Don’t Change

I am very kindhearted my heart has been rip out and torn apart. At one point I use to say that I will change who I am kind to but this morning I had an epiphany. If I change who I am kind to that’s changing my heart. I decided to be kind to everyone even mean people because the mean people need kindness the most. Besides being kind to kind people is easy I’m going to spread love everywhere. Just trusting God for protection.

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Single Parenting It Isn’t A Joke

It’s not a white thing or a black thing being a single parent can be hard.We all come from a family which is suppose to be a beautiful thing. Unfortunately things happen and what we felt was destined sometimes falls apart. Many times a family split can become ugly. What really makes me think and I try really hard to not allow it to get to me is how can something that was once so happy become the opposite?

When a family experience a split it’s really hard on the children. As far as I’m concerned regardless of how I feel about my children’s dad I don’t allow it to affect them my feelings ended when we did. My children are my top priority their happiness is all that I care about. Every time I look at my boys it’s with the look of when they were first born so much love. I will give any and everything for my children to be okay. That’s why they don’t see tension between their father and I it’s not for them to be involved in adult situations.

Growing up my mother never discussed her feelings with me pertaining to my father unless I asked her getting an answer out of her was like abstracting a tooth from a tiger. She didn’t want to feel like she was influencing my decision about my father. My mother was an amazing mother all of my parenting skills comes from her.

Anyway back on top it doesn’t matter how we feel or where we are. The children takes priority they should never go neglected. They should never be used as pawns between a mother and father. At times everyone has advice to give about single parenting still each case is different but both parents must care about the children’s well being. When we bring children into the world our lives change and so does their too which should be for the better even if a relationship or marriage turns out bad.

Something Happens

Something happens

When I get my hands on a piece of paper

And a pencil

They make me feel invincible

So knowledgeable

Proud of the art

That’s formed

Sheer happiness like I have never known

Greatness is inevitable

All kinds of dreams

That are so inspiring

Come to life on the piece paper

That’s before me

So memorable

Simply unforgettable

I could not have ask God

For more

Thankful for this blessing

That was sent straight from heaven

To be able to share my feelings

For many to see

Something happens

When I get my hands on

A piece of paper and a pencil

It is something very special

Is She The One?

The last one who should not be confused about anything is a person who calls themselves a Christian. We must respect God’s Word all of it because it applies to us all. We don’t get to pick and choose which parts that works best for us. Christian people have to understand that we maybe the only Bible that people read.

I wrote a post the other day pertaining how a Christian man is compared to a man of the world. A Christian man is the head of the household thus must be treated as such and behave as such. Family is a very important subject in the Bible. The Bible should be the foundation of a family it has instructions which must be followed. If there is one thing that we shouldn’t be doing and that’s bring children into the world out of wedlock. We can look around at society it’s damaged much of it is due to broken homes. Do you really what to add more broken homes to society?

A man whether he is a Christian or not knows when he meets a woman what his intentions are. No Christian man should be playing house if she’s good enough to lay with then why isn’t she your wife? Why have children out of wedlock? When we know better we do better. It’s time to get real and understand that people aren’t toys either Man up or move on.

This One’s for You

Ha Ha Ha

I’m about to make some

Of these negative black men puke

You know the ones who rebuke

The positive black men who uplift

Their black sisters and

The white men who love us

Would like to give a big shout out

This one’s for you

And I don’t mean Barry Manilow but

I do want you to take these words

With you wherever you go

You are appreciated

Just want you guys to know

What you are doing is in not in vain

When the smoke clears

Your positive actions will remain

Black women have been hurt

But who hasn’t

These things were beyond our control

Still we don’t allow it to

Take a toll

Black women have been spat on

Tongue slashed

With negative words and stereotypes

Like a horror movie

Still black women may cry

But it does not take long

For our tears to dry

We might sink a little

But still we rise

Once the pain is gone

There is none left over

We are soldiers

We still stick our hearts

Out and choose to love

We know our children will

Take our lives as an important

Lesson for when they get older

White men who love us keep

In mind that we chose you

Because we wanted to

We were never looked over

By certain black men

We know that everything

Happens for a reason

So we kept on movin

White men who love us

You are our choice

Not another option or backup plan

So have no doubt about

The black women who loves you

You are not pawns in a game

More like kings for us queens

Positive black men understand

We applaud you for being real men

Black women are becoming a whole lot

More wiser so we are more bolder

When it comes to making

The right choices for our lives

We raise our heads up high

And never hunch our shoulders

We are owners of excellent posture

We recognize who is

The true controller of our lives

In spite of the lies

We keep complete composure

Our self esteem will not be lowered

Please know positive black men

And the white men who love us

On earth you are the true stockholders

Of our respect

So you guys are the ones

Who we care about

Don’t stop doing the positive

Things that you do

One day it will all pay off

In the meantime just wanted

To commend you

You guys are valuable

 

 

 

 

 

 

A Christian Man Is That You?

First off a Christian man should look nothing like a man of the world. He is destined to be the head of his family and thus behave that way before it happening. I know some are saying, “Hold up, Tameeka what exactly do you mean?” Well, I am going to explain what I mean a true man of God can do many things yet understands that he should Not do them all.

He has self-control is a counselor, prayer warrior, and encourager. He always wants to be the man that God has called him to be. He is aware that there are young men who are watching him. He doesn’t take his walk with Christ lightly and is mindful that he may be the only Bible that some people reads. He doesn’t makeup excuses for what he does or hides behind grace as a way to get away with things. He takes a tally of what he is doing and matches it to what God wants. He’s continuously evaluating himself he desires to be the best man of God that he possibly can be. He treats people like how he would like to be treated.

People will flock to him for advice, prayer, encouragement, and inspiration. He never takes advantage of people, especially women. He lets a woman know where she stands the word games is not a part of his vocabulary. When he sees a marriage that’s in trouble, he sees it as an opportunity to pray for the couple and doesn’t try to prey on the wife. He has boundaries in place so that there are no misunderstandings. He never wants a fellow brother to feel any hurt caused by him. He knows when he can help and when it’s God’s job. He is very responsible never plays fast and loose he doesn’t use a woman. He doesn’t put anyone down but lifts them. A man of the world and a man of God only has one thing in common when it comes to women. They both realize at the time of meeting a woman whether she has the potential of being his wife. In a Man of God relationship, he doesn’t go tic for tac he knows that a real man doesn’t behave like that. He gives his all in his relationship. He has left no backdoors open with any other woman he knows that he is better than that. A man of God understands that the right matches don’t have to be tested he trust that God is in it. If for some reason a relationship doesn’t work out, and he finds that the woman isn’t the right fit he lets her go so that she can find the right man of God to commit to. He doesn’t walk around angry with grudges or a heart of revenge he thanks God for every life lesson. His mission with God’s help is to leave a lasting impression of positivity on every person that he meets.

This is not bashing it’s giving a lot of  Men of God credit I know many this is a checklist. Are you all of these things, or is it merely a bucket list. A man of God is held with the highest regards if you can’t uphold it then lose the Christian label. The word  Christian should not be treat as a bumper sticker but more like a tattoo. Be an ambassador for Christ as a man; make sure that you do it right. How can a Christian man be a leader when he can’t get minor things together? If it’s too much of responsibility  back away until you are ready. One can not have one foot in the world and the other with Christ. Understand that things aren’t all about you and that your actions can effect someone else’s life. Walk right.

Ezekiel 22:30

I searched for a man among them who would build up the wall and stand in the gap before Me for the land so that I would not destroy it; but I found no one.

2 Samuel 10:17

Be strong, and let us show ourselves courageous for the sake of our people and the cities of our God; and may the LORD do what is good in His sight.

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I Am A Writer

I am a writer there I said it. Working hard to develop work of brilliance being resistant towards anything that’s trying to plant a seed to quit. So very committed I love writing thinking of ways that are inspiring it’s such a blessing. The other day I was super siked I wrote a post that was over 600 words long. Still as I have shared not trying to make my posts as long as a novel.

My goal as always is to write the things that people are afraid to speak about. If I can help just one person to me it’s like winning a million dollars.