This Time of Year

I always get sad
Around this time of year
It’s when my mother
Left from here
Let me make myself clear
When it comes to
The death of a love one
You never heal
It’s impossible to get over
Losing someone who
You held so near, so dear
To your heart
There are always
Things that remind you
That they are gone
A picture, a memory, a song
Holidays, birthdays
Every time I reached
An important moment in my life
I would whisper
This is for you mom
I often wonder
How things would be like
If she was here
What advice would
She have given me
To help to endure hardships
She was so strong
She was so courageous
She was a leader
She was a blessing
She was my hero
Which is why all
I ever wanted to do
Was to make her happy
And to see her smile
It’s still impossible
For me to talk about her
Without holding back my tears
Bottled up feelings
Resides inside even though
I live my life
As best as I can
Even after twenty-one years this Saturday
It’s still feels as if
She passed yesterday
This is why I say
If you have lost
A special someone
Don’t allow anyone
To make you feel
As if the grief process has a limit
To heck with that
Never feel bad about
Mourning the one you love
Or for missing them
The pain is for life
Death of a love one
Will always hurt

The Tears That We Cry

Yes we try to smile

But behind it

Lies a pain

That’s unbearable

And so very horrible

It’s when someone ┬áspecial dies

It causes so much hurt inside

No matter how much

Time goes by

Still feels like the day

That the person died

We miss them so much

Wishing that they

We’re still here on Earth

There will always be

A huge hole in our hearts

A band aid nor a first aid kit

Can not fix the damage

Still with God’s help

We try to manage to

Take it day by day

As long as we remember them

Thinking of all the good

That they have done

We can carry them in our hearts

All we can do is try

To understand God’s plan

Of who He chooses

To call home to Heaven

We have to trust

This will help us

Believing and knowing

That we will see them again

May God comfort us always

During our time of sorrow


Back Up Plan

The back up plan aka the rebound relationship. No one wants to be a victim of a rebound relationship. Love and basketball don’t go together I don’t care about the movie. The only rebound I want to know about is in the basketball game not in love. It makes a person look like a clown and clowns are for kids like Trix cereal. So let’s be an adult about adult situations after a break up feel the pain and reflect on what has happened. If the relationship hurt you let it burn like Usher. Relationships ends for various reasons two people were in it and both people big or small had a hand in the demise of it ending. It’s not cool to bring someone else into your life as a way to ease the pain. It’s okay to be single it doesn’t hurt it gives one a chance to work on oneself. Love is something that can’t be rushed so take it easy.



It’s so important to analyze the person that you are dealing with especially when the relationship is new. Make sure that they are over their ex there will be warning signs so don’t ignore them. They may talk about their ex all the time even in a negative light however they still are talking about them thus they are not I repeat not over them. Also be careful that you aren’t being used to make their ex jealous that’s also a sign that they still care for their ex. Yes it’s pretty pathetic for them to try to make a person jealous who didn’t care about them in the first place however people still do it. Growing up we’re taught to be a good sport that second place is okay. That being number one doesn’t matter please keep in mind that this doesn’t apply in relationships and marriages. No one deserves to be treated as something to do until the person who didn’t want them in the first place feels like being bothered. If the person valued them in the first place they wouldn’t have let them go. So don’t open yourself up to being hurt.


Keep this in mind always we deserve the best in our lives. Life is too short to be deprived or playing games with people.

Don’t be the appetizer

Be the main course

Don’t be the minor

Be the major

Don’t be the back up plan

Be the only plan

Because you are first choice

Don’t be someone’s right now love

Be someone’s lifetime love

Our hearts are valuable and fragile

Never allow loneliness or any type of circumstances to drive you into the arms where you don’t belong. The last thing you want is to be with the wrong one and miss out on the right one all because you didn’t want to be alone. Don’t be a rebound it makes you look like a clown and no one likes to be the butt of someone’s joke.