type etc. Hmmmmmm definitely not something that I will be checking out. As many know I’m about love and never about division. God made us all different but beautiful we are to embrace our differences not use them as a way to divide. Anyway I know some people may debate with me about who started colorism okay hundreds of years ago some of the white people did it fine and dandy. But who keeps the colorism going? The maker of the Smoochr website is a black man. So instead of pulling people together he’s is causing more separation and insecurities of others.

Colorism

I am black but my shade is brown. I’m what would be considered to be in between dark-skinned and light-skinned. Growing up I never paid attention to shade but I have witnessed dark-skinned people being bullied based on their color as if growing up wasn’t hard enough. It is still very much present today. I have also heard people of a dark skin talk about being insecure and hating their skin color. It’s just horrible and it needs to end. The only test that a paper bag should have is how much weight it can hold. At the end of the day we all check off the box for black regardless of our shade. I don’t care who slams me we must do better. Let’s lift up one another high. Stop hurting one another and let’s heal one another. I get the past but what are we doing now to move forward in a positive way. It’s the only way that change will happen.

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God’s Creations

Hey Everyone Blessings!!

One of classes that I am taking is called Cross-Cultural Psychology this week’s assignment was to choose a country to write about it’s culture and how are their emotions. I chose to write about Italy. I also had to compare it to the culture of the United States what a huge difference that there are. There is so much that I learned about Italy that I didn’t know like it’s a little larger than the state of Arizona but has ten times the population. How Italy has only been a country for 153 years. I learned how important family is to Italians not just immediate but extended too. How most Italians children don’t leave home until they are 30 and even though they are gone their mothers still cooks for them. Or how they talk with their hands and doesn’t hold feelings in. Practically every place in Italy holds some type of significance.  Vernice is my favorite place it’s the most beautiful and romantic place in the whole world.

My class got me to thinking about the beautiful things that God has blessed us with and the gifts that helps us to create more. I love all the beautiful things that we have here on earth and the things that we are blessed to experience. How God took so much care with all that He created including each one of us. God loves is everywhere all we have to do is take a look around. It blows my mind and gives my heart so much joy thinking about the goodness of the Lord. I’m so glad that I know Him and so very thankful for all that He does. I thank God for waking me up. I thank God for my children. I thank God for my family immediate and extended. I thank God for my friends. I thank God for every experience good or bad and the ones that made me happy or sad. For every blessing that I have ever had I am glad. Father God thank You!

 

Put A Lock On It

Hey Everybody!!! Blessings to All!!!

Man going back to college this time around really is keeping me way busy. I’m glad that it has it got me to thinking about a whole lot of things. I was looking at a Wi-Fi signal with a lock on it and boy did that get my creative juices flowing. I am a people person and I do enjoy people of all nationalities.  As a Christian I do love all of my brothers and sisters. I’ve always have been inquisitive something about getting to know a person sparks my curiosity. Now that I am in this Cross-Cultural class it’s really has gotten me in more interested in people. As I have said before I feel that everyone has something to offer that’s worth knowing. The key is what’s worth knowing and what’s not. Indeed God sends everyone into our lives for a reason if only for a season. It’s important when to hold on, let go or not let a person in from the start. Some people may cross our paths as a demonstration of what you don’t want or need.

I have become a lot more cautious of whom I connect to. I have learned to put a lock on my connection. Have you ever noticed some of the places that offer free Wi-Fi but sometimes the connection is  crappy? Well our spirits are like Wi-Fi they can’t stay connected all the time especially with people who drains you. Even phone companies after a certain amount of data usage it gets reduced. I want to connect to as many people as I can. I want to brighten days and put smiles on people’s faces. After all the best things in life are free. Still I don’t want the wrong kinds of people connecting with me to download what they can from me it’s can drain my spirit. I want my data usage to stay up and so I have decided to place a lock on who I connect to. God maybe sending someone my way to inspire it’s okay to have a cut off point if we give too much away we won’t have anything left for ourselves.

Thank You Jesus

As I have shared I have started back to college and I cannot believe that I am done with my first course already. The start was rocky but with God’s help I kept pushing. I have come up with ways to stay focused. I’m super excited. I received an A. This is a giant step of a life changing  journey. I know that I could not have done it by myself. When I think of all the many times that God has brought me through I simply cannot thank Him enough. If I had a million tongues and  hands it still wouldn’t be enough to thank Him or Praise Him. I’m thankful that He can look into my heart. I just want to Thank You Jesus!

1 Thessalonians 5:18 – In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.

Breaking My Heart

Three police officers were murdered this is just so heartbreaking. Being a police officer is a tough job. They risk their lives for people some don’t care.Prayers are going up for the officers and their families. The violence must stop. Father God please step in and bring more peace into this world.

I wrote a report on bias for class. The media has an huge influence on society. So quick to put out stories and people make quick decisions with part of a story. How many police officers are there thousands most are doing their jobs and that’s something that everyone needs to think about.