Writing

Single Parenting It Isn’t A Joke

It’s not a white thing or a black thing being a single parent can be hard.We all come from a family which is suppose to be a beautiful thing. Unfortunately things happen and what we felt was destined sometimes falls apart. Many times a family split can become ugly. What really makes me think and I try really hard to not allow it to get to me is how can something that was once so happy become the opposite?

When a family experience a split it’s really hard on the children. As far as I’m concerned regardless of how I feel about my children’s dad I don’t allow it to affect them my feelings ended when we did. My children are my top priority their happiness is all that I care about. Every time I look at my boys it’s with the look of when they were first born so much love. I will give any and everything for my children to be okay. That’s why they don’t see tension between their father and I it’s not for them to be involved in adult situations.

Growing up my mother never discussed her feelings with me pertaining to my father unless I asked her getting an answer out of her was like abstracting a tooth from a tiger. She didn’t want to feel like she was influencing my decision about my father. My mother was an amazing mother all of my parenting skills comes from her.

Anyway back on top it doesn’t matter how we feel or where we are. The children takes priority they should never go neglected. They should never be used as pawns between a mother and father. At times everyone has advice to give about single parenting still each case is different but both parents must care about the children’s well being. When we bring children into the world our lives change and so does their too which should be for the better even if a relationship or marriage turns out bad.

Something Happens

Something happens

When I get my hands on a piece of paper

And a pencil

They make me feel invincible

So knowledgeable

Proud of the art

That’s formed

Sheer happiness like I have never known

Greatness is inevitable

All kinds of dreams

That are so inspiring

Come to life on the piece paper

That’s before me

So memorable

Simply unforgettable

I could not have ask God

For more

Thankful for this blessing

That was sent straight from heaven

To be able to share my feelings

For many to see

Something happens

When I get my hands on

A piece of paper and a pencil

It is something very special

Is She The One?

The last one who should not be confused about anything is a person who calls themselves a Christian. We must respect God’s Word all of it because it applies to us all. We don’t get to pick and choose which parts that works best for us. Christian people have to understand that we maybe the only Bible that people read.

I wrote a post the other day pertaining how a Christian man is compared to a man of the world. A Christian man is the head of the household thus must be treated as such and behave as such. Family is a very important subject in the Bible. The Bible should be the foundation of a family it has instructions which must be followed. If there is one thing that we shouldn’t be doing and that’s bring children into the world out of wedlock. We can look around at society it’s damaged much of it is due to broken homes. Do you really what to add more broken homes to society?

A man whether he is a Christian or not knows when he meets a woman what his intentions are. No Christian man should be playing house if she’s good enough to lay with then why isn’t she your wife? Why have children out of wedlock? When we know better we do better. It’s time to get real and understand that people aren’t toys either Man up or move on.

Domestic Violence Forget What You Think You Know

I have been a huge fan of Johnny Depp every since he starred on the television show 21 Jump Street. He is quite an attractive man. Not too long ago I wrote a post about domestic violence. However Johnny Depp doesn’t come to mind it just goes to show we never know who could be an abuser. His wife has gotten a restraining order and has shared pictures of the bruises on her face. I admit that I’m a person who is inquisitive so I have many questions pertaining to this situation. How long has Johnny Depp been an abuser? He offered his wife money to be quiet about the abuse. How will the public receive this news? I know it’s his private life but it definitely gets us to raise our awareness. Will he be treated like Chris Brown? The public was outraged about his abuse against Rhianna could it be people were more upset about Rhianna being harm. All I know is it will be very interesting to see how things are over the next couple of weeks.

All jokes aside I can’t get Edward Scissorhands and Charlie and the Chocolate Factory out of my head.What makes Johnny Depp go off? I know that he recently loss his mother. Now in no way am I making up excuses but I feel in order to change a situation we must understand it. When a person hit another person it’s just not good to stay. I’m praying for his wife, everyone who has been abuse and the abusers. It must stop. Prayers going up for all of the hurt people in the world. Abuse is never okay no matter if the person is famous, good looking, poor, rich, man or woman.

 

Cowboy Fever

Team Dallas

Yeah I said it

My team deserve all the respect

We can handle it

So deal with it

All the trash that we be talking

We can back it

It’s a proven fact

The people who be hating

I can understand why

With 8 Superbowl appearances

5 Superbowl wins

10 Conference Championships

22 Division Championships

34 Playoff Appearances

480-364-6 All Time Record

There’s strength in numbers

Yeah Take That

In my Piddy’s voice

As far as I’m concerned

Not many times can try to match us

Thinking so is just whack

Our fan base is stacked

Yeah DC4L Baby

Having love for any other team

Is just crazy

A Christian Man Is That You?

First off a Christian man should look nothing like a man of the world. He is destined to be the head of his family and thus behave that way before it happening. I know some are saying, “Hold up, Tameeka what exactly do you mean?” Well, I am going to explain what I mean a true man of God can do many things yet understands that he should Not do them all.

He has self-control is a counselor, prayer warrior, and encourager. He always wants to be the man that God has called him to be. He is aware that there are young men who are watching him. He doesn’t take his walk with Christ lightly and is mindful that he may be the only Bible that some people reads. He doesn’t makeup excuses for what he does or hides behind grace as a way to get away with things. He takes a tally of what he is doing and matches it to what God wants. He’s continuously evaluating himself he desires to be the best man of God that he possibly can be. He treats people like how he would like to be treated.

People will flock to him for advice, prayer, encouragement, and inspiration. He never takes advantage of people, especially women. He lets a woman know where she stands the word games is not a part of his vocabulary. When he sees a marriage that’s in trouble, he sees it as an opportunity to pray for the couple and doesn’t try to prey on the wife. He has boundaries in place so that there are no misunderstandings. He never wants a fellow brother to feel any hurt caused by him. He knows when he can help and when it’s God’s job. He is very responsible never plays fast and loose he doesn’t use a woman. He doesn’t put anyone down but lifts them. A man of the world and a man of God only has one thing in common when it comes to women. They both realize at the time of meeting a woman whether she has the potential of being his wife. In a Man of God relationship, he doesn’t go tic for tac he knows that a real man doesn’t behave like that. He gives his all in his relationship. He has left no backdoors open with any other woman he knows that he is better than that. A man of God understands that the right matches don’t have to be tested he trust that God is in it. If for some reason a relationship doesn’t work out, and he finds that the woman isn’t the right fit he lets her go so that she can find the right man of God to commit to. He doesn’t walk around angry with grudges or a heart of revenge he thanks God for every life lesson. His mission with God’s help is to leave a lasting impression of positivity on every person that he meets.

This is not bashing it’s giving a lot of  Men of God credit I know many this is a checklist. Are you all of these things, or is it merely a bucket list. A man of God is held with the highest regards if you can’t uphold it then lose the Christian label. The word  Christian should not be treat as a bumper sticker but more like a tattoo. Be an ambassador for Christ as a man; make sure that you do it right. How can a Christian man be a leader when he can’t get minor things together? If it’s too much of responsibility  back away until you are ready. One can not have one foot in the world and the other with Christ. Understand that things aren’t all about you and that your actions can effect someone else’s life. Walk right.

Ezekiel 22:30

I searched for a man among them who would build up the wall and stand in the gap before Me for the land so that I would not destroy it; but I found no one.

2 Samuel 10:17

Be strong, and let us show ourselves courageous for the sake of our people and the cities of our God; and may the LORD do what is good in His sight.

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I Am A Writer

I am a writer there I said it. Working hard to develop work of brilliance being resistant towards anything that’s trying to plant a seed to quit. So very committed I love writing thinking of ways that are inspiring it’s such a blessing. The other day I was super siked I wrote a post that was over 600 words long. Still as I have shared not trying to make my posts as long as a novel.

My goal as always is to write the things that people are afraid to speak about. If I can help just one person to me it’s like winning a million dollars.

It Is On

Okay Okay I absolutely cannot stand it. Some of you black men are going overboard with your hate against black women. What exactly is the deal? I can’t fathom what it could be. Some of you categorize all black women into one claiming that we all aren’t crap. Then you wonder why black women have zero respect for you.

I seen a video that was so disgusting. I would share but it’s not worth it for several reasons. One the language in it was way too foul, it disrespected a woman’s child directly and I don’t want to help it earn money. My whole goal is to shed some light on this situation. It’s not drama it’s raising awareness. The madness most stop I mean you guys do know where you came from right? A black woman birth you into this world.

I plan on discussing this topic every chance that I get. Anyway the guy who made the video to take shots at a beautiful lady on YouTube Christelyn. She promotes swirling which is black women and white men interracial dating. Through I do not know her personally I sent her an email and she responded back promptly. She really does care about people.It’s so disappointing to see some black men bashing her on a daily basis. I wish people would allow this lady to do what she wants it’s not hurting anyone. To be honest I think because she’s successful the men who attack her are jealous. Whatelse could it be? She’s doesn’t wear wigs or weave so they can’t make the claim that she’s trying to be white although I feel that that has nothing to do with how black that a person is.

Look we as black people don’t have to love or like each other still we should respect one another. A black man is someone’s son, father, brother, cousin or grandson. Just like a black woman is someone’s daughter, mother, sister, cousin or granddaughter. We are all valuable to somebody one life touches another. I am not into bashing I believe in meeting people where they are. Still I will not lie the bashing that’s going on between black women and black men at times it bothers me. It’s deeper than black people who choose to date interracially there is some deep seeded hate and I am trying to figure out where it came from.

Are there some black people who could be doing better yes but it doesn’t mean they never will do better either. It’s just way too much finger pointing and too many negative people are spreading their poison around. With not one person taking ownership of what they should be doing.We have to do better it’s a must. I don’t care about how many times I write about it if it will help to push us into the direction of positivity.

Where is it written that if you are black that you must date black only? Just like why and how do people reach the conclusion that people who date outside of their race must hate their own race. Love is an energy people. When souls connect the person’s color is not involved. Love has no color everyone is entitled to love who they want as long as it’s within God will. Love is beyond black love or interracial love. God is in control. What is destined to be will be whether we like it or not.

It’s time to promote love and respect letting go of the hate that is going on between our black brothers and sisters. The generation behind us are watching us we have to get it together.

 

 

Playing Detective

The other day I convicted myself I wondered what it is about me that I instantly turn into a detective. Why I just can not accept things at face value? I guess with everything that I have been through I simply can not help it. Especially when it comes to opening myself up to love again. I don’t want to risk my heart being broken or looking like a fool.

Not trying to make myself seem so special but I always come across people who try to make it their mission to prove who I am really, I’m liked” Really Bro how would you know me better than I know myself?” One thing about me I am very kind hearted and so that makes me an easy target.  People tend to take my kindness for weakness. I know that I am God’s creation therefore I am under His protection. No matter what happens I won’t change who I am because of people.

I will admit that I have trust issues at one point in life I didn’t want to. Admitting to having trust issues sparks characteristics within a person that they never knew existed. Let me explain further I do not believe it’s okay to go through a person’s things, have passwords etc if a person needs to do all of that then perhaps it’s best to end the relationship. My trust issues are with my heart and words whether a man is being genuine or not.

The one only that I have learned noone can convince a person not to hurt you if they want to justify why it’s okay to do so. Just pray that they are exposed for what and who they are to avoid unnecessary heartbreak.

A person who won’t be alone to heal is selfish Yeah I said it. It’s not cool to use a person to help you get over pain that’s not okay. For me I am willing to be alone as long as God sees fit I WOULD NEVER inflict any pain on someone else. God doesn’t like ugly and He does make people pay for their messed up way. No I am not trying to speak negativity on people still one can not treat a person wrong expect not to be punished for their behavior.

My hopes are for us all to find love with the right one and as far as for me playing detective I never will stop doing it. Nothing is going overboard when it comes to heartbreak I rather be alone. I know that God has my Boaz even if it takes a couple more years of waiting I will. Because I know that once my Boaz arrive I will never have to play detective again. All of my Boaz words will match I won’t have an uneasy feeling about him. He will do everything not to break my heart. I won’t make him feel uncomfortable because of doubt. Let’s face it a seed of doubt has the power to grow into the biggest oak tree.

Determined to not allow doubt to rob me of my Boaz or loneliness for that matter. Being lonely is the reason for a lot of bad relationships people aren’t patient enough to wait on God. Word to the wise you can’t be with the right one if you are with the wrong one. Mr. Or Mrs. Right now will ruin who you are truly destined to be with. The right one will not interrupt what you have no one can see if you are unhappy they just know that you are unavailable. I don’t know about anyone else I know that we are worth the wait.