Parenting

Eeny,meeny,miny, moe

When choosing a mother or father

For your children

The Negan route isn’t

The way to go

Trust me I know

Allow that theory

To blow out the window

Of a car that’s speeding at 180

Even though there are

Books on parenting

There are also some on driving

Yet people still get tickets

For speeding

Some things we can not help

And some we can

Sadly  there’s no way

To be a perfect parent

There are still things

That we can control if we can help it

Like who will have

The blessing of being

A parent to our children

Don’t be in a rush

Because the children

Are the one who gets hurt

When things don’t work

Children deserve both parents

In their lives full-time not partly

Parenting is something

That’s a lifetime commitment

If you think it ends

Once they become 18 forget it

As a parent that loves and cares

For your children

Worry is something

That we always do

We always see them as

The baby that was

Born at the hospital

Being I a parent

Is a blessing truly

Still the number one rule

Of parenting is the choice

Of who will be our children’s

Mother or father before

They are even born

We have to be responsible

 

 

 

Straight Love

Straight love

Is great love

A connection between

A woman and a man

Is so wonderful

Call me homophobic

All you want

Claim that my heart

Is filled with hate

That won’t stop me

From being proud to be straight

You love who you choose

And I will too

When we stand before

God Almighty I will

Have to answer for what

I have done

Not pressed or calling

Out anyone

Not trying to get anybody

To change

Like everyone else

My choice will remain

I’m attracted to men only

A man’s build is so sexy

Would like to thank God

For creating something

That is so amazing

What I admire the most

Is a man that’s comfortable

With being who he is

Especially as he ages

Once again not

Trying to shove

My preference

Down anyone’s throat

Or force they’re eyes open

However I will

Promote Straight Love

 

 

A Letter to My 21 Year Old Self

This may come off as a surprise to some but there isn’t too many things that I regret in my life. So if I were to write a letter to myself it would be about the three rules to live by. The rules would help situations that would occur to go along smoother. I really don’t think much would changed in my life by keeping these things in mind. I guess must of it is because I think about the scripture Romans 8:28 all things work together for the good this I believe strongly. We cannot have the rainbow without the rain, wind or mud it’s all apart of the process.

First of the rules that I would write is to never take the people who God placed into your life for granted. Let them know how much you love them and don’t hold back. I lost my mother on February 3, 1997; she and I were very close. Not saying that I  didn’t show her that I loved her. Let’s be honest we all make the mistake of living like our parents will be here forever and life gets busy too. However no matter what always make sure that people know and feel how much that you care lay it on thick.

The second rule would be one of my favorites nowadays which is never place time limits on things that  takes time. It’s pretty self-explanatory the reasons why I  say this. Things that requires an extensive commitment should never be rushed it’ll only get you into trouble. Things like getting married, having children and healing from a broken heart.Trust God no matter what the clocks says everything will turn out alright in the end.

Lastly don’t waste too much time trying to relive situations that have long been over, over and over again. The past robs your present which eventually ruins your future. If something  bad has happened no matter how much we think about it thinking won’t change a thing. If you are bless to get a chance to fix the problem it will not happen until it’s time to do so. Just let the past go completely go back into history if you are studying Social Studies only.This goes for good memories too like me getting my degree life keeps going the world keeps spinning and it’s not going to stop for us. We can’t stop time we just stop making new memories reminiscing about old things. Things would go alot better when we are open and honest with ourselves to begin with. Not saying that my life is perfect and that I am absolutely proud because I’m not. Guess what that’s okay all that means is that there’s more to do and I am so ready to.

Not All Advice Is Good

It’s sad to say but not all the people who come into our lives will mean us well. There are ways to filter them out they are exposed eventually just keep your eyes  open actions never lie. Here’s one thing that true always keep it in mind to happy people wants to see other people happy. So if you have a person in your ear given you advice but the results aren’t looking like what they have chances are their advice isn’t good. It’s like the three pigs taking advice from the wolf. Some things aren’t good as they appear sugar and salt look alike so always beware. Don’t allow anyone to steer you away from what you deserve.

Don’t Rush The Process

Good Morning!  It’s time for a pep talk. There’s no time limit when it comes to healing everyone is different and therefore handles things differently. If you have lost a love one it gets better day to day but you will always miss them. I lost my mother in 1997 and it still feels like yesterday. What I have learned as long as we remember them they will always be with us. If you are suffering from a broken heart you will heal in time. Take your time to heal I’m not saying to dwell on it but it’s not good to act like you fine when you are not. Kinda like when my quarterback (Tony Romo) got hurt and came back too early he ended up being out for the entire season. More than likely he had people in his ear asking are you heal yet we need you. Which brings to something else don’t talk to people who aren’t empathetic. You know the ones who will go as far as to tell you to get over things lose those kind of people right away. You will heal eventually don’t rush the process. God is a excellent comforter and listener He won’t rush you as a matter of fact He will carry you.

With God

When you are a Christian

You hear people

All the time dismissing God

I don’t get mad

I just find it odd

Let’s see

With God

There’s Peace, Joy, Selflessness, Hope

Happiness, Strength, Being Content

Love, Adaptability, Caring, Comfort,

Compassion, Discipline, Goodness

Not to mention the testimonies

To match

Without God

A person is angry, selfish,has hatred

Lost, sad, dysfunctional, discomfort,

Disconnection, hopeless, despair

Absolutely no structure

The difference is having Christ

How does one explain these things

I’ll wait

 

Sex and Christianity

Sex and Christianity yes I am going there (you already know) every aspect should be discussed. Heck sex is covered in Genesis God says to be fruitful and multiply. Of course we all know the reasons why waiting to have sex is the best option. Nobody wants to end up being a notch in someone’s belt the way I see it if things don’t work out one can still walk away with their dignity in tact. Everyone that we come across whether it’s dating etc aren’t meant to know everything or explore everything either. Some people are only for a season their purpose is to get us ready for the one that God has for us. Don’t share too much we must be ready for the right one. We must never compromise our happiness that’s what’s done as long as it’s within reason once married. We will definitely know who they are once they come along.

Now that we have found our other half and got married what’s next? Here’s where things get interesting when it comes to intimacy you can not and should not be stingy. Don’t try and brainwash yourself into thinking that your other half is greedy. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with catering to your other half everyday. I mean why not this is the person that you decided to spend the rest of your life with. The key to intimacy is communication like with anything openness is important never make your mate feel like they can’t talk to you that includes fantasies. It’s a sad situation when a person feels like that have to walk on egg shells around their other half. Not being able to communicate makes one feel like they are suffocating or a mute that’s not cool. I have been doing research about what a couple can do and what they can’t according to the Bible. Another thing not attacking the church but sex needs to be talked about help must be done to keep married couples together. Back to what I was saying there isn’t much that can’t be done you don’t want your other half to feel uncomfortable. It’s a great thing to explore mostly never deprive your mate that’s a huge mistake. That’s one of the reasons some step out on the marriage. Even if you are mad make up quickly the Bible says not to let the sun go down upon your wrath. Why hold a grudge against  the one that you love it makes no sense let it go. Remember there’s  nothing  that can’t be worked out all you have to have is the want to. Many couples speak about after a number of years have past that the fire has went out within the marriage. This should never happen all you have to do is not stop doing what you did on your honeymoon. Don’t be afraid to press the refresh button on your marriage as well as you sex life. Give it all that you got.

How Far Are You Willing To Go?

When I think of love

So many things comes to my mind

A gentleman and a lady

Who are in real love, true love

Together pushing against the odds

Like a sail in the wind or a kite

Fighting to keep their love strong

They are ready to do anything

Knowing that they were meant to be

When they argue there are no ego

They have in mind if they separate

They both lose so its never about

Winning unless it’s together

There’s no team in I but in us

The real test in love

Is how far are you willing to go

When I say you it means both people

Involved doing their part

To keep what they have

It takes a person working on

Themselves individually

So they do mess up

So how far are you willing to go

To show your other half

How much that you love them

Do you have a limit

Do you care more about what outsiders

Think about your relationship

Do you love the person for

Who they are

Or it for what they do or what they have

Are there motives involved

What happens when they cannot

Do what they use to

Would that be the end for you

What happens when they age

Or they get sick

Will you stick

Will your love be the same

Or will it fade

Can you answer these

Questions honestly and openly

If your answers to these questions

Support keeping your relationship

Then you have answered my

Question of

How far you are willing to go