Christianity

What Is Most Important?

Everyone is different so everyone seek different things when it comes to a potential mate. What they seek separates us from who’s right for us and who’s not. I believe that there is somebody for everybody because God made it so. I was watching an interview pertaining to relationships and  people’s choices in a mate. It was quite interesting. To me nobody knows everything but everybody knows something that we can learn from. We just have to be open to learning. Anyway on with the story there was a lady speaking saying that she cares about what a man has to offer financially. She mentioned nothing else accept the man being really tall. I found that to be very disturbing though it shouldn’t have. Most people care about money men and women. My question is what happens when the person can not provide or they get sick. The world is filled with selfish people. Don’t get me wrong I want to live comfortable too. Comfortable for me are my bills being paid, a nice place to live it could be an apartment, townhouse etc it doesn’t have to be a mansion. You get where I’m  coming from and I mean what I am saying. Some people care about looks and that’s fine. It’s just isn’t good to care too much about things that don’t matter very much. They change over time eventually.

For me I want my Boaz to be smart, kind hearted, respectful, loyal a natural born leader someone I can trust. These things are actually pretty hard to find. I’m a leader but a woman is not suppose to lead it’s  a man place. Being a true leader is knowing how to be a great follower. Of course no leader will allow just anyone to lead them. It’s like giving a person a map that they can not read that’s definitely setting yourself up for failure. You’ll be stranded in the middle of nowhere fast. I love Courage the Cowardly Dog but nowhere doesn’t look like a cool place to live. I’m not glutton for punishment. At my age I am realistic, I have sons therefore I don’t expect to find a man my age without children. That’s just a selfish mentality. To be honest I really don’t have everything down to an exact science of what I  am  looking for in my Boaz. Not looking in the first place God has the situation covered already. I do know that I want the love of the old couples who fought for their love. Everyone wants to learn from them a true romance story.

Money Money Money

Turn it off

Please turn it off

Turn the radio off

I am so sick of some

These rap artist of today

All they ever talk about

Are cars, women, drugs

And Money, Money, Money

Like is there anything else

That comes to mind

Something more creative perhaps

KRS One please school

These dudes I swear they have no clue

I know that it’s everyone’s dream

To have success but please

Give it rest

You don’t want to come off

Like you are obsessed

Money, Money, Money

No matter how much that you have

There’s still many things

That it can not buy

Like your way into Heaven

Or even Hell

However with the way that some of you

Are acting it’ll definitely get you in

Without paying a cent

You can fool yourself all you want

But there is an after this

Whether you want to believe it

I just hope and pray that

Some of you guys gets it

Money, Money, Money

Gives you wealth but

It can’t buy you good health

Nor true happiness

Even if you were to buy

Everything that you

Want and need

You will always feel empty

Like something is missing

Money, Money, Money

After you buy everything

It really means nothing

I know for me

I’m not money hungry

As long as my boys are happy

My bills are paid

Heck throw me my Boaz

And I’m content

That’s what makes me happy

To me that’s a blessing

No need for bragging

But appreciating

Which is something

That all the

Money, Money, Money

In the whole entire world

Can not buy

 

 

 

Myths About Black Women

It upsets me having to make a post about this situation at this point in time. The disrespect that black women receive is so ridiculous. The myths pertaining to us are unbelievable that we have kids by several men, that we are uneducated, that we are lazy, the list just goes on. When a black woman decides to date outside of her race the stereotypes are even worse.  First off I don’t fit into the cliche’that’s placed on women who date outside of their race. I grew up in a mostly black neighborhood, had a mixture race of friends, mostly black schools etc. I don’t watch Empire or Scandal. I am just attracted to white men and that’s just how it is. I’ve spoken about this before there’s a lady that I follow on YouTube and she talks about interracial dating. She gets a lot of flack because she’s promoting love. So what’s wrong with that?  When I  find my potential white mate I’m going to broadcast it too. That’s what people do when they are in love.

I’m for the human race and yes I am very concerned about the black community. Being a black woman I am apart of the black community so how could I not be concerned. It’s quite laughable how many speak of racism and don’t  want to address the hate that’s going on in the community against black women. The lack of respect is astonishing.  Where did it all come from?  And why? In my opinion I believe that a lot of pain starts at home. Broken homes where mainly single mothers are the head of the household with fathers who aren’t in their children’s lives. Broken children who grew up into angry adults that’s hurting the community. Hurt people hurt others. Hurt people justify their hurt by hurting others. The saddest people are the ones who validate trying to destroy a person by blaming the person who they are trying to destroy. The hate that a lot of black men have for black women is so overwhelming that it demolishes all the positive things that’s going on. This needs to stop we have to do better. At the end of the day we are hurting ourselves as a community. Think about it we must break the chain. Who will be brave enough to not point fingers but do their part?

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Inheritance

Before we were even born

God already had our

Lives designed

True history

So we have to decide

Are we going to hold on to

What people say or think of us

Or what God has for us

We can’t hold on to both

People views are always

Changing it’s just too much

To try to keep up

It requires too much focus

People’s opinions holds no value

Why stress behind words

Which are more than

Likely inaccurate

If we have people who constantly

Talk about our past then

That’s where they belong

So blast to the present

And prepare for the future

Don’t need people on our team

Who keeps a tally our faults

But when it comes to them

The pen doesn’t work

What was one of the lessons

That was taught in school

Pertaining to records of history

Recounted by people

It was Leif Erikson

Who was the first European

That discovered America

And not Christopher Columbus

We had the past all wrong

So on that note allow

Positive words to keep us strong

If our name is not rightfully

On it than we don’t own it

Do not I repeat

Do not inherit negativity

It’s not meant let’s

Lift our heads up high

And smile we owe

It to ourselves

Focusing on the wrong things

Will cause us to miss out

On our blessings

Remember God has many

Wonderful things in store

Which are the best

Get ready

Step into your inheritance

Fear Not

Fear causes doubt it can destroy something before it even gets started. Fear even puts thoughts into your mind that isn’t even true. Fear robs you so don’t allow it to.

The Bible says:

1 Peter 5:7 Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.

Franklin Roosevelt once said “The only thing to fear is fear itself”.

Absolute freedom is being fearless. So enjoy your freedom and set yourself free.

 

Faith

Faith is our muscle

That we must flex

At our worse times not our best

We must use it

To strengthen it

Over the years of life

Tragedies will sometimes come

That may bring tears with fears

But this is when we have

To put our faith into gear

Even in our times of hurt

Our darkest hour

Through our questions

And eyes filled with tears

One thing is clear

God is with us

He’s got us

Just trust

Just trust

Faith is putting our pride aside

And realizing

It’s wise

Pride is not the key to survive

Only faith can do that

So believe

Regardless of what you see

Scratch beneath the surface

Got Faith

Grab it

Don’t allow doubt in

There’s power in our faith

Turning everything over

To God

There’s absolutely nothing

That He can not solve

 

And Sometimes

On my journey with God

I have learned

That sometimes God

Helps right away

And sometimes He won’t

Sometimes He will take away pain

And sometimes He will allow

One to go through

Not to hurt you

But to strengthen you

So that the next time

A challenge happens

You will pass the test

Without stress

You will know what to do

Sometimes God want us

To be an inspiration

To somebody

What an honor

Let’s face it

No one wants to listen

To a person who has no idea

Kinda like applying for a job

With no experience

Experience is the best teacher

One can try to relate

But even that can be done

Only but so much

God has a season

For everything with a reason

Though we may not ever realize

Why things are happening at the time

One thing is for certain

God will end the hurting

I have learned this

Yes I have gained experience

Sometimes God helps us out right away

And sometimes He waits

No matter our fate

Or how long it takes

His timing is great

He makes no mistakes

He is with us all the time

For always

Because He is that kind of God

He is simply wonderful

 

 

 

Being Tameeka

There is so much to who I am. First off I love being me and no I am not perfect I’m Tameeka and that’s okay. I am as unique as the spelling of my name. There are many things that I enjoy doing like being a Christian, wearing wigs, hair pieces, baseball caps, make up, exercising,  watching football, drinking, coffee, listening to music the list just goes on. For that I opt out of challenges that takes away from who I am simply because I don’t have to prove who I am according to what people think. You just can’t please people I only want to please God He made me and I want to be the best me that I can possibly be. When I say challenges I mean the going natural challenge no weave no makeup as an example to me most challenges are silly anyway. Look I know how I look without makeup and I know that I have hair people stereotype about others and they have absolutely no clue. Even though I have hair I prefer to wear wigs because they are convenient and I have thin hair. My hair isn’t thinning yet praise God for that but I have thin hair and yes baby I have edges. I enjoy wearing makeup not foundation just lipstick, eyeshadow and eyeliner occasionally. Nothing against any woman who wears foundation, blush or whatever it’s her choice as well as her business. Rock On!

All I want to say to anyone that reads this be you and do what you want as long as it isn’t hurting anyone. In my case I’m going to do whatever I want as long as it’s within the Will of God. Everyday is blessing why ruin it by caring or worrying about what people think of you. I’ve learn and this is so true anyone that says something negative all the time doesn’t have your best interest in mind. Something people enjoy making others feel bad because that’s how they actually feel about themselves. They feel bad. Misery loves company. Hurt people hurt others. So don’t allow anything or anyone to steal your joy. Go to the mirror and give yourself a big hug! Do what makes your heart feel joy. I know that I will! Have a beautiful day you deserve it!

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