America

Independence Day-

a day celebrating the anniversary of national independence.

Happy 4th to everyone. We sometimes allow the wrong things to make us forget the meaning of certain things. Independence Day is beyond fireworks and barbecues those things are great traditional things still let’s remember the meaning. Yes there are some things that we feel that America our country needs to work on still we live in a land of opportunity. For me there is no other country where I would want to be living in don’t mind visiting but that’s about it.

My Calling

After all the years of hurting and tears I have found one of my callings. It’s to help to heal people’s hearts and marriages with God’s help of course. I have been hurt deeply but God has healed me too. I want to help couples to enjoy their marriages.

In order for a marriage to be successful a husband and wife must understand their roles, do their roles and respect them. A marriage has to have God in it to help with everything. Communication is a huge key it’s important to talk to God and your spouse. A couple has to be willing to let God in allow God to be the glue that holds them together. Don’t throw in the towel when angry and go to God always.

Life can get busy but if it gets so busy that there’s no time for God or your spouse then it’s time to slow down. Marriage can not work by itself or with only one spouse but together. Never push your spouse away or make them feel less than a person. Forgiveness is a great thing to do and have but don’t abuse it. Say that you are sorry and show that you mean it with positive actions. If a situation happens and you choose to forgive then do that. Don’t keep throwing up the past because the marriage will not and can not move forward on a positive note. A happy marriage has a happy family children deserve a happy home. A couple daily should always remember why they got married and what makes their spouse special to them. It’s important for a spouse to be valued, not taken for granted or made to feel like a habit.

Remember you’ve been blessed with a person who you want to spend the rest of your life with and they want the same. It’s very important to have a realistic concept of marriage a lifetime spend is of many hours, days, months and years like the weather it wouldn’t always be sunny. There will be ups and downs but God can turn things around. Just don’t give up and fight for your marriage daily. Don’t allow anything to steal your joy. Enjoy the blessing that God has given and most of all keep Him in it. God is needed everyday, in every way and in everything.

Yes He Is!

I have my ups and downs more ups than anything. No matter what I feel the Most High is with me. If we don’t feel various emotions how will we know that we are alive. I am super excited in a week my blog will be five months old and I have been in college for one month.  I think most of the cobwebs on my brain are gone. The brain juice is loose. There is more to come. I just can not wait to see what God has in store for me. All I want to do is thank God for making me who I am and for all that He does. I love God so much. If I had a million tongues it could not thank Him enough. Thank You Father God Thank You! I just want to thank You! Praise Break!!!! Hey Now. There’s joy all up In my soul.

1 Thessalonians 5:18 – In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.

Betrayal

I’m pretty sure that I am not the only person who feels this way but we all know that when we have a problem it seems bigger than everyone else’s. Many times I ask Christ for forgiveness about feelings that I feel when certain situations arises. Here’s the thing we as Christians know how hard it is once we decide to come to Christ especially when we tell our family and friends. One thing that I always say is a person can want to lose weight, lower their cholesterol, and or blood pressure those things will get a round of applause but if a person says that they want to live for Christ it’s questioned. People want to bring up your past or want to feel like you really aren’t real about it.  Growing up all the way up until now I have had my guard up. I always worry about a person betraying me because they can’t accept who I am. So they will attempt to get close to see what they can find out. Is Tameeka really a Christian? What sins are Tameeka struggling with? Is Tameeka really as friendly as she seems? The most disturbing part is betrayal never comes from strangers. Enemies most times are family we aren’t speaking to or former friends. They know the most that is why betrayal hurts the most.

Recently I was betrayed by a person whom I thought was a great person sadly I found out otherwise. It hurt me to the core. What I am about to say may seem crazy but I am glad that the experience happened. For two reasons it helped me to become stronger and it helped me to have faith in good people. A good person came forward and told me about what this person did so that showed me that they are good person who stand for what’s right. I noticed that  I wasn’t hearing from people like I normally did. I thought that they were just busy it turned out that it was because of this person.At the time I was overflowing with emotions and questions. Like why did this person do this to me. What did I do for them to betray me the way that they did? What exactly did this person say? Why did these people believe this person? I felt so anger because I was so loyal and this person rewarded me by betraying me. Now understand this person turned people whom I have known for years against me. I have no idea what was said but I do know that this person is responsible for people not talking to me. This person’s betray felt like a crime of passion with all the backstabbing that they did. They are angry with me for some reason not sure as to why but I do know that God is a excellent defense attorney and will deal with this person. Still I never get angry with the person who lies on me must times I know why but I don’t understand why people choose to believe the lies even though the have witnessed differently. Look for me I always question when a person says something negative about someone there is always something behind it trust me. A messenger always has a motive that’s why it’s best to keep your eyes and ears open. What a person says about someone else actually says a lot about them. 

Majority of the time the lessons learned doesn’t feel great at the time but the purpose of it in the end does. Jesus Christ was betrayed and I can’t hold a candle to him. I do asked God to continue to protect me but to help me to  not shut out the wrong people. We are not meant to be alone Jesus wasn’t. Every person that cross our paths is for a reason we just have to wait and find out why. Also every move that we make has a purpose as well God many times allows us to witness situations to test us about what will we do. I’m thankful for the person who informed me of the situation even though it hurts I’m glad that I found out the truth.

All I Want To Be

In order for things to be successful

Between me and you

There are essential things

That I need to do

I am going to be your

Prayer warrior, a leaning shoulder,

A confidant and a Proverbs woman

Because I want to be your

Best friend under God of course

All I want to be is

A ray of positivity

That shines like sunshine brightly

In your morning

When you first open your eyes

I want to be motivation

In your afternoon

That gives you a boost

So you can reach the end

Of the day with peace smoothly

I want to be the highlight

Of your night

So when you close your eyes

To sleep you will

Dream sweet dreams of me

When the next day come

We’ll start it right over again

I want to do this daily

Be everything

That you want and need

I’m going out on a limb

And be a little cocky

Because ain’t nobody like me

That’s why I do these things

With easy

I aim to please

My king

You are the right man

This I believe constantly

That’s why I show

You so much love

That it overflows

I love you truly

And I am not letting you go

Don’t Be Afraid

Don’t be afraid

That wasn’t always easy

For me to say

I’ve had my

Good and bad days

Good and bad years

Still through all the tears

I let go of my fears

All of the pain

It helped my mindset

To change

Especially when it

Comes to love

I know that I have

A good heart

I’ve have learned

That I am not alone

That realization

In itself

Is inspiration to

Not give up

On love

And being open to

Having the right one

I believe truly that it’s you

You are the one for me

So I am telling you this today

To please do not walk away

Forget about the sadness of yesterday

I mean the words that I say

I won’t hurt you

Or betray you

So don’t be afraid

 

 

Ordinary People Deserves Extraordinary Love

Good Morning! Happy Friday to All!

So I was watching a YouTube video and it sparked and idea in my mind which I plan to set into motion. Here’s the case the video talked about a black Christian woman who’s interested in a white Christian man where they attend church together. While they never have spoken outside of church the lady feels an attraction to this man yet neither of them are making a move. She says he smiles at her, she smiles back and they have spoken briefly at church. Now we know that the Bible says when a man Finds a wife he Finds a good thing therefore it’s not a woman’s job to pursue. It’s important for these two people to engage with one another outside of church. That way it will be clear for sure exactly what they are feeling towards one another. Based on the video and a comment that I read I wondered why the white man is not approaching this lady. Is he shy? Being that it’s a church setting could he just be being friendly? Does he feel that interracial dating isn’t for him? Is he afraid of rejection? The questions just goes on.

Anyway about the comment that was on the video a person said that many times in the media when it comes to interracial dating you rarely see ordinary people who are in love majority of the time they are usually really good looking and really successful people. While being successful is important everyone will not live in a mansion and everyone will not be millionaires. I know that I will never possess a mansion nor be a millionaire and you know what? That’s okay. I’m fine living a ordinary life being an ordinary person who has an extraordinary personality that deserves an extraordinary kind of love. Yeah I said it. I’m ordinary and I’m proud. My Boaz doesn’t have to be rich but he does have to love Christ be can be rich in love that good enough for me.

So yeah. I’m making it my mission to sharing pictures of ordinary interracial couples that way ordinary people like myself won’t feel intimidated and not miss out on love. We deserve what God has for us remember God is a show off God. He wants His glory so He does things that blows our minds. I really hope that the black woman and white man in the video hook up and I pray that they are successful in love. We all deserve happiness.

https://www.podbean.com/media/player/6546a-603e76?from=yiiadmin

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What Age Would I Be?

Hmmmmmmmm!! I watched a video by Gabe and Babe yesterday they asked an interesting question. If we could choose a age to be which would it be? Drum roll please!!!! I would have to say the age of 21 because my mother was still alive and I was becoming comfortable with who I was as a person. I know it may surprise people because it’s before my sons were born. Still they would come in the future and would always be appreciated as well as loved. Just seeing my mother again would be the best feeling in the world. I know that I will see her again I just miss her so much some days more than others. So yeah 21 is the lucky number.

Don’t Wait Too Long

I could be wrong but I don’t think so. I feel that there is a lesson in every step that we make in our lives. As I have shared I have started back to college this is my third week. The first week was a little rough because my application and everything else was approved the same day that I started. The second week I made a plan on how to minimize distractions and making a schedule of when to work on my school work. Let me tell you when you plan on doing something it seems like everything under the sun comes at you it’s like a defensive line coming at a quarterback to strip the football. It requires being focused and moving around in the pocket to get things done like Tony Romo. This week which is the third week I had my mind made up that I was going to complete one of my assignment last night. Now I had three days to do the first one but I waited until the third day like four hours prior to it being do. I know. I know. Bad, Bad, Bad, Bad, Bad me! Anyway my assignment was to read a speech called Ain’t I a Woman? and then watch the interpretation of the speech by Ms Cicely Tyson I basically had to explain which did I enjoy more than the other and why. I also had to explain how important is it to have a visual of something. For me I don’t really need a picture to understand what a writer is trying to say. I’m old schooled so I rely quite a bit on my very own imagination it’s good to keep my brain juices flowing it gets great exercise creating something on it’s own. In a world that takes pictures of everything every five seconds it helps to have a brain like mine. Take music for instance if it’s by a great artist it can make you picture and feel what the artist is feeling make one create even a mini movie in the mind. Anyway I had everything perfect my ideas, grammar, spelling, etc etc I think that I may have kissed the paper. I typed everything in perfectly went to send it and it would Not send with a half and hour to send it in!!!! Oh my goodness it took me five minutes to get into contact with technical support and ten minutes to work on the problem. Whew!!! Lesson learned I will not wait too long ever again.