Month: April 2016

How Far Should A Christian Go?

How far should a Christian go when it comes to helping a person that wants to come to our faith? I hear  a lot of Christian musicians speaking of them being a light in dark places. Some of these Christian artist go into clubs and really bad neighborhoods. Still how deep into the darkness can one go and be safe? I know Matthew 18:12 says How think ye? if  a man have an hundred sheep, and one of them be gone astray, doth he not leave the ninety and nine, and forth into the mountains, and seeking that which is gone astray? Not questioning the protection of God He has our backs definitely.

It’s important to set some boundaries we all get weak our intentions are always good in the beginning but what happens in the middle and the end. Many are questioning Kirk Franklin’s collaboration with Kanye West. I like to compare situations like these to wearing all white clothes no matter how much you try to keep it clean a spot gets on it somehow. One can only stay so clean against something dirty. How much should we risk our own soul to help someone that’s coming to our faith? As far as I am concerned and I am no expert by far let’s use the analogy of saving a person from falling off of a cliff both people have to do their part or they will both go over the cliff. The same applies to a person who wants to come into our faith we are to welcome them, inspire them and help as much as we can. The key words are” help as much as we can”. No one is above backsliding that’s why it’s important for us to be careful. One has to have the want to to go with the help, things don’t work with help alone in order to have a garden one must plant the seeds for it to grow.

Myths About Black Women and Interracial Dating

There is a lady who’s book that I read on my Kindle her name is Christelyn Karazin the book is called Swirling. I follow her blog and her on Youtube as well. Anyway she had a fascinating video recently where a man had his theory on why black women dated white men. His theory was quite laughable to be honest. He claimed that black women are into thugs and that once they where done being used they would go and seek a white man. What I can’t understand is why everyone can accept the gay lifestyle but come up with ways to belittle black women that date outside of their race. As far as I am concerned everyone has there reasons as to why they dated outside of their race however one thing is clear it’s our choice.

I grew up without my father in the home, a neighborhood that was 70/30 black and white, mostly black schools, yet my first love was a white man not black. I am not a scorn black female just like many black women aren’t as well. So all of the hateful theories people can keep them it’s not their lives. The world would be such a beautiful place if people were nicer and wished others well. Different circumstances brings different results are there people who get hurt by someone in their race and decide that they want to date out of their race sure. Still I know females who gave up on men altogether there’s no difference. Everyone has a right to make their own choices and we should be responsible believe or not we will have to answer for them later. People can get hurt by anyone of any race just like people can be love by anyone of a different a race if it’s meant.

I Can’t Go A Day Without Reading The Bible

Regardless of what people say about the Bible I refuse to not read it everyday. The way that the Bible has impacted my life I simply can’t find the words to explain. I cannot speak for everyone else but I can for myself. There are points of my life that became out of control when I stopped opening the Bible and not having a relationship with God. I went about things my way and off of emotions thus my life experienced a downward spiral. There is no shame when I share various events in my life I have to support the reason why I feel as I do. So very proud of my testimonies and I pray that they are able to help somebody just one person is a whole lot.

As I have shared about my failed marriage sadly God wasn’t in it and how I went about having my children. If I had a relationship with God and read the Bible at that time I would have went about things differently. Still everything happens for a reason it took me to mess up to see what I needed to do. I don’t want to go a day ever without God. He has brought me through so many times bad ones that became good ones. It’s so much more than the good things that God has done or what He continues to do it’s about what I have learned as well. I’m not ashamed to say that I need Him because I do everyday that I live.

 

Just Want To Thank You

God I don’t want to complain

Or pray for something

To gain

I only want these words to remain

I just want to thank You

For everything that You do

For allowing me to see

The gift of a new day

Blessing me to be

The best person that I can be

The person that I am destined to be

Someone who is passionate

And ready to walk

Down the path that you direct for me

For having the knowledge

As well as the confidence

In a strong faith

For the many tests

That You helped me to pass

Which became testimonies

Thank You for what you do daily

For making my burdens light

And a future that is bright

A family that unites in times of trouble

Like Job You have blessed me double

I know with You I won’t stumble

You give me courage to keep me stable

To look  at trouble not in fear

But as having an expiration date

If I had a million tongues

It still wouldn’t be enough

So I ask You to look into my heart

And to hear my praise

Hallelujah

Because You are worthy

God I just want to thank You

 

 

 

Blunt Talk

Are the number of your past partners small enough for you all to be able to fit into your bed? There some people who actually needs additional beds and maybe rooms too sad but true. Blunt talk right now not judging still our souls should not be allowed to connect to everyone. We are better than cheap WiFi have it so a person needs the right password to connect to our soul.
Growing up I always looked up to my mother her faith was strong and she carried herself as a lady. My mother had only four partners during her whole entire life and I always told myself that if my mother can operate with self control so can I. I remain a virgin until I was a little over 21 years old my first love came along who was white and so I gave in to having sex. I don’t regret giving up my virginity to my first love just wish that it was gone about differently. The first time is a beautiful thing remember though there are no do over once you do it it’s done.

One would be surprised but there are many people who are sustaining from sex. Many rather wait then taking the chance and having sex outside of marriage. On Facebook I have various ladies who ask me for tips on staying strong and not giving in to their desires. It isn’t an easy thing to do seems like once one makes this choice all of a sudden people want to ask you out.
Abstaining from sex is one of the best choices that I made. I have been celibate for six years and I am very proud of it too.

A person being celibate is something to be proud of and not ashamed of. There is so much garbage out here making young people feel like sleeping around is okay. Sleeping around is not okay it’s okay to not sleep with anyone of the opposite sex that comes your way. We all should value ourselves and not allow anyone to make us think that we are less than the way that God sees us. If we allow people to dictate to us our worth we will be cut short every time most people are competitive and don’t want anyone to get passed them or even have the same things. Remember God wants and has the best for us all we have to do is trust Him. Everything that happens in our lives are meant good or bad it’s all about timing. Yes even bad things are meant for good so wait on God He has many awesome things in store and that includes the right partner. Don’t give up on what God has for by allowing loneliness to rush you. Just because one is alone doesn’t not mean that they are lonely.

Here are a few tips that can help you to stay celibate:

1. When going out with a person for a date meet in a public never be alone this gives one opportunity to mess up.

2. When you feel weak pray. Pray when it’s hardest to pray. And it does work.

3. Talk to other people who are celibate many times when we hear positive testimonies it inspires us to want to do the same.

Don’t cut yourself off from the world you can do it stay strong. You Got This!!

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Bitter or Better

There have been three words that have been on my mind and they are bitter or better. There’s no one who has not encountered hardship. How do we allow it to affect us? When it comes to a horrible past it’s best to have a bad memory. Unless we are speaking of a testimony of course if we are still bitter we aren’t healed therefore we are hurt which won’t make us better. A hurting person must be careful because not meaning to could hurt someone else with their words or actions. It’s important to make our  mark when we go out into the world and that our presence makes a positive impact. As I always say I’m not a preacher or teacher. I’m Tameeka. Sometimes moving on from a situation where a person hurt us and never apologized may mean we have to face that they may never will. We should not allow any pain of negative experiences rob us of our joy. There is so much life to live so live it we owe it to ourselves.

 

 

 

Gossip and Christianity

Whether it’s on the phone, in person, text messaging or Facebook as Christians we know better about gossiping. It needs to stop it isn’t my opinion I have scriptures to support what I am saying. Tame Your Tongue. Proverbs 16:28 A forward man soweth strife: and a whisperer separateth chief friends.  Proverbs 20:19 He that goeth about [as] a talebearer revealeth secrets: therefore meddle not with him that flattereth with his lips.