Black community

We Must Do Better

These last few days that have passed were a nightmare. The division in this country right now is sad. I am black but I look deeper at what’s going on. My community is broken. How can we talk about that black lives matter when they only matter when someone dies. Why does it have to get to that point? Yes black on black crime is different from police brutality but how much different. Murder is murder. I see and hear a whole lot of anger but what positive resolutions are being done? In Dallas the peaceful protest produced dead officers who were only doing their duty. Facebook is crazy many are going back and forth there’s so much hurt that’s going on.

I’ll be honest I don’t always agree with the things that our president do or say but I do agree with what he said recently below came from an article that I read check it out:

“I’d like all sides to listen to each other,” Obama said as he answered a reporter’s question after meeting with Spain’s acting prime minister, Mariano Rajoy, during his shortened first visit to Spain as president.

It was the fourth straight day that Obama has commented on a series of distressing events back home: the fatal shootings by police of black men in Louisiana and Minnesota, and a sniper attack that killed five police officers and wounded seven in Dallas.

He said violence against police by anyone concerned about fairness in the criminal justice system does “a disservice to the cause.”

He repeated that the vast majority of U.S. police officers are doing a good job, but said rhetoric that fails to recognize that will do little to rally allies to support efforts to change a system that is broadly recognized as being biased against minorities.

“Maintaining a truthful and serious and respectful tone is going to help mobilize American society to bring about real change,” Obama said.

The president also called for balance from law enforcement. “I would hope that police organizations are also respectful of the frustrations that people in these communities feel and not just dismiss these protests and these complaints as political correctness,” he said.

“It is in the interest of police officers that their communities trust them,” Obama said.

I get the hurt but violence is not the answer. The police officers that were murdered was wrong anyone thinks that it was right has something wrong with them.

All I am saying don’t come preaching about black lives matter when you don’t show you brothers and sisters love on a daily basis. With all the constant disrespect that goes on daily in our community between black women and black men. All the broken homes in our community what exactly is being done about that. How about this show love and concern to those while they are above ground not beneath it. Make a positive difference in our community quit stirring up strife. I get that people are busy with their lives on my friends list on Facebook I have a handful of people who speak of human rights on a daily basis. They are consistent with the cause but some are not. Some are just making a whole lot of noise and doing absolutely nothing. Talking a whole and saying a whole lot of nothing just helping to add to the division that’s already happening.

It bothers me at times because I try to be as positive and as loving as I can. I don’t live in Dallas or Minnesota but I tell you what prayer works wonders. I am aware of what’s going on and I am not hiding behind my faith, I stand on it. I’m not walking on eggshells I am stepping out on faith and trusting God. At least I am doing something positive daily praying for everyone all the time. There’s no problem that God can not solve. He’s got this and loves us all.

Am I Ladylike?

Femininity- the quality of being female; womanliness

The other day I watched a video of Christelyn on black women and femininity after watching it I went to the mirror looked for a very long time. So many thoughts came over me like a huge typhoon. Am I ladylike with my background it’s a question that begs for an answer. My sister that’s second to me always behaved kind of tomboyish, she and I spoke on the phone pertaining to the subject. Yes talking on the phone with me can get so deep. Anyway she was telling me that regardless in her opinion she’s a woman that’s tough like a man who can be a lady.Hmmmmmm. Indeed it requires a woman to be tough especially being a single mother of boys. Like how does one balance the two?

I love my wigs, dresses, nail polish, earrings and toe rings to name a few. I feel like a woman of course femininity goes a lot deeper it’s attitude and it’s softness. It’s impossible to be soft when your life requires you to be the opposite. I am a single parent of two boys maybe I should get me some tea cups and have a tea party!! LMBO!! I love my sister’s attitude when I spoke to her I mean it’s a great outlook for her life her modo is she’s a woman that acts tomboyish at times it’s who she is and she’s fine with it. For me I want that softness and I do I just can’t be that way all the time. Perhaps I will find a way to be more dainty but I don’t want my sons copying me. My sons are boys definitely and they are teens therefore they know better. So yeah I’ll spend more time being softer. I know that I am a woman but I love being a lady. A black intelligent lady and I am very proud of who I am.

It Is On

Okay Okay I absolutely cannot stand it. Some of you black men are going overboard with your hate against black women. What exactly is the deal? I can’t fathom what it could be. Some of you categorize all black women into one claiming that we all aren’t crap. Then you wonder why black women have zero respect for you.

I seen a video that was so disgusting. I would share but it’s not worth it for several reasons. One the language in it was way too foul, it disrespected a woman’s child directly and I don’t want to help it earn money. My whole goal is to shed some light on this situation. It’s not drama it’s raising awareness. The madness most stop I mean you guys do know where you came from right? A black woman birth you into this world.

I plan on discussing this topic every chance that I get. Anyway the guy who made the video to take shots at a beautiful lady on YouTube Christelyn. She promotes swirling which is black women and white men interracial dating. Through I do not know her personally I sent her an email and she responded back promptly. She really does care about people.It’s so disappointing to see some black men bashing her on a daily basis. I wish people would allow this lady to do what she wants it’s not hurting anyone. To be honest I think because she’s successful the men who attack her are jealous. Whatelse could it be? She’s doesn’t wear wigs or weave so they can’t make the claim that she’s trying to be white although I feel that that has nothing to do with how black that a person is.

Look we as black people don’t have to love or like each other still we should respect one another. A black man is someone’s son, father, brother, cousin or grandson. Just like a black woman is someone’s daughter, mother, sister, cousin or granddaughter. We are all valuable to somebody one life touches another. I am not into bashing I believe in meeting people where they are. Still I will not lie the bashing that’s going on between black women and black men at times it bothers me. It’s deeper than black people who choose to date interracially there is some deep seeded hate and I am trying to figure out where it came from.

Are there some black people who could be doing better yes but it doesn’t mean they never will do better either. It’s just way too much finger pointing and too many negative people are spreading their poison around. With not one person taking ownership of what they should be doing.We have to do better it’s a must. I don’t care about how many times I write about it if it will help to push us into the direction of positivity.

Where is it written that if you are black that you must date black only? Just like why and how do people reach the conclusion that people who date outside of their race must hate their own race. Love is an energy people. When souls connect the person’s color is not involved. Love has no color everyone is entitled to love who they want as long as it’s within God will. Love is beyond black love or interracial love. God is in control. What is destined to be will be whether we like it or not.

It’s time to promote love and respect letting go of the hate that is going on between our black brothers and sisters. The generation behind us are watching us we have to get it together.

 

 

Myths About Black Women

It upsets me having to make a post about this situation at this point in time. The disrespect that black women receive is so ridiculous. The myths pertaining to us are unbelievable that we have kids by several men, that we are uneducated, that we are lazy, the list just goes on. When a black woman decides to date outside of her race the stereotypes are even worse.  First off I don’t fit into the cliche’that’s placed on women who date outside of their race. I grew up in a mostly black neighborhood, had a mixture race of friends, mostly black schools etc. I don’t watch Empire or Scandal. I am just attracted to white men and that’s just how it is. I’ve spoken about this before there’s a lady that I follow on YouTube and she talks about interracial dating. She gets a lot of flack because she’s promoting love. So what’s wrong with that?  When I  find my potential white mate I’m going to broadcast it too. That’s what people do when they are in love.

I’m for the human race and yes I am very concerned about the black community. Being a black woman I am apart of the black community so how could I not be concerned. It’s quite laughable how many speak of racism and don’t  want to address the hate that’s going on in the community against black women. The lack of respect is astonishing.  Where did it all come from?  And why? In my opinion I believe that a lot of pain starts at home. Broken homes where mainly single mothers are the head of the household with fathers who aren’t in their children’s lives. Broken children who grew up into angry adults that’s hurting the community. Hurt people hurt others. Hurt people justify their hurt by hurting others. The saddest people are the ones who validate trying to destroy a person by blaming the person who they are trying to destroy. The hate that a lot of black men have for black women is so overwhelming that it demolishes all the positive things that’s going on. This needs to stop we have to do better. At the end of the day we are hurting ourselves as a community. Think about it we must break the chain. Who will be brave enough to not point fingers but do their part?

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