Victim or Victor?

First off I would like to share that I have four more courses left and I will receive my Bachelor’s degree. After I receive my Bachelor’s degree I will pursue a Master’s degree. I have to thank God for all that He has done for me!

Now that I have gotten that part out of the way, currently I am taking a course in Victimology. Victimology is the scientific study of physical, emotional, and financial harm people endure because of illegal activities. One of my discussion questions was about victim blaming. Victim blaming is when the victim is made responsible for a wrongdoing that occurred to them. Victim blaming isn’t always fair people who live in poverty are assumed to be lazy or unmotivated which isn’t always the case some things happen that’s beyond one’s control. This course got me to thinking a lot.

I grew up in a Christian home and I am very proud about this. Along the way in my life, I have made mistakes that had nothing to do with God. God gives us free will and I chose to live Not according to His Will so I paid the price. I made my bed so I have to lay in it until I get to where I am meant to be. I am not a person who constantly blame others and never myself. The victim role isn’t my thing I want to be victorious but it can’t happen if I am constantly blaming people and licking my wounds.

People may look at my life from the outside it may look one way but trust me it will turn out another way. People look at being rich in money and things as being successful that is not true being content is being rich. Rich people have more problems than anyone. Like Biggie said “More money more problems”. I would be happy just being able to take great care of my sons, be healthy, physically, mentally, and emotionally as well as number one have a relationship with God. Understand this it’s not about being rich in things I never will be, I am responsible for where I am and not God. I am rich because I have grown from my mistakes and I know better so I am doing better. God has given us so many examples that we can learn from like making mistakes in life is like losing weight change won’t happen overnight but if you stay consistent it will.

So what do I mean by all of this? Are we going to be a victim or victor? Have I made mistakes in the past? Yes, and I have grown from them. I probably will make mistakes in the future. We have to sometimes make wrong turns before making right ones. I choose to evaluate myself before I blame anyone else. I choose to be victorious!


Nothing grinds my gears more than a person’s love for money. Money this money that. See when a person is like that one can never have enough of it. Take the money away and what are you left with. The value of our American dollar is losing it’s value. I just pray for people who’s minds are clouded with dollar signs.

Most times when people love money so much they can not and do not have love for anything else. When a person is sick in a hospital bed money is the last thing that they are thinking about. Sooner or later everyone is going to die and we can’t take the money with us.

Money can not buy everything. Many times when people talk about money so much they actually are trying to compensate for something else that they are missing. I once heard a story about a guy who loved money so much nothing else mattered not his wife or his kids. One day he asked his wife if she felt loved by him and she told him no. He replied “Why not I have bought you so many things how could you not know how much that I love you?” Money can’t buy love. He had no clue at all.

People will throw money around as a way to try to impress others then they get upset when that’s all people want from them. For me I don’t have to be rich to be happy money doesn’t control me. I thirst for the love from God almighty He will give me all my children and I need. Greed doesn’t hold a place with me. The best things in life are free yet they are priceless. It’s something to think about.

1 Timothy 6:10

For the love of money is root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.