Writing

No Frowns Allowed

The last people who should be sad, mad or have a frown on their faces are Christians not with all the good news that we know pertaining to God. Why be angry?  Why be sad? I for one just don’t understand if He did it before He’ll do it again. God don’t do things on our time but when the time is right.

With all that God has done we should be bring sunshine to someone’s cloudy day. Uplifting the spirit of a person that is in need.Make as many people as we can smile it’s not about us but about God. Let’s spread some sunshine!

Everything is Not Replacable

In a world filled with technology and social media it makes things a mess. The convenience of things happening quickly like the microwave meals that takes 10 minutes done in 2 minutes. It’s can mix up some people’s mentality anything worth it won’t happen within minutes. People are becoming less and less patience.

Social media doesn’t make it any easier either. Unfollow, follow, unfriend, be a friend if you don’t want to be friends that’s how people handle things now. It needs to be understood that not everything is replaceable for instance people aren’t. Great friends are hard to find. If you are bless to have great people in your life keep them. Some things are priceless therefore are irreplaceable.

Speak Out Against Domestic Violence

It’s a television show that I watch that’s called Snapped. The show is about women who kill men. Majority of the time when these women goes to trial they claim that they were victims of domestic abuse. Understand I am no way saying that murder is okay and neither is abuse. The result always end the same every time the women are convicted mostly because when the police interview the couples family and friends no one saw any evidence of violence. Plus it doesn’t help that people have an misconception of what domestic violence looks like actually it’s a obvious thing that’s well kept hidden. Many people who are abused are ashamed to tell anyone what’s going on they always live in constant fear of their lives and their children’s lives as well.

Talking about Oscar winning performance an abuser can put on a show. No one suspects anything at all people on the outside think things are perfect. Not to mention how hard it is for the one who’s being abused hearing the abuser tell them that they are sorry, them buying things and promising to never hurt them again only to do it.

One of my first post is called Stay or Go as I have shared I had an abusive father and so was my ex the father of our sons. We have to educate ourselves on domestic abuse it can happen to anyone believe me I know from experience. It’s important to know what to look for here are a few:

1. The person who is being a abused attitude will completely change they will be unhappy and withdrawn.

2. The person who is being a abused will move far away and distance themselves from others.

3. Their children will be unhappy as well.

There are many more signs still what’s most important is if you suspect that someone ( men are victims too)that care about is being abused keep the line of communication open. If you find proof seek help you could save a life not just the one who is being abused but the abuser too. We must shed a light on domestic violence and the person who is being abused must speak up and speak out.

Just Say No

Everyone pretty much knows my position on the public restroom situation. I’m say treat it like drugs with three words just say no. So tired of seeing these extreme memes of making wrong seem right. I don’t hate gay people and I don’t judge other people’s sin. At the end of the day I have to answer for my sin alone still I don’t want junk crammed down my throat. To be honest I liked it better when it was don’t ask don’t tell. Just because the law says it’s legal doesn’t mean it’s okay for it to be able to affect others. I feel the same way about breastfeeding however that’s another post. Breastfeeding should be done in a private place. I breastfed you have to relax to produce milk how can one do it in public anyway back to the subject. Public restrooms should remain the way that they have always have been just like how homosexuals and transgenders have always been around why should things change now???

Not caring about people calling me homophobic because that’s a lie. I believe everyone have rights as long as what you are doing isn’t affecting me and my children. When that happens I have a problem so tired of when we don’t go with the program we get labeled as being homophobic. Right is right and wrong is wrong regardless of how society tries to fix it. I know the Bible says to follow the law of the land but if it goes against God’s plan then I have to take a stand.

Homelessness

People have a misconception about homelessness it could happen to anyone. That’s right no one is exempt. There are people who are living from paycheck to paycheck all it takes is a loss of  theirjob. There are various reasons that people become homeless and it’s not always drug related sometimes it’s from domestic violence, mental illness etc. There’s a lady who I follow on YouTube Tonya TKO she moved across the country and is now living from out of her car. She finally broke down and ask people for help I know that it took a lot of her pride to do that. She has many people who don’t believe that she is really homeless it has alot to do with what many thing that homelessness looks like.

There are whole entire families that are homeless with nowhere to turn or no one to turn to.Every life has a story so it’s important to not jump the gun.I remembered on my walks in the morning I would see a homeless man sleeping on the bench wrapped up. Sometimes I would give him money no he’s not a lazy person he was once in the military so he’s a veteran. It’s easier to assume the worst about people to keep from feeling sorry for them that way their warped minds can help their hearts to become hard like stone. Let’s say a prayer for the homeless and the people who are not far from it.

How I Start My Blog

I started my blog the same way that I start my day with a Word of Prayer and a cup of some yummy coffee. Doing everything that I can to not repeat things it’s easy to run out of things to say good thing I have the gift of gab. I’m considering doing the Ray Bradbury thing have a room full of items to keep the ideas coming and no I will not become a hoarder. My mission is to talk about the things that most are afraid to talk about so the ideas for that is never ending. Before I started my blog I wrote two pages of what I plan to discuss which are sharing my favorite scriptures, songs and poetry so far my creative juices are flowing aiming to keep things interesting as well as not boring. 

Blunt Talk

Are the number of your past partners small enough for you all to be able to fit into your bed? There some people who actually needs additional beds and maybe rooms too sad but true. Blunt talk right now not judging still our souls should not be allowed to connect to everyone. We are better than cheap WiFi have it so a person needs the right password to connect to our soul.
Growing up I always looked up to my mother her faith was strong and she carried herself as a lady. My mother had only four partners during her whole entire life and I always told myself that if my mother can operate with self control so can I. I remain a virgin until I was a little over 21 years old my first love came along who was white and so I gave in to having sex. I don’t regret giving up my virginity to my first love just wish that it was gone about differently. The first time is a beautiful thing remember though there are no do over once you do it it’s done.

One would be surprised but there are many people who are sustaining from sex. Many rather wait then taking the chance and having sex outside of marriage. On Facebook I have various ladies who ask me for tips on staying strong and not giving in to their desires. It isn’t an easy thing to do seems like once one makes this choice all of a sudden people want to ask you out.
Abstaining from sex is one of the best choices that I made. I have been celibate for six years and I am very proud of it too.

A person being celibate is something to be proud of and not ashamed of. There is so much garbage out here making young people feel like sleeping around is okay. Sleeping around is not okay it’s okay to not sleep with anyone of the opposite sex that comes your way. We all should value ourselves and not allow anyone to make us think that we are less than the way that God sees us. If we allow people to dictate to us our worth we will be cut short every time most people are competitive and don’t want anyone to get passed them or even have the same things. Remember God wants and has the best for us all we have to do is trust Him. Everything that happens in our lives are meant good or bad it’s all about timing. Yes even bad things are meant for good so wait on God He has many awesome things in store and that includes the right partner. Don’t give up on what God has for by allowing loneliness to rush you. Just because one is alone doesn’t not mean that they are lonely.

Here are a few tips that can help you to stay celibate:

1. When going out with a person for a date meet in a public never be alone this gives one opportunity to mess up.

2. When you feel weak pray. Pray when it’s hardest to pray. And it does work.

3. Talk to other people who are celibate many times when we hear positive testimonies it inspires us to want to do the same.

Don’t cut yourself off from the world you can do it stay strong. You Got This!!

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Appreciate Those Who Celebrate You

Good Morning to everyone! I am a person who gets up early but isn’t a morning person until I have had my coffee. When I woke I had a text and I was like man because I was hoping that it was from someone else. I’m just being honest we are all guilty of this. God place something inside of me this morning and that was appreciate those who celebrate you. The same way someone else took the time to text or even inbox they did not have to. It’s about holding on and valuing these people they are special truly. Besides the people that we are waiting to hear from don’t value you as much because if they did we would hear from them more often. Never push away a person who care they may stay away everyone has their limit. People can be closed doors too maybe the reason that they don’t see you because they aren’t meant to. Let’s not do self inflicted harm to ourselves let go of the people that we don’t hear from obviously that chapter is done. So delete their number and unfriend too friends who are true are people that love you too and would never harm. Keep who celebrates you and remove those that don’t you don’t hear from them away so you won’t miss them.  Love yourself enough to let go of uncertainty and cling to the definitely. Remember communication is a two way street text those special people before that text you there should no ego when it comes to the people that we care about because they care about us. Have a fantastic day. Blessings!

Can Christians Be Sexy?

Sexy- sexually attractive or exciting

I am very inquisitive I believe there’s no such thing as a dumb question. If you don’t know ask it never hurts. Question: Are Christians allowed to be sexy? Some people think that being sexy is about the clothes that one wears that is just part of it I feel that sexy is being confident and tasteful at the same time. People have different opinions on certain words. For me I feel why not be sexy just don’t go overboard. It’s fine to be sexy for your husband what’s wrong with making sure that you are the apple of his eye. Doing things like staying fit and always looking close to how you did when you two first met. Ask a person that you trust whether or not if what you are wearing is appropriate. If it makes you feel uncomfortable then chances are it isn’t.

There was a picture floating around the internet pertaining to a lady who was standing in church if what she wore was appropriate for church. Now this is not what I  mean also in this situation I believe that she may was just coming to the faith perhaps it was all that she had. It’s never good to judge, a picture may can speak a thousand words but which one of them are true? Unless it comes straight from the horse’s mouth what you think holds no value really. Perhaps the very lovely Marilyn Monroe said it best “Your clothes should be tight enough to show you’re a woman and loose enough to be a lady. Sexy is being confident and classy at the same time. Yes when we decide to become a Christian there are things that we are to no longer do that’s so true that includes our attitudes and choice of clothing too. When the holy spirit is within us he will definitely be our guide.  I think that God doesn’t mind us being proud of the temple that He gave to us. Just not too proud of course.