Month: August 2016

Single Black Mom

Growing up I always told myself

That I would not be a single parent

Raising kids without help

I always felt

That life belonged to someone else

There’s no lucky charms

It’s time to ring the alarm

What’s going on in the

Black community

Making it seem like being

A single black mom

Is an awesome thing as if

Being a struggling mother is a way

To earn stripes

Being a single parent

Doing it all alone

Is not right

It’s quite pathetic

Some of this black fathers

Don’t even care enough

To co-parent

They like to forget

Or assume that paying

Child support will make up for it

This situation is a huge epidemic

One that no one should mimic

It isn’t a lifestyle

That’s glamorise

Say what you want about me

It won’t change how I feel

A stable upbringing should

Always be within our sight

Some of us are just too

Blind to see

I was once like other people too

Now I look back and think

What did I do

To end up with a baby father

Like you

Like a song on the radio

I listened to your tune

Now I am here looking like a fool

Man I wish that I had the analogy

Of no wedding no wound

Had I had it

It would have giving me more

Time to get to know you

I wished that my old schooled ways

Had of saved me from

What I am going through today

My sons would have been saved

From the typical black

Single parent home

It’s so wrong for my sons

To grow up withdrawn

I wished that only I

Could bare this burden alone

Still this is the life that I chose

My choices I own

Allowing my fleshy goals

To take control

Thankful for allowing Christ

To help me to be reborn

And I have learned to never

Put a deadline

On God’s time

For He has no limits

That sometimes it’s not

Always the things that we planned

That are the best

But in fact it’s the things

That are not planned

Which are the true miracles

Not trying to get all spiritual

But God’s way is the best way

For sure

So I will embrace

What God has on the way

Being a single mom

Isn’t the end

But the beginning

Of what God has

For my family and me

Thank You God All Almighty

 

 

 

 

 

Second Time Around

When you can look back at past mistakes and own up to your choices it says a lot about your work with Christ. Our God is awesome. I can’t wait to see what He has in store for me!

 

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A Shade of Black

Tameeka is about to go there. Yes I am about to talk about colorism in the black community. I was watching a video on YouTube and it was about a website called Smoochr. The website is a place that allows people to filter the kind of people that they want. A person get to choose based on skin shade, size of lips, hair type etc. Hmmmmmm definitely not something that I will be checking out. As many know I’m about love and never about division. God made us all different but beautiful we are to embrace our differences not use them as a way to divide. Anyway I know some people may debate with me about who started colorism okay hundreds of years ago some of the white people did it fine and dandy. But who keeps the colorism going? The maker of the Smoochr website is a black man. So instead of pulling people together he’s is causing more separation and insecurities of others.

Colorism

I am black but my shade is brown. I’m what would be considered to be in between dark-skinned and light-skinned. Growing up I never paid attention to shade but I have witnessed dark-skinned people being bullied based on their color as if growing up wasn’t hard enough. It is still very much present today. I have also heard people of a dark skin talk about being insecure and hating their skin color. It’s just horrible and it needs to end. The only test that a paper bag should have is how much weight it can hold. At the end of the day we all check off the box for black regardless of our shade. I don’t care who slams me we must do better. Let’s lift up one another high. Stop hurting one another and let’s heal one another. I get the past but what are we doing now to move forward in a positive way. It’s the only way that change will happen.

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God’s Creations

Hey Everyone Blessings!!

One of classes that I am taking is called Cross-Cultural Psychology this week’s assignment was to choose a country to write about it’s culture and how are their emotions. I chose to write about Italy. I also had to compare it to the culture of the United States what a huge difference that there are. There is so much that I learned about Italy that I didn’t know like it’s a little larger than the state of Arizona but has ten times the population. How Italy has only been a country for 153 years. I learned how important family is to Italians not just immediate but extended too. How most Italians children don’t leave home until they are 30 and even though they are gone their mothers still cooks for them. Or how they talk with their hands and doesn’t hold feelings in. Practically every place in Italy holds some type of significance.  Vernice is my favorite place it’s the most beautiful and romantic place in the whole world.

My class got me to thinking about the beautiful things that God has blessed us with and the gifts that helps us to create more. I love all the beautiful things that we have here on earth and the things that we are blessed to experience. How God took so much care with all that He created including each one of us. God loves is everywhere all we have to do is take a look around. It blows my mind and gives my heart so much joy thinking about the goodness of the Lord. I’m so glad that I know Him and so very thankful for all that He does. I thank God for waking me up. I thank God for my children. I thank God for my family immediate and extended. I thank God for my friends. I thank God for every experience good or bad and the ones that made me happy or sad. For every blessing that I have ever had I am glad. Father God thank You!